Life on the Swingset - The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast

Hazy insanity, that is all.

"It's like Goldschlager, you want to see the chunks."

"When I'm rubbing lube on your cock, I just want to, feel the chunks."

let me google that for you: pig penis

"Is Ginger now the other white meat?" - J.V.

Tom Ridge's Color Coding System for Swingset Podcasts "I've got a code brown."

Cooper's Leetspeak needs some help, thought "FTW" meant "fuck the world" #oldmancooper

"Obviously we are all down with OPP." "Other people's pork?" (Ginger wtf)

"I asked Gillian Anderson out... on twitter." - Ginger

"We did white privilege roleplay." - Miko

 

You can find this and other bedcasts at lifeontheswingset.com/whatthefuck

Dylan as Tom Cruise on Oprah's Couch lifeontheswingset.com/14993/ss-111-in-bed-with-the-swingset-ii-recorded-live-at-catalystcon-east/

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Join us on our trip to Desire in 2015, where we're going, we don't need clothes!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:43pm CDT

Humans have been having sex since the beginning of time. And from cave drawings to the Kama Sutra to The Joy of Sex, we have been inventing ways to communicate about the sex we are having. Then Al Gore invented the Internet and everything changed. Tonight we are excited to finally welcome esteemed sexologist, Dr Richard Wagner, also known as Dr. Dick, onto the Swingset to reflect on how technology and access to sexual information has shaped our ability to embody our most authentic sexual selves.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:57pm CDT

Girl on girl...the mythology and visual ecstasy live large from Spring Break to Bourbon Street. Girl on girl sex is worthy of being epic. And certainly deserves more respect than main stream culture affords. Girl sex can perhaps be a little less obvious, though no less delicious. We are excited to welcome Allison Moon, author of Girl Sex 101 to episode 201 of Life on the Swingset.

Scott Adams had something to say about monogamy this week.

 

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Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Join us on our trip to Desire in 2015, where we're going, we don't need clothes!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

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Direct download: ss201.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:57pm CDT

In two hundred episodes of Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we've seen ethical non-monogamy go from something whispered about into something that's getting cover articles in major publications. The entire idea of alternate relationships, sexual arrangements, and partnering is having a moment. Tonight, we're thrilled to have, as our guest, Dan Savage who, whether he likes it or not, is a sort of a Podfather to our little podcast, as the vicarious thrills we got from listening to people with very sexy lives helped shape at least my interest in exploring lifestyles. 

 

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Join us on our trip to Desire in 2015, where we're going, we don't need clothes!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 6:42am CDT

All of us living life on the Swingset are well-versed in the passion, communication, and negotiation being consensually non-monogamous requires. Yet it's rare to see our kinds of relationships portrayed in mainstream films. One such film about to be released is Marriage 2.0 written and produced by Magnus Sullivan. In Magnus's movie, we are (quote) "invited to celebrate a modern redefinition of the committed relationship...where unfettered physical and emotional intimacy can fuel our passion while strengthening the bond with those we love." Tonight we have Magnus Sullivan join us on the Swingset to talk relationships and the role movies can play in reinventing relationships.

You can find Marriage 2.0’s Twitter account here!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

 

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:49pm CDT

We've talked at length about the sad fact that many young people in america get the entirety of their sex ed from watching porn. When porn comes that's actually designed to educate, however, it can be revelatory. We're rejoined by old friend (and new Swingset.FM contributor) Sophie Delancey from The Art of Blowjob and the brand new Art of Cunnilingus to talk about art, educational porn, and oral sex!

Rachel Kramer Bussel wrote an article Salon.com published recently on cunnilingus.

 

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

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Direct download: swingset198.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:32am CDT

Those of us who write about sex and speak about sex and sing about sex have stepped into a unique realm in our society. Where sex was always a hush hush don't talk about it subject, we've decided to podcast, and write, and write songs, and express our sexuality into the world for many different reasons. Rachel Lark, who wrote those awesome naughty Christmas songs a few episodes ago, has joined us to talk about sexual expression, play a few songs, and have a good time.

 

 

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Direct download: swingset197.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:56am CDT

Cooper, Dylan, and Miko return to Milwaukee, Wisconsin's wonderful Tool Shed to reprise Swingset's discussion on play parties.

They’re whispered about, opinions are drawn, expectations are high for both attendees and non. The sex party, the play party, the swinger party, call it what you will, to anyone who’s never been to one they conjure up visions of hedonistic abandon, or deeply creepy masked affairs. With so many people looking to explore their sexuality and needing a safe place to do so, play parties have value far beyond a whole bunch of naked people in a room. They can educate as well as titillate. So that's what we're here to talk about today.

Direct download: ss196.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:09pm CDT

In our Swinging for Dummies Series thus far, we've taken you through deciding you're open, talking to your partner, setting up your profile, and going on a first date. We think you're ready for the meat of the course now: Threesomes! We discuss the ever-present acronyms fmf, mfm, mmf, different configurations and play styles, thinking about the new person as a sex toy, an other, or as an honored guest, playing as the single and of course... negotiating threesomes, communication, when threesomes go bad and when threesomes go great!

 

 

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

 

Direct download: swingset195.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:14am CDT

The Swingset welcomes back Crista Anne to discuss her recent commitment to herself; to find a path back to self-orgasm through once a day masturbation. Through her very personal and public #OrgasmQuest Crista is documenting her navigation through life-long depression, antidepressants, self-care, living and loving life and parenting and today she shares it all with us, and we share our stories with her.

 

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Direct download: swingset194.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:06am CDT

Our mailbag, full of pluck and fancy, keeps coming back with more questions for us to ponder and maybe even eventualy answer! Today we discuss swinging as parents of very young children, broken rules and people set off-limits, multiple male orgasms and never fail erections, "Poly Doesn't Work", what to do when finding out the local neighborhood teenager knows, and finding lust in Minnesota.

We also take a mid-episode break and cut to the Savage Lovecast hosted by Dan Savage where Cooper chimes in for a question about swinging. You can find the full episode (Cooper is on the Full Magnum episode) at: http://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/430#.VL-peyvF98E

 

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Direct download: swingset193.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:08am CDT

It's a new year and there are new questions in the mailbag, even a few voicemails! Tonight on Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we gang bang the mailbag as this series turns 18. We discuss some newbie swinger questions in a lightning round style segment, post sti-transmission risk-aware sex and stigma, imbalances in attraction in coupling, and dirty talk!

 

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Direct download: swingset192.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:45pm CDT

Ginger sits down with Cooper for a one-on-one discussion of his book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory, recorded on the day of launch.

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Direct download: ss191.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:27pm CDT

Consent shouldn't be something we have to teach, It's the simplest thing in the world, ask before you touch. But beyond that, consent is involved in so many aspects of our non-monogamous lives, that learning how to give and receive enthusiastic consent is one of the most important things we learn early on as we open up. So that's what we're talking about tonight on Life on the Swingset, The Podcast.

 

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Direct download: swingset190.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:16am CDT

We look back at 2014, what was a year of aggressive expansion for The Swingset, to talk about Desire, going to conferences, teaching classes, getting married, using new dildos like the awesome Tantus Echo Handle, writing books, and more in our annual year-end wrap-up.

Direct download: ss189.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:11pm CDT

In an episode that has been attempted every year since the beginning, we reflect on days of non-monogamy gone by, talking about our bloopers and issues and funny times and sad times, and recognize all the oddities that come from early days in swinging and polyamory. We're also thrilled to present two holiday songs by the incomparable Rachel Lark off her new album Hung For The Holidays, as well as an audio excerpt from Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset coming to Kindle on January 6th.

