Life on the Swingset - The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast

We had a pretty rough year on the Swingset. We had some wonderful ups, speaking at two major sex-positive conferences about Progressive Swinging, giving a "Swinging 101" seminar at the Tool Shed in Milwaukee, WI, hosting a second trip to Desire: Riviera Maya, and had some terrible lows; divorce and relationship drama, family issues, and extreme time constraints.

We decided to have a nice little end of the year chat. We've traveled and spoken so much this year, experienced so many beautiful people, endured intolerable amounts of grief, and come out of it looking forward to 2014. We give a little summary of some of the sexy events we've attended, laugh at The Professor for breaking the cardinal rule of hot tubs, and commiserate about the year a bit.

We're also saying goodbye to Ginger for the next few months, we'll miss her and we look forward to her rejoining our little group.

See you all in 2014!

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Contact us at whateverthehellyouwant@lifeontheswingset.com. Cooper likes e-mail.

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This is Part 2 of my accidental roundtable discussion put together in the seaside room of one of our guests at Desire - Riviera Maya.

We continue the discussion about bi-women, mansplaining, and puppeteering, and move into non-monogamy identifiers and why they were useful, but taking some time to talk with other people in a room is much more useful. We end our discussion with giving the reasons we came and why we'll keep coming back.

Then the frisco community brings up possibilities of a swingset commune. 

Oh boy.

Interested in commenting or discussing this week's episode? Visit Reddit's /r/Swingers and search for SS141: Dylan Hosts a Roundtable Discussion in Paradise - Part 2 - Live from Desire Resport & Spa Cancun

Didn't hear Part 1? Check it out at SS 140: Dylan Hosts a Roundtable Discussion in Paradise - Part 1 - Live from Desire Resort & Spa Cancun!

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Contact us at commune@lifeontheswingset.com. Let us know when you're ready to raise chickens with the rest of us.

 

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Dylan had an idea. He thought it'd be a great idea to sit down, two on one with couples while at Desire and interview them, ask questions about how their vacation was going, get some decent soundbites, and enjoy the calm warmth of good discussion and good company.

This was anything but calm.

What began as a simple interview turned into a roundtable (dildohead) discussion where no topic found itself out of bounds, we discussed single male swingers, the trials and tribulations of dating as a bi-woman seeking another bi or gay woman, connecting with others and how Desire compares with a swinger club or a house party, many more items came up. The discussion lasts longer than we had for this episode so make sure to catch next week's episode for Part 2.

... I should totally do this more often.

 

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Midway through Life on the Swingset's second annual trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun, Dylan, Ginger, & Cooper sat down with many of the tour guests to record a silly podcast reflecting on the trip so far, and what lifestyle vacations can be. There's a drinking game, there's guests talking about what Desire means to them, there's Dylan and Cooper squaring off the way they always seem to do in person, and there's Ginger continuing to be the heart and soul of the Swingset. With tequila.

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We've evolved quite a bit over the last three years, our choices in play preferences, what we're open to, and the people we're open to play with have expanded as well. We've chosen to use safer sex barrier barriers and integrated it with our play. Thinking about it all in the lens of Risk Aware Sex, a term coined by Dr. Antoinette Izzo is what we discuss today. Getting away from fallacies and dangers of using "clean" as people who don't have STIs and moving towards making safety sexy occupies the bulk of our discussion. Personal responsibility is king, it's up to us to take care of ourselves.

We also take a couple detours to discuss sensual vs. sexual energy, and Ginger's Panties (or lack thereof).

You can find Dr. Antoinette Izzo at Sense Appeal!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:50pm CDT

When preparing to embark on open relationship, or deep within the throes of one, hammering out an open agreement, determining your rules and boundaries, and having those ever important discussions are essential. Today we’re joined by Cat Maness, creator of Our Open Agreement Tool, an online resource for creating your agreements, to discuss why these are worth having and discuss how to put them together. We also discuss a listener e-mail from Episode 130, Swinger Profiles.

You can find Cat Maness at http://www.catmaness.com/!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:08pm CDT

The past two episodes have been live recordings in front of an audience of folks anxious to listen to us talk about non-monogamy and swinging. Our “toury-ness” has brought us to San Francisco, Washington DC, Los Angeles, and Milwaukee. On the road we’ve learned about our audience, we’ve learned about ourselves. Tonight on Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we talk about what it has taught us, why we continue to meet, and the importance and risks associated with gathering with fellow sex geeks and educators. We also spend some time reconnecting since, in the world of cons and presentations, time flies right by.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:46pm CDT

 

A Primer on Swinging:
How to Meet, Have Sexy Times, & Otherwise Enjoy Your Friends and Neighbors

Cooper and Dylan, co-hosts of Life on the Swingset the podcast, take you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, from the moment that voice in your head tells you that you're different, to when you're setting up that gang-bang for your fiancee's birthday. They cover jealousy, safer sex practices, communication with your partner and playmates, and delve deeper into the whys of this thing called swing. Whether you're brand new to swinging, been doing it for years, or just fascinated by the idea, there's something here for everyone.

