Life on the Swingset - The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast (swingset)

Dylan, Ryan, and Ginger invite Emma and Fin from Normalizing Non-monogamy onto the Swingset to discuss finding quality information about how to open your relationship. When getting started in consensual non-monogamy, it is easy to get overwhelmed by the volume of information available. This discussion includes strategies and advice for finding quality guidance, as well as more than a few cautionary tales.

 

 

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:33pm CDT

Ginger, Ryan, Dylan, and Cooper get together on Krazy Winter Nights 2020 eve, grab some Denny's, and … a convertrainwreck follows.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:58am CDT

Dylan and Ginger invite Lunabelle and Tikva, of Kimchi Cuddles, to talk parenting: what it is like to parent solo when you are polyamorous and what it's like to be solo polyamorous as a parent. Inspired by a listener question, the group dives deeper into the the practicalities and the the lived experience of parenting while open.

 

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Direct download: swingset370.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:54am CDT

Dylan, Tonia, Ginger, Ryan the Prof, and Lunabelle share their experiences with incorporating sex toys into play. The weird, the intimidating, the playful, and the practical, all have a place in the action if everyone is agreeable. The group talks about when things have gone awry and when the toys made play transcendent. Climb up on the Swingset for a sex toy story!

A special thank you to NorCalCouple916 for sending us your orgasm!

 

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Direct download: swingset369.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:32pm CDT

Bex Caputo and Kevin Patterson join Dylan and Ginger on the Swingset to give perspectives on some listener questions. From sharing you are polyamorous with your partner for the first time, to thoughts for an adventurous “unicorn,” to navigating group sex, these listeners asked and the Swingset answered.

And buy Kevin's fantastic new book, “For Hire: Audition.”

 

Question 1:

Lately I've come to terms with the fact that I identify as Bi-curious and polyamorous. I have also been in a monogamous relationship with my current partner and wife of 8 years. I've brought up that the fact that I'm interested in opening up our relationship, something she was at first intrigued by but now is very opposed to the idea.

She doesn't really understand how I can have feelings of love and attraction towards other people and still love and be attracted to her. Every time I bring it up she expresses that she feels hurt and is confused why, in her words, she is “not good enough”.

I've yet find a way to explain it in a way she can really understand my perspective. We honestly have a pretty decent relationship, pretty solid communication and a strong connection. At the same time I know in my heart that monogamy is not for me.

I love her and I really don't want to end it and at the same time I want the freedom to love, play with and experience other people. I also don't want to pressure her into doing something she really doesn't want to do. I apologize for the overshare but I'm just wondering if you have any suggestions or have run into this problem before?

 

Question 2:

I have a glorious opportunity to really explore my sensuality and expand my sexuality and. . . I don't know where to start.

At the end of 2018 My husband ended our 12 year marriage by finding another woman and fucking her behind my back. All he wanted was the typical cis straight male fantasy: FMF threesome but didn't want to go anywhere to find her.

Here's what I'm looking for- I really desire to explore my sexuality with men and maybe even women in a safe, open environment. Plus I really, really want sex again- it's been 4 freaking months already! I shy away from one night stands or just a quick wham bam. I'm definitely looking for more connection like progressive swinging but not ready for love at all yet.

I'm so confused (and scared to be honest). Do I:
Try swinging for the first time as a unicorn?
Try to find a best friend with benefits?
Go to a swingers club? Try a swinging site?
Just get on Tinder and hope for the best?

How do I keep myself safe as a single woman whether swinging or looking for sex?

 

Question 3:

My sexy wife and I really enjoy watching group sex/orgies at the club we go to and we are ready to take the next step. How in the world do we approach a group of undulating bodies to have sex with them. We are finally feeling confident enough, but have no idea what to do. Help us get in there!

 

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

 

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Direct download: swingset368.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:44am CDT

That Swingset mailbag we all know and love was getting pretty full of listener questions. And since there is always a swing available on the Swingset, Dylan and Ginger invited Bex Caputo and Kevin Patterson to share their wisdom. The foursome takes on questions about mono-polyam relationship sustainability, supporting your partner's dating life, and finds time to catch up about some awesome life updates.