Direct download: swingset188.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:03pm CDT

As a lifestyle that is outside the mainstream, ethical non-monogamy tends to attract humans who are outside the mainstream. This certainly goes for the men...men who treat women as equals...men who are self-aware, respectful, and are cognizant of the power they hold in the world. Tonight on Life on The Swingset: The Podcast, we will hear from four of those men about how they navigate their relationships, address the ethical questions they face, and have as much fun as possible in the process. They'll discuss consent navigation, their progression from past to present, slut shaming, relating to women on a day to day basis, communicating the lifestyle to people who don't understand, encountering possessiveness among other men and their partners and discussing the mythology that men always want sex. everywhere. all the time.

 

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Join us November 7th through the 15th for The Swingset Takes Desire 2015 because where we're going... we don't need clothes.

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

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Pre-Order Cooper's first book My Life on the Swingset, it's great! Don't take our word for it, take Good Vibrations executive VP Jackie Strano's -  "Cooper Beckett goes old school gonzo in My Life On the Swingset as your tour guide of non-monogamy in this delightful and playful romp of a read. Fear & Loathing meets On The Road as Cooper gives you first hand debaucherous details about his trials and tribulations and ecstatic moments of exploration in the swinger lifestyle. Defining NRE, prostate orgasm, sexy safe sex, and basic etiquette while telling a charming story is not easy but this recovering Catholic boy gives it his gusto and the book is helpful as well as entertaining."

Direct download: swingset187.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:43am CDT

When the topic of sexual shame comes up, nowhere is it greater than the institutionalized shame heaped upon the women of the world, asked to be both hypersexual and aesexual simultaneously. Tonight we're re-joined by our friend Lady Cheeky, Elle Chase, who is featured in upcoming documentary "Inside Her Sex" exploring female sexuality and shame.

* Editor's note: We had minor technical difficulties near the end of the episode. We lost Elle near the end so while we said goodbye to her... we promise she said goodbye back.

...and flirted back with Dylan.

he swears. by the moon. and the stars. and the sun.

 


Check out Elle Chase's websites. For porn head to Lady Cheeky, for education Smut for Smarties, to hire Elle, check out her professional site, and her new LA Academy of Sex Education!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

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Direct download: swingset186.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:21am CDT

Heidi and Danny from the Swingin' Around podcast take Cooper aside for a little chat in the heart of paradise and discuss their experiences during their second visit to the resort. They talk massages, non-consensual choking, hot tubs, Cooper getting married, getting naked and all in all have a great time!

 

Join us in Mexico next year for Swingset Takes Desire 2015!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

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Direct download: swingset185.mp3
Category:SSDesire -- posted at: 4:02pm CDT

We took time out of our very hard and busy work schedules in Desire to record a discussion with JV and Shara of Ending the Sexual Dark Age as well as a couple dozen other sexy naked people, We discuss what Desire means to us, what having places where we can be our authentic selves means and about creating those spaces wherever, whenever, and with whoever we can. We hear from people about getting comfortably naked for the first time in front of other people and we hear about why we will always come back.

We also talk about having a LOT of sex

 

Join us in Mexico next year for Swingset Takes Desire 2015!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

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Direct download: swingset184.mp3
Category:SSDesire -- posted at: 6:25pm CDT

Ginger, Professor, Miko, Ronin, Ophilia, and Cooper are out of the office this week. They've jet off to paradise in Mexico at Desire Resort and Spa for the third annual Life on the Swingset Takes Desire. With 160 people along for the ride, they've spent a week of hedonism, debauchery, and drunkenness that would make the Rolling Stones sit back and take note. On Thursday of their week long trip, they sat down to talk with a live audience of friends and lovers, and do a live podcast.

 

This is the result.

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Category:SSDesire -- posted at: 8:01am CDT

We've talked and talked about awesome sex toys are, the tremendous advancements in the field, the glory of stainless steel and silicone, body safe and body conscious products. You know all of that. So, today we're gonna talk about the flip side. The worst sex toys in the woooooorld!

#SuchKeithOlbermannMuchClass

Crista Anne of Dildology joins us as well as the Redhead Beadhead, JoEllen Notte!

Also... the Minnesota Roller Girls have the best sports mascot. Period.

MInne-Sorta_Nice-3119

 

 

 

 

 

 

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:04am CDT

We at the Swingset are not wealthy. Despite what some may think, we don't make a fabulous living delivering a free podcast to you folks week after week. Despite that, though, we can afford to go to the occasional party, take the occasional (yearly) trip to Desire, sign up for paying sites. Or at least these ideas aren't incredibly foreign to us. On this episode we talk about how to "do" non monogamy on a budget, and how to make that time count.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:07pm CDT

Asked and Answered Swingsetters!

We discuss downgrading swing relationships, unexpected kissing jealousy, bi-threesome issues, partners backing out, theoretical jealousy, silicone lube on silicone toys and the most basic of questions... "How do I bring up swinging to my partner?" to which one of our answers is "Never with surprise swinging."

 

Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:48pm CDT

Sweet Gang Bang Sixteen!

We've taken your questions and answered them on air! We discuss a single poly woman dating a monogamous guy, being new and a virgin in non-monogamy, coming out as polyamorous to your family, talking to our children, jealousy, and navigating poly relationships when unprotected sex happens.

 

Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Direct download: swingset179.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:19am CDT

Cooper super-sizes his Swinging Primer, as you do when you're teaching in LA. 

 

Class description:

"Cooper Beckett, from the podcast Life on the Swingset, takes you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, covering jealousy, safer sex practices, communication and more. Whether you're brand new to swinging, been doing it for years, or just fascinated by the idea, there's something here for everyone."

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:32am CDT

Tonight we discuss erotica, writing it, reading it, tweeting it, living it with our guest Rachel Kramer Bussel. We discuss Rachel's extensive history in both writing and editing erotica, where erotica fits in every day life, expression, fiction, and reality in erotica, written vs. spoken vs. digital, how erotica lives with other forms of erotic material, and how erotica uniquely forces us to open our minds and our senses to truly get the most out of it.

 

Tweet along with tonight's episode using #ssliveish !

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:28pm CDT

There is much to say about this recording. And also very little. You see it sits in a portion of our minds, like it sits behind a drop of water, but who are we kidding, it sits behind drink. The foul stuff that has put us in a very boisterous mood to say the least. To say the very least. It isn't long before everything breaks down. The center simply CANNOT hold. And you get this. You are presented with this. It's a good thing, I think, that our past two episode have been of highest quality. Because this? This is a bedcast.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:26am CDT

Life on the Swingset returns to CatalystCon West for a live podcast about group sex

You know that one thing you can do outside monogamy that you can’t do within? You can have group sex. That’s right, many people getting naked and sexy together. That’s how the non-monogamous do. So today, for our very first live podcast (which is only a mild distinction from panel) we are talking about that whole thing that makes us different than the monos, group sex.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:33pm CDT

Life on the Swingset returns to CatalystCon West for a panel discussion about throwing and attending a play party.

They’re whispered about, opinions are drawn, expectations are high for both attendees and non. The sex party, the play party, the swinger party, call it what you will, to anyone who’s never been to one they conjure up visions of hedonistic abandon, or deeply creepy masked affairs. With so many people looking to explore their sexuality and needing a safe place to do so, play parties have value far beyond a whole bunch of naked people in a room. They can educate as well as titillate. So that's what we're here to talk about today.