You can find more information on the Tool Shed and its events series at www.toolshedtoys.com/events

Our Swinging for Dummies series includes episodes 59, 60, 62, 63, and 130.

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Our second trip to CatalystCon in 2013 yeilded our best audience yet, and our most cohesive discussion on what Progressive Swinging truly means. We discuss the importance of community, coming out if you can, safety, and fun, as well as learning about yourself and your partner(s).

From the Catalyst Con program

Sex with Benefits: Progressive Swinging
Cooper BeckettGinger BenthamDylan ThomasShira B. Katz
#cconswing

No longer content to be the pervy cousin of “more enlightened” forms of non-monogamy, swingers all around the world are redefining what ethical non-monogamy means to them. As the cultural footprint of non-monogamy grows, swingers are opening themselves up beyond the former key parties and “wife swapping” and finding themselves with wonderful benefits: relationships. Swingers everywhere are asking for “friends first” and “no one night stands,” developing relationships that offer comfort, community, safety, and validation. This practice of allowing and embracing deeper emotional connections among playmates has become a phenomenon that has landed progressive swinging somewhere between the swinger sex club score and long-term polyamorous relationships. Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, & Shira from Life on the Swingset discuss taking back the term swinging, and growth toward the sexiest of futures.

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Chaos. 

Just chaos. 

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We've flipped it in and out, over and under, even hung it up and left it for a while, that mailbag gets a lot of gang bang action... as it should!

We take more of your questions (send us more at contact@lifeontheswingset.com) and discuss questions about swing clubs; how to approach couples, whether virgins are verboten, and whether voyeurism and exhibition and girl/girl are encouraged, we discuss being both a single male and a single female in the lifestyle (with a little bit of a discussion about race, tokens, and fetishes), swinging as a big beautiful woman (BBW), and cock rings!

Take a listen, and keep the questions coming!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:38am CDT

Today we hit the mailbag hard... harder than usual.  We like our mailbag and we received a metric ton of your questions!

We talked about cream pies and how to play safer, with a detour about ethical swinging, food allergies and play parties, declining sex lives due to illness, and blogging your experiences on the Internet. We also took time to catch up with our favorite Technogeisha, Miko, and get an update on her life!

Ginger is taking a brief break, she's crossing the Yukon sipping on tequila on a dog sled and being a general bad-ass. She'll be back when she's done!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:38pm CDT

You don't know any swingers in person. You don't know where any clubs are. You're eager, wide eyed, and ready to explore sexiness with others.

Luckily the Swingset has been there and we found our way out! We discuss posting profiles online, we go through the basics of what to include in a profile, how pictures affect how other swingers perceive you and how you perceive them, protecting privacy, preferences, and rules, and what most turns us on AND off when we visit a new swinger profile.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:47am CDT

We had every intention about talking about swinger bloopers this episode. It stayed in our heads while we went through business... then went through some more business... then we lost it and ended up talking about "the long game", some relationship updates, and just general non-monogamy and how living this lifestyle is out in the real world.

So, please enjoy our accidentally off-topic update show!

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Direct download: swingset129.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:48am CDT

Cooper, Shira, Ginger, and The Professor (tm) all get together for a discussion on kissing; why it's a big deal, why some swingers make rules against it, how it feels great... how badly you can screw it up!

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Direct download: swingset128.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:35am CDT

Shira B. Katz makes her triumphant return with a considerable discussion about impermanence and how the changes in her and both Cooper's relationships statuses have affected their views on non-monogamy and their own sexuality, and how... that is ok.

We also worked some Law and Order, Doctor Who, and "cream" as a verb into the discussion. Check it out!

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Direct download: swingset127.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 6:11pm CDT

Riding herd on the Swingset isn't something you forget. Ginger isn't ready to put it behind her, so she holds on to the reigns and rides harder; we discuss our best erotic moments as swingers, explanabrags via managing multiple but separate partner issues, and we watch Cooper devolve into domina's pet!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:49pm CDT

Ginger Bentham takes over the Swingset today to ask questions we may never have directly addressed. Our Domina inquires about condom disasters, our biggest turn-offs, and how to approach a big group of people. We also get to see a peek into Ginger and the Prof's relationship dynamic, it's pretty wonderful!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:30am CDT

In this very special (non)episode of Life on the Swingset, Ginger Bentham and Cooper Beckett do a dramatic reading of the recent Anthony Weiner twitter scandel "reported on" by The Dirty

We would again like to insist that this is all alleged, and if Anthony Weiner was on the up and up with all involved, we at Swingset have no problem with this at all. In fact, it'd be nice to see a mayor who acknowledges certain proclivities.