And buy Kevin's fantastic new book, “For Hire: Audition.”

 

We answer a listener voicemail on internalized feelings of guilt and shame, then proceed to answer the following emailed in questions:

 

Question 1:

I am half of a swinging/polyamorous couple. I have a fantastic dating life and want my husband to too! For some reason, he won't put himself out there because he said he feel like a creeper. He is, I think, overly respectful in that he thinks the not cool “single guy” baggage applies to him and it just isn't true. How can I get him to get out there? He will make a woman or some women in addition to me very happy.

Question 2:

We have been open for two years and have recently decided to be polyamorous. My husband will be remaining monogamous, but I feel I am my truest self if I am polyamorous.

I have been in a friends with benefits type situation with someone I now have strong feelings for. He is monogamous and I am unsure if he would be willing to date me. How do I go about talking to him about this?

I guess my question is, is a mono-poly relationship sustainable?

 

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

 

 

Our Triad Sex Toys review of the Geeky Sex Toys' Dildek featured the song L O V E by ローマンRoman off the P A L M S ( D E L U X E ) album.

This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Direct download: swingset367.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:13pm CDT

Dylan, Tonia, Ryan the Prof, and Ginger fall into a few stolen moments on the eighth annual Swingset Takes Desire trip. With the sounds of the ocean and the hot tub in the background, they each take turns waxing philosophical about whatever topic seems to float through their paradise-addled minds. Not quite a bad cast, but close enough to earn the coveted Swingset chaos label. Kick back for a dose of dispatches from Desire.

 

 

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

 

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Direct download: Episode_364_-_Dispatches_From_Desire_Re-Issue.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:25am CDT

Join Dylan, Tonia, Ginger, Ryan (aka Prof), and the Swinger Doc as they storytell and anticipate the eighth Swingset Takes Desire trip. This annual bacchanal brings with it the excitement of anticipation (read: foreplay) and the exhilaration of dreams come true. As reminiscences morph into future possibilities, listen in as desires are laid bare. And really the desires laid bare are the best desires, wouldn't you say?

 

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

 

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Direct download: swingset363.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:12am CDT

Dylan, Tonia, Ginger, and Ryan (aka Prof) are excited to invite the Swinger Doc back onto the Swingset. As the Swinger Doc says, “Be safe but be sexy!” Stewarding your sexual health and deciding for yourself what risk aware means for you are facets of living in the consensually non-monogamous world. The crew discusses all manner of risk aware sex practices, resisting STI stigma, and helpful communication strategies to keep the sexy in risk aware sex.

The crew references the recent Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) report as referenced by CNN.

 

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

 

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Direct download: swingset362.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:08pm CDT

Dylan, Ginger, and Ryan present live in front of an audience at Naughty in N'awlins for part two of their panel, Sustaining Open Relationships through Life's Challenges. Not your typical swinger convention topic, the trio share their heartfelt stories about loss, health and medical trauma, and facing death. It's not often on the Swingset that the crew shares about such heavy and activating topics, so choose wisely when you cue up this episode, Swingsetters. Yet the vulnerability, rawness, and emotion are all a part of this life and therefore a part of open relationships. Listen as Dylan, Ginger, and Ryan share their perspectives and strategies for coping, getting your mojo back, and even thriving while healing and integrating traumatic life experiences.

We mentioned Andrew Gurza during the panel. You can find his work, both  the Disability After Dark podcast and his work as a Disability Awareness  Consultant at AndrewGurza.com, and you can find him twitter @theandrewgurza. If you run events than you should contact Andrew to learn how to offer accommodations for all your event attendees.

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Tristan Taormino is coming to Desire… are you? Join us from November 2nd through the 9th this 2019 for Life on the Swingset’s eighth trip to Desire! Visit swingsetdesire.com for more information!

 

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will get you invited to a private chat with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings, and listen to episodes commercial free, and with outtakes!

 

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

 

 

 

Our Triad Review segment includes music by ローマンRoman titled: L O V E, off the P A L M S ( D E L U X E ) album.

This track is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0) license.

Direct download: swingset361.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:05pm CDT