Direct download: swingset174v2.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:20pm CDT

Emotional scars, physical scars, both can wreak havoc on your emotional state and body image, especially when you feel different than before. Earlier this year Ginger took a hiatus from the Swingset for a body change, and tonight we're talking about why.

 

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Join us at CatalystCon West September 11-14 - use the promo code SWINGSET to save $10 off your pass!

Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Direct download: swingset173.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 6:14pm CDT

The two most non-"how do I start swinging" questions we get on the Swingset is how do you organize your sex toys and how do you travel with sex toy, so we go in depth with advice and suggestions on what to do with your growing piles of sexy at your own house and on the road.

Direct download: swingset172.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:50am CDT

Jean Franzblau, speaker, writer and performer of the one woman show "Coming Out Kinky: A Grown Up Comedy" joins us for a discussion of her show as well as a performed excerpt, and a discussion on being kinky in general and what it means to show that to the world.

Direct download: swingset171.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:11pm CDT

After the explosive finale of last March's CatalystCon East, we bring Dee Dennis back on the show to discuss how hard it often is to get a dialog going about sex without having dissent everywhere. We try to parse the value of community vs being snarky, and Cooper drops the shocking revelation that sometimes he is controversial.

Direct download: swingset170a.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:53am CDT

It's bizarro world and Life on the Swingset is going FULL SWAP. The Professor hosts this round table discussion featuring the partners of the Swingset, Ophilia Tesla, Tonia Thomas, and Ronin Technogeisha. They discuss being behind the scenes, putting up with the Swingset, their experience in the lifestyle, their desires and hopes, and quickly run out of time.  

Direct download: swingset169.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:50am CDT

We're all evangelists for our lifestyles. We're not trying to convince people to try it out, we're there to offer our own experiences, to story tell, to educate when people ask for more information, and when people are ready to hop in, at least for us swingers, we all seem to make the same mistake. "Also, women run the lifestyle!"

We unpack the sentiment, the history, and the reality behind the statement and the contention that the lifestyle is female run in swinging in tonight's podcast.

 

 

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Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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Direct download: swingset168.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:22am CDT

A couple months ago we tackled the topic of flirting, and how it's rather essential to sexy interaction, rather exponentially expanded for non-monogamy. Tonight on Life on the Swingset: The Podcast we're going to turn that flirty talk into sexy talk and discuss talking dirty: how, when, why, and what's too much.

We also take the time to answer an extended listener voicemail about equal rights, gay marriage, and the civil rights movement.

 

Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Direct download: swingset167.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:56pm CDT

Another day, another gang bang of the old (and now thoroughly satisfied) mailbag. 

We get a response from a listener about our DP episode, as well as an eye opening picture (which we refuse to share!) We discuss speaking up in the moment, solo cheating males, unicorns, girl girl only play, the one penis policy, stretch marks, and bad swinging experiences.

 

Direct download: swingset166.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:19am CDT

We're back, and we gang bang the ever willing mailbag fillled with your questions!

We talk about chasing the white whale, a potential fluid bonding statute of limitations, cold sores (hsv1) and kissing protocol, and swinging & fairness. Dylan also talks about the "unfuckables".

 

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Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Direct download: swingset165.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:04pm CDT

In many ways, swinging is a lot like regular online dating, searching through profiles, reaching out via email. In one way, it's not so much. Naked pictures. Oh, sure, regular online dating involves a lot of naked pictures these days too, but it's rare that you see someone naked BEFORE you decide to contact them. The value of good naked pics on a swinger profile is very high, and so tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast, we're talking about taking them, and posing for them, and we're joined by the amazing Elle Chase, the Lady Cheeky who has been distracting us with her wonderfully curated porn tumblr for years.

We talk about why many swing profiles don't have photos of men on them and when they do, they're just cock pics! We talk about body image issues, privacy / online photo issues, being prudish on camera, and what if any responsibility we have after a breakup relating to nude photos.

 

Check out Elle Chase's websites. For porn head to Lady Cheeky, for education Smut for Smarties, to hire Elle, check out her professional site, and her new LA Academy of Sex Education!

Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get your kink on with a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out the Sex & Mischief line with The Silky Rope Kit, Silky Sash Restraints, The Solid Ball Gag, and The Spread the Love Bar!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

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Direct download: swingset164.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:49am CDT

Tonight on Life on the Swingset, The Podcast, we’re going back to basics for another episode of Swinging For Dummies.

In the series thus far we’ve talked about realizing you’re interested in non-monogamy, talking to your partner, group sex, sexy vacations, and swinging websites. But how about that ever important first date. How to prepare, how to engage, how to transition to playtime, and how to make sure there’s a second date.

 

Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out the AMAZING nJoy Pure Wand to stimulate your gspot or prostate, or a friend's!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

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Direct download: swingset163.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:22pm CDT

We're all well aware of the risks inherent with sex, and we don't always like to use those barriers that keep us safe. From gloves and dental dams to the almighty condom, eroticizing barriers is what helps make them part of our sexuality and safety instead of "this thing we have to do." Tonight we're joined by Melissa White, CEO of our favorite online condom company Lucky Bloke to talk about how to make safer sex sexier.

 

Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out Lelo Ella and combine it with condoms to explore both sides of this wonderful toy!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

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Direct download: swingset162.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:44pm CDT

Here at Life on the Swingset we've had our own little sexual evolutions and those evolutions haven't gone unnoticed. Today, JV and Shara from the Ending the Sexual Dark Age podcast to pose to us a few questions both their audience, and they have been wondering about.

 

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Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

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Direct download: swingset161.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:14am CDT

I has been a while since anyone here on the Swingset could consider themselves "new to this" but it behooves us to every once in a while put ourselves back into that new and nervous state, where everything was the first time, and we were discovering as we go. We don't have a lot of great models of healthy non-monogamy these days. Learning to advocate for our partners and ourselves, figuring out what we want and how to ask for it, learning the difference between a request, an offer, and an invitation, and all in all... having fun, is what we talk about today.

Marcia Maczynski joins us today, you can check her out at all her delicious urls, successfulnonmonogamy.com, askingforwhatyouwant.com, and goodgirlrecovery.com!

Also, Blokus is a wonderful game and you should absolutely buy it from Amazon here!

 

Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out The Ethical Slut and Opening Up!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

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Direct download: swingset160.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:23am CDT

Flirting is perhaps the most important aspect of beginning any romantic and sexual relationship. As Swingers you really need to be on top of your flirting. Since we meet so many people in non-monogamy, how do we know when to start flirting, and how do we make it work for us? We're including this as an unofficial companion to our "Swinging for Dummies" series since it just feels right, so take a listen and hear about how to get new interactions going, with the flirt, and with our friend Reid Mihalko!

Also... for what the defintion of "is" is...

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Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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Direct download: swingset159.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:25pm CDT

Cooper does a one man show Primer on Swinging recorded live at <a href="http://thepleasurechest.com/chicago_hours.htm">The Pleasure Chest in Chicago</a>. All audience questions have been replaced by the dulcet tones of our own Dylan Thomas for their protection, and also for the amusement of our listeners.

 

Class description:

"Cooper Beckett, from the podcast Life on the Swingset, takes you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, covering jealousy, safer sex practices, communication and more. Whether you're brand new to swinging, been doing it for years, or just fascinated by the idea, there's something here for everyone."

Direct download: swingset158.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:47pm CDT

When as adults we don't know what's going on with our sexuality, it can most often be chalked up to a lack of education. Education about risk, sure, but also education about the awesome things sex can bring. One woman looking to combat in a big way this lack of education is Megan Andelloux who speaks on an amazing variety of sexuality related topics at colleges across the nation.