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~ low pitched rumble ~

~grabs handle, pulls, rumble stops ~

*sniff* Ahhhhhhhhhhh..... Nice and clean.

We listened to your voicemail (left at 573-55-SWING) and read your e-mail (sent to contact@lifeontheswingset.com) and decided to throw it all in the bag and gang bang it! We attack all your questions starting with questions about whether Dylan and Cooper really practice safe oral sex, chat about Orson Scott Card, listen to someone keep their sexual play preferences from a partner, and wonder why... WHY Dylan would remind everyone about Jurassic Bark.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:52am CDT

Everyone on the Swingset has been through an extended period of life where... there's just nothing left to give.  Shira B. Katz has a new job but can't make the time to join us every week (but she will be back!), Ginger, Cooper, AND Dylan have all moved recently. 

But in between everything, life happens. Ginger chats about a surprise visit from The RopeMaster (tm), Cooper talks a little about his divorce and the process of going through one through the lens of non-monogamy, and Dylan... well he just talks, but he's a credit to team.

The bottom line is we're back, and we're chatting about where we've been the last few weeks. Enjoy!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:35am CDT

Feminist porn means a lot of things to a lot of people, but what it doesn't do is exclude people based on gender, body type, partner preference or play style. It's, paraphrasing Tristan Taormino, organic, fair trade porn. It's organic because it emerges from performers doing precisely what they choose to do, and fair trade because they participate in ethical business practices.

We discuss feminist porn with Dylan Ryan and talk about the movement at large.

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Dylan Ryan appears to have temporarily gone offline, we will post hard links as soon as they come back.

Crashpadseries.com and QueerPorn.TV have large amounts of hot gender fluid porn, including titles starring Dylan Ryan!

Tonight’s show is also brought to you by Adam & Eve! Swingset listeners get 50% off one item when you type “SWINGSET” for the offer code upon checkoutas well as 3 FREE DVD’s, a FREE extra gift and FREE shipping.

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We invite Dylan Ryan to join us for a conversation about Gender Play, fluidity, partner preferences, and gender dynamics. We look at strap-on play, sissification, power exchanges, efforts at education, and all in all... how much fun you can have fucking your partners while wearing a set of frilly panties.

 

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You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley!

Dylan Ryan appears to have temporarily gone offline, we will post hard links as soon as they come back.

Crashpadseries.com and QueerPorn.TV have large amounts of hot gender fluid porn, including titles starring Dylan Ryan!

Tonight’s show is also brought to you by Adam & Eve! Swingset listeners get 50% off one item when you type “SWINGSET” for the offer code upon checkoutas well as 3 FREE DVD’s, a FREE extra gift and FREE shipping.

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Oral sex, it occupies a very prominent place in most people's sex lives, and for those of us who practice soft swapping, oral sex is often the main course. We focus specifically on fellatio today, and ... well Cooper's metaphors are terrible but it's ok... we'll keep him busy with a big fat dildo. We discuss technique, accessories (lubrication, condoms, toys, etc...), communication and negotiation, and ... get distracted. A lot.

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You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley!

Tonight’s show is also brought to you by Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear. Swingset listeners receive 15% off their order at Liberator.com with gift code SWINGSET.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:07pm CDT

Oral sex, it occupies a very prominent place in most people's sex lives, and for those of us who practice soft swapping, oral sex is often the main course. We're focusing specifically on cunnilingus today, and while there are many cute metaphors for it, sometimes you just need to come out and say, "I want to eat your pussy". 

So... dinner is served.

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You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:56pm CDT

Lets Fuck.

Yeah... that doesn't usually work as a pickup line. But assuming it does, there's a whole host of other things that can happen that require a little more communication than that! We deal with pre-playtime communication, getting all the details out in the open (and out of the way) with elevator speeches and negotiating consent and figuring out that playing and STDs are -not- mutually exclusive. We move into actually having sex where things don't always go as planned. Where did the condom go? Where did the erection go? OHGOD A CRAMP! I'm not ok with this situation anymore.

Things happen, and we discuss having those conversations without panicking and with a willingness to work through whatever comes up and get back... to the fucking.

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You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley!

 

 

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Shira B. Katz has rejoined the swingset crew! We celebrate by playing catch up!

We talk about whether Cooper has been fisted, talk about where the head space is between swinging and polyamory, about girls dating girls, and really... we just slide organically from one topic to another until we've burrowed so far down into the rabbit hole it feels like ages since we looked down and said "hey... that's a big hole".

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:47pm CDT

We're back! All four of us! That's right! We figured out how to fit Shira B. Katz into a canvas sack so we could all gang bang that mailbag together!