We discuss abstinence only education, glbtq awareness, sexual fluidity and identity, safer and risk aware sex, and the perils of teaching newly minted adults about the basics of biology and orgasm.

 

Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out the Guide to Getting it on by Paul Joannides!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

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Direct download: swingset157.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 4:10pm CDT

We still tend to treat the single male swinger as a problem, a pariah, when we host parties we wonder how to limit unpartnered male responses, we tense up at larger events where the male to female ratio may be wildly unbalanced, we are constantly on the lookout for the creep, the man who doesn't take no well, the recluse.

 

But really. What the fuck?

 

We're all just people, and we all just like to fuck, and when it comes down to it, we all know single men that have brought great joy, and great orgasms to many of ours or our partners' lives and really... that's what matters.

 

We take some time to deconstruct the single male swinger.

Direct download: swingset156.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 4:55pm CDT

Handjobs and Fingering! 

Now that we have your attention, we want everyone to remember that there's lots of pleasure to be hand through the wonders of the partnered manual stimulation of someone's genitals with fingers! Now that you're obviously terribly turned on, take a listen and you'll hear us setting a solid definition of what counts as a handjob and a discussion on different terms and euphemisms for it, talking about how to give and receive risk aware handjobs, and talk about why we'd even bother giving handjobs when we can put penises in peoples' vaginas!

Pay extra attention, Ginger and Dylan give particularly... "riveting" instructions on how to approach playing with women and their vulvas. It's good stuff.

Dylan also realizes he's been confusing edging with edge play... He also confuses "hominem" with "onomatopoeia" so please excuse him.

Direct download: swingset155.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 4:55pm CDT

We took and answered a question about erections, specifically that even after obtaining a prescription for viagra that a gentlemen still experiences trouble while swinging and that it's resulted in less return couples than he and his wife are happy with; Ginger is a big fan of people getting what they need, Cooper and Dylan relay their experiences and strategies about expectations and Miko really just lays down the law and says "it doesn't matter". We continue on with a conversation about gossip and cliques forming in a previously sexy and fun private online swinging group, dealing with high school level drama where Ginger suggests strongly stepping up as a leader and rebuilding the group with an ethos of inclusion. We close with a conversation about attraction and body types at a swing club, with Dylan chiming in about bodies being conduits to pleasure.

We also call out Lady Cheeky for execution of the longest and most successful sustained campaign against the Swingset's concentration and ability to podcast ever, including highlights such as #madtitties and flirting with Dylan. You can also find her at SmutForSmarties.com.

Direct download: swingset154.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:57pm CDT

Today we stick all our collective hands into our mailbag and pull your questions out! We're back for our twelve attempt at Gang Banging the Mailbag!

We tackle questions about the black ring right handmovement, about discovering people you work with on swinger sites, on playing spontaneously with STIs, on attempting to open up after cheating, on judging people based on looks, and on swinging as a single male. Enjoy!

Direct download: swingset153.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:09am CDT

Today, we discuss double penetration, double vaginal penetration, and double anal penetration, and not just the acts themselves. The act of any sort of double penetration requires thoughtfulness, planning, collaboration, communication, really just enhanced versions of all the skills we learned via trial by fire while finding our own ways into non-monogamy. As DP really is "professional grade" fucking we break it down into the basics, positions, risk-aware practices and being mindful of condom on condom friction, maintaining sufficient erections, being comfortable touching cocks, and we move onto how great it feels and how in the moment it can be easy to lose focus.

Direct download: swingset152.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:54am CDT

Sabrina Morgan is a tireless advocate for sex workers’ rights and education on sex work. Having experience as a sex worker herself, as well as practicing ethical non-monogamy presents its own unique set of challenges when navigating relationships, and she’s here to talk to us about that. We also answer the age old question "Has Cooper been anally fisted?"

Direct download: swingset151.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:46am CDT

Shame, it creeps up on us, sometimes out of nowhere and sometimes as a slow buildup but it can affect our sexuality in ways we don't expect and don't want. Sometimes tackling shame head on helps, sometimes not addressing it at all helps, but shame when tied in to the wonderful world of non-monogamy can be complex and disconcerting to your multiple partners. Charlie Glickman joins us to help sort out the why, the how, the what, and ways we can process and deal with shame in thoughtful and effective ways so we can get back to doing what most of us really want to do... fucking multiple partners.

We hit some major points along the discussion. Using the word should implies shame, it implies judgment, that I know better than you. When we react to shame it reinforces that shame. Keep heavy conversations and fights out of the bedroom. Also keep televisions and smartphones out of the bedroom. Go for a walk together instead, being side by side can disarm adversarial feelings that can creep up from being face to face, aka: Ginger's "side to side not nose to nose" philosophy. 

Resources on exploring shame:

Sharon Ellison: Taking the War Out of our Words

Pema Chödrön: Getting Unstuck

Brené Brown

 

We always recommend Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian's "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure" , a great way to carry condoms with you for safer sexy time. Get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout.

We also name check Tristan Taormino's Rough Sex through Ginger's adoration of a scene with Sasha Grey.

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

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Comments? Complaints? Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers; Search for SS 150, or (if you must) click here!

Direct download: swingset150.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:12am CDT

How do you handle new relationships now that you’re non-monogamous? It’s like turning a cruise ship around, climbing a mountain, and a myriad of other metaphors. We have long talked about taking your relationship from a place of monogamy to a place of non-monogamy. How to take something that is already defined and do a full on paradigm shift with it, transforming it into something altogether new, exciting, and scary. We have not, really, discussed what it’s like for those of us who are beginning a new relationship with the non-monogamy in place, and what it’s like to design and define the parameters and concepts of a new relationship. This is Life on the Swingset’s 4th anniversary! Happy Birthday Swingset podcast! You’re all grownsed up!

Direct download: swingset149v2.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:12pm CDT

Pegging:

The act of a female giving anal sex to a male using a strap-on.

Some couples enjoy the power reversal of this and some guys simply just like it up the arse. How do we do it? What are the right tools for the job? Does it actually feel good? I'm a straight guy, will pegging make me gay? Lyndzi Miller (@Lyndzi), Tool Shed staff member and sexuality educator, and Cooper answer these questions and cover the basics of pegging, a sexual activity that is quickly gaining popularity. They'll also talk about safety, male anatomy and the health benefits of being pegged. Yes guys, that's right. Taking it in the boot is actually good for you!

Audience questions are overdubbed to protect privacy. Audience members asked about exercises women can do to better build up those pegging muscles, techniques when using harness-less toys, prostate orgasm position and technique, and harness maintenance.

 

Send us a note at contact@lifeontheswingset.com! We're also looking for social media and seo assistance so let us know if you've got the skills and the time to help! Tell us about your experiences with pegging at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464) or send us an e-mail.

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14? 

Comments? Complaints? Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers; Search for SS148 or pegging or visit via direct link here!

 

Direct download: swingset148.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:14pm CDT

Masturbation is awesome, isn’t it?

Sex for two, few would argue, is even better. Threesomes are roundly considered to be one of the epitome’s of the sexual experience. Let’s add a few more to that, shake it right up, and create something spectacular. A writhing mass of sexy, everywhere you look people giving or receiving pleasure. Tonight we talk about that wonder of wonders, that glory of glories, the orgy.

Cooper will be joining Lyndzi Miller (@Lyndzi) up in Milwaukee at The Tool Shed: An Erotic Boutique for a workshop, Take it Like a Man: An introduction to pegging! Join them on February 21st, 2014 and buy tickets fast!

 

Send us (or The Professor) a note at profcomevisitme@lifeontheswingset.com! We're also looking for social media and seo assistance so let us know if you've got the skills and the time to help! We also want to hear about your first, last, best, or worst orgy stories to call us at at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464) or send us an e-mail.

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Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14? 

Comments? Complaints? Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers; Search for SS147, or visit via direct link here!

Direct download: swingset147.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:16am CDT

Swing With Friends!

... except sometimes the distance between those friends is enough to qualify the trip as more of a sexcation instead of a normal date. Whether because we live in less populated areas or because we've struck up online flirtations, sometimes you have people you just want to reach out and touch, but have to drive or fly for a few hours to do so. Doing this sets up a whole list of different but parallel challenges, and rewards, to the normal swing encounter, and that's what w discuss tonight.

The hosts of the Erotic Awakening podcast put together a midwestern polyamory summit called Beyond the Love that we name checked during the episode. Host a sexy conference in the midwest and you'll have our love and adoration forever! Also...w e apologize for calling it "share the love", in the moment Dylan forgot how to brain. He may have been thinking about the Tonia being interested in a gangbang.


Contact us about anything at contact@lifeontheswingset.com! You can find us on twitter at @swingsetlife@technogeisha@dylan_swingset, and @gingerntheprof!

Send us your sexy orgasmic voicemails at 573-55-SWING, that's 573-557-9464!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14? 

Comments? Complaints? Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers; We'll have our comment thread up later today and will let you know via Twitter and Facebook!

... by the way, while Climax, MI -is- along I-69, the exit Dylan discussed was actually along I-94 and you can view the Google Streetview image of it here. :)

Direct download: swingset146.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:12am CDT

Sex is awesome.

We’re all on board with that, right?

Beyond the act, er, acts, for many of us (in fact I’d wager a large percentage of our listeners) getting information about sex carries with it its own form of titillation and enjoyment. That’s the purview of the sex geek. Tonight we’re lucky enough to be joined by Kate McCombs who has turned geeking out about sex into an art form, and into her life.

In business, we touched on Kiss a Ginger day and on Technogeisha and Dylan heading to Catalyst East from March 14-16 to be fan boys and fan girls.

Also, if you must know... here is information on echidna penis.

[technical note] from Dylan: We have both a very simple process for recording our podcasts (Skype), and a slightly more complicated process (individual audio streams recorded locally) to give us better audio and to eliminate single points of failure resulting in the total loss of an episode. During the record of this episode we experience two failures significant enough that the release audio quality is not up to par, we ended up with two local audio feeds that had significant amounts of noise and feedback and had an audio feed send audio right back into the skype stream resulting in a rougher than usual sounding episode. I apologize for the audio in some parts and I'm doing my best to make sure it doesn't happen again.[/technical note]

 

You can find Kate McCombs at SexGeekdom.com and on twitter at @KateCom!

Contact us about anything at contact@lifeontheswingset.com! You can find us on twitter at @swingsetlife, @technogeisha, @dylan_swingset, and @gingerntheprof!

Send us your sexy orgasmic voicemails at 573-55-SWING, that's 573-557-9464!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14? 

Comments? Complaints? Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers; search for SS 145 or visit via direct link here!

Direct download: swingset145.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:00am CDT

We all want to be "on".

We carve out the time, spend some money, clean up the house, groom our fun areas, and make the arrangements with the people we want to see. Sometimes as "the time" gets closer we realize... we're not really up to the task, and while there's still a good time be had we may not be interested in sealing the deal.

We discuss dry spells, lulls in desire, varying levels of intensity in interest, today... it's all about libido, how to deal with it when it wanes, and how to try to bring it back.

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14? 

Contact us at sufferinsuccotash@lifeontheswingset.com or primingthepump@lifeontheswingset.com, you know... whatever tickles your fancy.

Send us your sexy orgasmic voicemails at 573-55-SWING, that's 573-557-9464!

Hey, those awesome gender pronoun "Hello, My name is ___" stickers can be found at Storenvy here!

Comments? Complaints? Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers to let us know what's on your mind! Search for Comments for SS 144: The Ebb and Flow of Libido and its Effect on Swinging and Polyamory or via a direct link!

 

Direct download: swingset144.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:39am CDT

Happy New Year everyone!

2013 was a year filled with pain, regret, and some amazing time spend with wonderful people, fans, and at fantastic venues and conventions. 2014 is on course to be a much better year for those of us on the Swingset. We all got together (Cooper, Dylan,  Shira, and Miko) to discuss our hopes and our projects for this new year. Dylan seems to spout out a new resolution every five minutes, between hitting the clubs more, getting larger Chicago based groups of people together for club takeovers and discussion groups and *gasp* potlucks, he also asks that everyone contribute clips of the show to us so we can put together a Simpsons style episode 138 spectacular! Shira discusses wanting to better date women and offers that us swingers will be demanding gluten free meals soon. Miko wants to get her swing on more and all in all create more space and time to enjoy people. Cooper's cracking the whip and preparing everyone to write books and more importantly to him, step back from his efforts to develop polyamorous relationships and to better enjoy the wonderful world of swinging.

He's coming back home people. :)

We also have wonderful guests lined up for this year, between Charlie Glickman, Dr Antionette Izzo, Kate McCombs, Epiphora, Redhead Bedhead, and more... things really are looking up for the swingset!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14? 

Contact us at dylansprops@lifeontheswingset.com so we can put together a clipshow based on your submissions!

Send us your sexy orgasmic voicemails at 573-55-SWING, that's 573-557-9464!

Comments? Complaints? Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers to let us know what's on your mind! Search for Comments for SS 143: Swinging and Polyamory Resolutions for 2014 or via direct link here!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:47am CDT

We had a pretty rough year on the Swingset. We had some wonderful ups, speaking at two major sex-positive conferences about Progressive Swinging, giving a "Swinging 101" seminar at the Tool Shed in Milwaukee, WI, hosting a second trip to Desire: Riviera Maya, and had some terrible lows; divorce and relationship drama, family issues, and extreme time constraints.

We decided to have a nice little end of the year chat. We've traveled and spoken so much this year, experienced so many beautiful people, endured intolerable amounts of grief, and come out of it looking forward to 2014. We give a little summary of some of the sexy events we've attended, laugh at The Professor for breaking the cardinal rule of hot tubs, and commiserate about the year a bit.

We're also saying goodbye to Ginger for the next few months, we'll miss her and we look forward to her rejoining our little group.

See you all in 2014!

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Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14? 

Contact us at whateverthehellyouwant@lifeontheswingset.com. Cooper likes e-mail.

Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers to comment, complain, debate, or help us commiserate! Search for SS142: Looking Back at 2013, Welcoming 2014 - New Years Closer or visit via direct link!

Direct download: swingset142.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:25pm CDT

This is Part 2 of my accidental roundtable discussion put together in the seaside room of one of our guests at Desire - Riviera Maya.

We continue the discussion about bi-women, mansplaining, and puppeteering, and move into non-monogamy identifiers and why they were useful, but taking some time to talk with other people in a room is much more useful. We end our discussion with giving the reasons we came and why we'll keep coming back.

Then the frisco community brings up possibilities of a swingset commune. 

Oh boy.

Interested in commenting or discussing this week's episode? Visit Reddit's /r/Swingers and search for SS141: Dylan Hosts a Roundtable Discussion in Paradise - Part 2 - Live from Desire Resport & Spa Cancun

Didn't hear Part 1? Check it out at SS 140: Dylan Hosts a Roundtable Discussion in Paradise - Part 1 - Live from Desire Resort & Spa Cancun!

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Contact us at commune@lifeontheswingset.com. Let us know when you're ready to raise chickens with the rest of us.

 

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Category:SSDesire -- posted at: 2:03pm CDT

Dylan had an idea. He thought it'd be a great idea to sit down, two on one with couples while at Desire and interview them, ask questions about how their vacation was going, get some decent soundbites, and enjoy the calm warmth of good discussion and good company.

This was anything but calm.

What began as a simple interview turned into a roundtable (dildohead) discussion where no topic found itself out of bounds, we discussed single male swingers, the trials and tribulations of dating as a bi-woman seeking another bi or gay woman, connecting with others and how Desire compares with a swinger club or a house party, many more items came up. The discussion lasts longer than we had for this episode so make sure to catch next week's episode for Part 2.

... I should totally do this more often.

 

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Category:SSDesire -- posted at: 4:54pm CDT

Midway through Life on the Swingset's second annual trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun, Dylan, Ginger, & Cooper sat down with many of the tour guests to record a silly podcast reflecting on the trip so far, and what lifestyle vacations can be. There's a drinking game, there's guests talking about what Desire means to them, there's Dylan and Cooper squaring off the way they always seem to do in person, and there's Ginger continuing to be the heart and soul of the Swingset. With tequila.

Direct download: swingset139.mp3
Category:SSDesire -- posted at: 11:29am CDT

We've evolved quite a bit over the last three years, our choices in play preferences, what we're open to, and the people we're open to play with have expanded as well. We've chosen to use safer sex barrier barriers and integrated it with our play. Thinking about it all in the lens of Risk Aware Sex, a term coined by Dr. Antoinette Izzo is what we discuss today. Getting away from fallacies and dangers of using "clean" as people who don't have STIs and moving towards making safety sexy occupies the bulk of our discussion. Personal responsibility is king, it's up to us to take care of ourselves.

We also take a couple detours to discuss sensual vs. sexual energy, and Ginger's Panties (or lack thereof).

You can find Dr. Antoinette Izzo at Sense Appeal!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:50pm CDT

When preparing to embark on open relationship, or deep within the throes of one, hammering out an open agreement, determining your rules and boundaries, and having those ever important discussions are essential. Today we’re joined by Cat Maness, creator of Our Open Agreement Tool, an online resource for creating your agreements, to discuss why these are worth having and discuss how to put them together. We also discuss a listener e-mail from Episode 130, Swinger Profiles.

You can find Cat Maness at http://www.catmaness.com/!

Check out Our Open Agreement at www.ouropenagreement.com!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:08pm CDT

The past two episodes have been live recordings in front of an audience of folks anxious to listen to us talk about non-monogamy and swinging. Our “toury-ness” has brought us to San Francisco, Washington DC, Los Angeles, and Milwaukee. On the road we’ve learned about our audience, we’ve learned about ourselves. Tonight on Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we talk about what it has taught us, why we continue to meet, and the importance and risks associated with gathering with fellow sex geeks and educators. We also spend some time reconnecting since, in the world of cons and presentations, time flies right by.

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Direct download: swingset136.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:46pm CDT

 

A Primer on Swinging:
How to Meet, Have Sexy Times, & Otherwise Enjoy Your Friends and Neighbors

Cooper and Dylan, co-hosts of Life on the Swingset the podcast, take you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, from the moment that voice in your head tells you that you're different, to when you're setting up that gang-bang for your fiancee's birthday. They cover jealousy, safer sex practices, communication with your partner and playmates, and delve deeper into the whys of this thing called swing. Whether you're brand new to swinging, been doing it for years, or just fascinated by the idea, there's something here for everyone.

You can find more information on the Tool Shed and its events series at www.toolshedtoys.com/events

Our Swinging for Dummies series includes episodes 59, 60, 62, 63, and 130.

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Direct download: swingset135.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:42am CDT

Our second trip to CatalystCon in 2013 yeilded our best audience yet, and our most cohesive discussion on what Progressive Swinging truly means. We discuss the importance of community, coming out if you can, safety, and fun, as well as learning about yourself and your partner(s).

From the Catalyst Con program

Sex with Benefits: Progressive Swinging
Cooper BeckettGinger BenthamDylan ThomasShira B. Katz
#cconswing

No longer content to be the pervy cousin of “more enlightened” forms of non-monogamy, swingers all around the world are redefining what ethical non-monogamy means to them. As the cultural footprint of non-monogamy grows, swingers are opening themselves up beyond the former key parties and “wife swapping” and finding themselves with wonderful benefits: relationships. Swingers everywhere are asking for “friends first” and “no one night stands,” developing relationships that offer comfort, community, safety, and validation. This practice of allowing and embracing deeper emotional connections among playmates has become a phenomenon that has landed progressive swinging somewhere between the swinger sex club score and long-term polyamorous relationships. Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, & Shira from Life on the Swingset discuss taking back the term swinging, and growth toward the sexiest of futures.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:26pm CDT

Chaos. 

Just chaos. 

Direct download: ss133.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:06pm CDT

We've flipped it in and out, over and under, even hung it up and left it for a while, that mailbag gets a lot of gang bang action... as it should!

We take more of your questions (send us more at contact@lifeontheswingset.com) and discuss questions about swing clubs; how to approach couples, whether virgins are verboten, and whether voyeurism and exhibition and girl/girl are encouraged, we discuss being both a single male and a single female in the lifestyle (with a little bit of a discussion about race, tokens, and fetishes), swinging as a big beautiful woman (BBW), and cock rings!

Take a listen, and keep the questions coming!

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Direct download: swingset132.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:38am CDT

Today we hit the mailbag hard... harder than usual.  We like our mailbag and we received a metric ton of your questions!

We talked about cream pies and how to play safer, with a detour about ethical swinging, food allergies and play parties, declining sex lives due to illness, and blogging your experiences on the Internet. We also took time to catch up with our favorite Technogeisha, Miko, and get an update on her life!

Ginger is taking a brief break, she's crossing the Yukon sipping on tequila on a dog sled and being a general bad-ass. She'll be back when she's done!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:38pm CDT

You don't know any swingers in person. You don't know where any clubs are. You're eager, wide eyed, and ready to explore sexiness with others.

Luckily the Swingset has been there and we found our way out! We discuss posting profiles online, we go through the basics of what to include in a profile, how pictures affect how other swingers perceive you and how you perceive them, protecting privacy, preferences, and rules, and what most turns us on AND off when we visit a new swinger profile.

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Direct download: swingset130.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:47am CDT

We had every intention about talking about swinger bloopers this episode. It stayed in our heads while we went through business... then went through some more business... then we lost it and ended up talking about "the long game", some relationship updates, and just general non-monogamy and how living this lifestyle is out in the real world.

So, please enjoy our accidentally off-topic update show!

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Direct download: swingset129.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:48am CDT

Cooper, Shira, Ginger, and The Professor (tm) all get together for a discussion on kissing; why it's a big deal, why some swingers make rules against it, how it feels great... how badly you can screw it up!

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Direct download: swingset128.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:35am CDT

Shira B. Katz makes her triumphant return with a considerable discussion about impermanence and how the changes in her and both Cooper's relationships statuses have affected their views on non-monogamy and their own sexuality, and how... that is ok.

We also worked some Law and Order, Doctor Who, and "cream" as a verb into the discussion. Check it out!

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Direct download: swingset127.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 6:11pm CDT

Riding herd on the Swingset isn't something you forget. Ginger isn't ready to put it behind her, so she holds on to the reigns and rides harder; we discuss our best erotic moments as swingers, explanabrags via managing multiple but separate partner issues, and we watch Cooper devolve into domina's pet!

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Direct download: swingset126v2.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:49pm CDT

Ginger Bentham takes over the Swingset today to ask questions we may never have directly addressed. Our Domina inquires about condom disasters, our biggest turn-offs, and how to approach a big group of people. We also get to see a peek into Ginger and the Prof's relationship dynamic, it's pretty wonderful!

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Direct download: swingset125.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:30am CDT

In this very special (non)episode of Life on the Swingset, Ginger Bentham and Cooper Beckett do a dramatic reading of the recent Anthony Weiner twitter scandel "reported on" by The Dirty

We would again like to insist that this is all alleged, and if Anthony Weiner was on the up and up with all involved, we at Swingset have no problem with this at all. In fact, it'd be nice to see a mayor who acknowledges certain proclivities.

Direct download: ss-weinergate2.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:15am CDT

~ low pitched rumble ~

~grabs handle, pulls, rumble stops ~

*sniff* Ahhhhhhhhhhh..... Nice and clean.

We listened to your voicemail (left at 573-55-SWING) and read your e-mail (sent to contact@lifeontheswingset.com) and decided to throw it all in the bag and gang bang it! We attack all your questions starting with questions about whether Dylan and Cooper really practice safe oral sex, chat about Orson Scott Card, listen to someone keep their sexual play preferences from a partner, and wonder why... WHY Dylan would remind everyone about Jurassic Bark.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:52am CDT

Everyone on the Swingset has been through an extended period of life where... there's just nothing left to give.  Shira B. Katz has a new job but can't make the time to join us every week (but she will be back!), Ginger, Cooper, AND Dylan have all moved recently. 

But in between everything, life happens. Ginger chats about a surprise visit from The RopeMaster (tm), Cooper talks a little about his divorce and the process of going through one through the lens of non-monogamy, and Dylan... well he just talks, but he's a credit to team.

The bottom line is we're back, and we're chatting about where we've been the last few weeks. Enjoy!

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Direct download: swingset123.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:35am CDT

Feminist porn means a lot of things to a lot of people, but what it doesn't do is exclude people based on gender, body type, partner preference or play style. It's, paraphrasing Tristan Taormino, organic, fair trade porn. It's organic because it emerges from performers doing precisely what they choose to do, and fair trade because they participate in ethical business practices.

We discuss feminist porn with Dylan Ryan and talk about the movement at large.

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You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley!

Dylan Ryan appears to have temporarily gone offline, we will post hard links as soon as they come back.

Crashpadseries.com and QueerPorn.TV have large amounts of hot gender fluid porn, including titles starring Dylan Ryan!

Tonight’s show is also brought to you by Adam & Eve! Swingset listeners get 50% off one item when you type “SWINGSET” for the offer code upon checkoutas well as 3 FREE DVD’s, a FREE extra gift and FREE shipping.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:35am CDT

We invite Dylan Ryan to join us for a conversation about Gender Play, fluidity, partner preferences, and gender dynamics. We look at strap-on play, sissification, power exchanges, efforts at education, and all in all... how much fun you can have fucking your partners while wearing a set of frilly panties.

 

Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out the soon to be renamed Hitachi Magic Wand!

You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley!

Dylan Ryan appears to have temporarily gone offline, we will post hard links as soon as they come back.

Crashpadseries.com and QueerPorn.TV have large amounts of hot gender fluid porn, including titles starring Dylan Ryan!

Tonight’s show is also brought to you by Adam & Eve! Swingset listeners get 50% off one item when you type “SWINGSET” for the offer code upon checkoutas well as 3 FREE DVD’s, a FREE extra gift and FREE shipping.

Direct download: swingset121.mp3
Category:Podcast -- posted at: 2:54am CDT

Oral sex, it occupies a very prominent place in most people's sex lives, and for those of us who practice soft swapping, oral sex is often the main course. We focus specifically on fellatio today, and ... well Cooper's metaphors are terrible but it's ok... we'll keep him busy with a big fat dildo. We discuss technique, accessories (lubrication, condoms, toys, etc...), communication and negotiation, and ... get distracted. A lot.

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You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley!

Tonight’s show is also brought to you by Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear. Swingset listeners receive 15% off their order at Liberator.com with gift code SWINGSET.

Direct download: swingset120.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:07pm CDT

Oral sex, it occupies a very prominent place in most people's sex lives, and for those of us who practice soft swapping, oral sex is often the main course. We're focusing specifically on cunnilingus today, and while there are many cute metaphors for it, sometimes you just need to come out and say, "I want to eat your pussy". 

So... dinner is served.

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You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley!

Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear brought you part two of this episode! Visit Liberator.com and use gift code SWINGSET to save 15% off your order!

Direct download: swingset119.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:56pm CDT

Lets Fuck.

Yeah... that doesn't usually work as a pickup line. But assuming it does, there's a whole host of other things that can happen that require a little more communication than that! We deal with pre-playtime communication, getting all the details out in the open (and out of the way) with elevator speeches and negotiating consent and figuring out that playing and STDs are -not- mutually exclusive. We move into actually having sex where things don't always go as planned. Where did the condom go? Where did the erection go? OHGOD A CRAMP! I'm not ok with this situation anymore.

Things happen, and we discuss having those conversations without panicking and with a willingness to work through whatever comes up and get back... to the fucking.

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You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley!

 

 

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:53am CDT

Shira B. Katz has rejoined the swingset crew! We celebrate by playing catch up!

We talk about whether Cooper has been fisted, talk about where the head space is between swinging and polyamory, about girls dating girls, and really... we just slide organically from one topic to another until we've burrowed so far down into the rabbit hole it feels like ages since we looked down and said "hey... that's a big hole".

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:47pm CDT

We're back! All four of us! That's right! We figured out how to fit Shira B. Katz into a canvas sack so we could all gang bang that mailbag together!

We answer questions about couples who have an imbalance in how they play or practice non-monogamy or experience jealousy, swinging with herpes, and take praise from someone who never fails to make sure there's a towel around... just in case.

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Direct download: swingset116.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:07am CDT

Sometimes it's hard to be awkward and unsure. It can come out as endearing, it can come out as silly, and depending on what's going on, it can come out creepy. Today on Life on the Swingset we explore creepy interactions and how they often originate with subtle but defined non-consensual behavior and that sometimes... it's just a lack of information or a lack of experience instead of someone actively playing "the creep".

We... well thanks to Dylan, we start the conversation with single men being a little too eager to please and progress into communication in sexy interactions and in other parts of life.

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Direct download: swingset115.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:07pm CDT

Sex Nerd Sandra joins us for a discussion on what it means to be an educator, a resource, or some jackass that wants to relay their own experiences as gospel. After Technogeisha and Ginger join us (a bit late) we move into how relationships can get a little complicated for us z-list internet celebrities when people we meet know, and potentially assume more about us than we expect.

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Direct download: swingset114.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:58pm CDT

We all had unique experiences at CatalystCon East, we met different people, attended different sessions, sucked different cocks, cuddled with different people, met with various porn stars, and created our own breakthrough moments. We also passed up an opportunity to use the latest Njoy prototype. We truly are horrible people.

Also, the hotel couldn't wait to rid themselves of our presence. We made so many friends over the weekend, why couldn't the hotel staff be some of them?

Oh Cooper, my mistake, you DID make a friend over a discussion about anal play. Well done.

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When bad science kills, or how to spread AIDS (References to the flawed Male Circumcision studies)

Direct download: swingset113.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:29pm CDT

We all had unique experiences at CatalystCon East, we met different people, attended different sessions, kissed different boys, assembled different blanket forts, and... occasionally we all got in the hot tub together, sat in the lounge together, and you know... gave our presentation. We spend the time chatting about all that stuff with a little touch of lament at the end for what could have been if for not being limited to sixty minutes.

Boy, it sure is a good thing we don't have to worry about that here, right?

...

 

right?

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Direct download: swingset112.mp3
Category:Podcast -- posted at: 4:48pm CDT

Cooper, Ginger, Shira, Dylan, Miko, Ophilia, and The Professor (tm) all get in one hotel room before their CatalystCon East session, hop on a couple beds, drink some wine, and have a casual conversation of how much they love each other in this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast!

We discuss how consistently impressive Ginger's panty selection is, and we touch... just barely touch on some of the mail that we've received and responded to, while Dylan falls completely off his rocker and rants about religion and politics the likes of which you've never heard on this podcast. If it helps, it's surrounded by heaping amounts of sexiness, flogging, under the shirt play, plenty of flirting, and a very, -very- unhappy Cooper Beckett.

Are you not entertained!?

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A New Inquisition: The Vatican targets US nuns

Direct download: swingset111.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:10pm CDT

We attended CatalystCon East last week.

CatalystCon, as described by Dee Dennis the founder and creator, is a conference created to inspire exceptional conversations about sexuality. It is about reaching out and stimulating those who attend to create those important conversations in their own communities, changing how we as a society talk and treat sexuality.  It is about stimulating the activist that is within all of us and sparking transformation in the way our friends, neighbors, children and even politicians discuss one of the most important aspects of humanity.

In our session titled; Sex With Benefits: Progressive Swinging, we define progressive swinging, explain why we describe ourselves and our style of swinging as progressive swinging, and state its overarching goal: To unite the various non-monogamous communities under one larger community. We may not all speak as one, but we can be there for each other and work towards the kind of acceptance the LGBT community fought so long and hard for.

Also Ginger gets flustered and loses her thoughts easily.

Dylan "explainabrags" more.

Cooper talks about being an accidental activist.

Shira plays the role of "token poly snarky girl".

Enjoy the live recording of our session!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:36am CDT

We brought Miko Technogeisha on for a discussion on our own personal kinks, and... ended up derailed when Dylan inevitably decided to use Ginger's bedroom habits for his own personal scene. Upon attempting to get back on track Cooper sets up a second scene involving some fictional magical characters at a fictional wizardry school and...  Ginger steps out for a few!

After the break we go into what it can feel like for a "less kinky" person to encounter a "very kinky" person and all around just chat about how much fun it can be,

to be kinky.

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Category:Podcast -- posted at: 2:15pm CDT

My name is Cooper Beckett, and I am a loudmouth. I'm extremely opinionated, and I use my little podcast as a soap box for my opinions. I'm also a snarky bastard, who enjoys giving shit to all. Just ask Dylan. This weekend, I got two emails, both taking me to task for my grumpery. I have snarked about "breeders" because I have no interest in having children. I have never seen this term as an insult, and have no issue whatsoever with children, or those who bear them. I like kids, I like people with kids. As a definite minority amongst those in a family way, I will jab, but never with malice. And I will apologize for the term breeders.

On two other topics, I have been called intolerant. That of the religious, and Republicans. I will admit to painting broad swaths of the religious with the same brush, the same can be said for my opinions and feelings about Republicans. I am an atheist and a Democrat, I have never hidden this fact. To our listeners who are religious, especially Christian, and to those who are Republican, I apologize for my often harsh words toward your affiliations. I recognize how strongly these beliefs can be held.

I have often said that all beliefs should be tolerated, so long as they don't infringe on other people. Right now, my state of Illinois is moving forward to allow gay marriage. The only people to speak against it were the religious. Are there religious folk who are sex positive? Who promote freedom, equality, tolerance? Absolutely. Are there republicans who also espouse the same beliefs and strengths that I stand for? Definitely! I know many people that fit into one or both of these categories. They are my friends, they are my lovers, they are my family.

I will never apologize, however, for my intolerance of intolerance. Rest assured, when I complain about the religious, I'm complaining about those who use their beliefs in God as a bludgeon for shaping policy that makes cohabitation without marriage illegal in Virginia, prohibits or impedes access to birth control, and by and large, keeps marriage equality from being a right for ALL Americans. I’m complaining about the institutionalized cover-up of thousands upon thousands of child sexual abuse cases in the Catholic church. When I complain about the Republicans, I complain about those who opposed the Violence against Women Act, who stand in the way of repealing the Defense of Marriage Act. And those responsible for all of the above God bludgeoning. These are not beliefs, this is intolerance. Beliefs are for you. Intolerance is for the world.

I stand against those spreading blatant lies about contraception, and conception, about women’s bodies being able to shut down rape, about the validity of science, and a misconception of what the term “theory” actually means.

Tolerance is a noble attribute, and one I strive for in myself with every person I encounter. I’m reasonably sure that the listeners of our podcast don’t fit into those categories that I am complaining about, and if they do, I would be very curious to hear them talk about how they reconcile these beliefs with their interest in our aberrant sexuality.

But all that said, I adore my listeners, and the thought that I’ve upset or hurt anyone with my glib comments causes me pain, and again I apologize to them. Every word I speak that doesn’t have a citation should always be treated as my opinion, which is no more valid than any other opinion, even if mine is sometimes louder. To crib from our intro, I am most certainly biased, but I will always speak honestly and earnestly, and as a staunch defender of all safe, sane, and consensual sexual and relationship practices that occur between adults, I will never pull my punches.

Thank you

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:52pm CDT

We're taking another dip into the calm waters of the lake of reader submitted questions for our seventh Gang-Bang the MailBag episode!

After what seems like thirty minutes of business and random thought salad, we discuss being a discerning connoisseur of swing partners, trying to find time to really meet minds with a group of progressive swingers while having limited amounts of time, discussing the old #1 rule that women make the rules, and politics and self-selection in finding playmates.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 6:36pm CDT

Realizing that our first episode doesn't deal with the first thoughts about non-monogamy nearly as well as episode 59, released two years later, we thought we'd rejigger the episodes up and add a Swingset Zero episode. On this episode we talk about the moment when we realized we were non-monogamous and how we dealt with that paradigm shift, how it impacted our perception of ourselves, and where we take that. We talk about cheating and deception while trying to be monogamous. We discuss the impact of monogamy on bisexuality, the complexity of polyamory, and how to begin.

For further adventures in the four-part Swinging For Dummies series, check out episodes 6062, and 63

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:31am CDT

Many of us in the lifestyle are parents and can sometimes feel alone when addressing issues regarding child development and age-appropriate ways of discussing sexuality. Airial Clark wowed us so much the last time she was on, we asked her to come back!

Today, Dylan stumbles over trying to figure out how not to repeat the "find your father's pornos" way of discovering sexuality, Shira appreciates the depth of knowledge Airial has on non-monogamous households and the benefits and extra issues that come with it, while Cooper just cracks a few jokes and laughs about breeders.

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Check out Airial Clark's site, The Sex-Positive Parent and follow her on Twitter @airialclark.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:38pm CDT