We answer questions about couples who have an imbalance in how they play or practice non-monogamy or experience jealousy, swinging with herpes, and take praise from someone who never fails to make sure there's a towel around... just in case.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:07am CDT

Sometimes it's hard to be awkward and unsure. It can come out as endearing, it can come out as silly, and depending on what's going on, it can come out creepy. Today on Life on the Swingset we explore creepy interactions and how they often originate with subtle but defined non-consensual behavior and that sometimes... it's just a lack of information or a lack of experience instead of someone actively playing "the creep".

We... well thanks to Dylan, we start the conversation with single men being a little too eager to please and progress into communication in sexy interactions and in other parts of life.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:07pm CDT

Sex Nerd Sandra joins us for a discussion on what it means to be an educator, a resource, or some jackass that wants to relay their own experiences as gospel. After Technogeisha and Ginger join us (a bit late) we move into how relationships can get a little complicated for us z-list internet celebrities when people we meet know, and potentially assume more about us than we expect.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:58pm CDT

We all had unique experiences at CatalystCon East, we met different people, attended different sessions, sucked different cocks, cuddled with different people, met with various porn stars, and created our own breakthrough moments. We also passed up an opportunity to use the latest Njoy prototype. We truly are horrible people.

Also, the hotel couldn't wait to rid themselves of our presence. We made so many friends over the weekend, why couldn't the hotel staff be some of them?

Oh Cooper, my mistake, you DID make a friend over a discussion about anal play. Well done.

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When bad science kills, or how to spread AIDS (References to the flawed Male Circumcision studies)

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:29pm CDT

We all had unique experiences at CatalystCon East, we met different people, attended different sessions, kissed different boys, assembled different blanket forts, and... occasionally we all got in the hot tub together, sat in the lounge together, and you know... gave our presentation. We spend the time chatting about all that stuff with a little touch of lament at the end for what could have been if for not being limited to sixty minutes.

Boy, it sure is a good thing we don't have to worry about that here, right?

...

 

right?

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Category:Podcast -- posted at: 4:48pm CDT

Cooper, Ginger, Shira, Dylan, Miko, Ophilia, and The Professor (tm) all get in one hotel room before their CatalystCon East session, hop on a couple beds, drink some wine, and have a casual conversation of how much they love each other in this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast!

We discuss how consistently impressive Ginger's panty selection is, and we touch... just barely touch on some of the mail that we've received and responded to, while Dylan falls completely off his rocker and rants about religion and politics the likes of which you've never heard on this podcast. If it helps, it's surrounded by heaping amounts of sexiness, flogging, under the shirt play, plenty of flirting, and a very, -very- unhappy Cooper Beckett.

Are you not entertained!?

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A New Inquisition: The Vatican targets US nuns

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:10pm CDT

We attended CatalystCon East last week.

CatalystCon, as described by Dee Dennis the founder and creator, is a conference created to inspire exceptional conversations about sexuality. It is about reaching out and stimulating those who attend to create those important conversations in their own communities, changing how we as a society talk and treat sexuality.  It is about stimulating the activist that is within all of us and sparking transformation in the way our friends, neighbors, children and even politicians discuss one of the most important aspects of humanity.

In our session titled; Sex With Benefits: Progressive Swinging, we define progressive swinging, explain why we describe ourselves and our style of swinging as progressive swinging, and state its overarching goal: To unite the various non-monogamous communities under one larger community. We may not all speak as one, but we can be there for each other and work towards the kind of acceptance the LGBT community fought so long and hard for.

Also Ginger gets flustered and loses her thoughts easily.

Dylan "explainabrags" more.

Cooper talks about being an accidental activist.

Shira plays the role of "token poly snarky girl".

Enjoy the live recording of our session!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:36am CDT

We brought Miko Technogeisha on for a discussion on our own personal kinks, and... ended up derailed when Dylan inevitably decided to use Ginger's bedroom habits for his own personal scene. Upon attempting to get back on track Cooper sets up a second scene involving some fictional magical characters at a fictional wizardry school and...  Ginger steps out for a few!

After the break we go into what it can feel like for a "less kinky" person to encounter a "very kinky" person and all around just chat about how much fun it can be,

to be kinky.

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Category:Podcast -- posted at: 2:15pm CDT

My name is Cooper Beckett, and I am a loudmouth. I'm extremely opinionated, and I use my little podcast as a soap box for my opinions. I'm also a snarky bastard, who enjoys giving shit to all. Just ask Dylan. This weekend, I got two emails, both taking me to task for my grumpery. I have snarked about "breeders" because I have no interest in having children. I have never seen this term as an insult, and have no issue whatsoever with children, or those who bear them. I like kids, I like people with kids. As a definite minority amongst those in a family way, I will jab, but never with malice. And I will apologize for the term breeders.

On two other topics, I have been called intolerant. That of the religious, and Republicans. I will admit to painting broad swaths of the religious with the same brush, the same can be said for my opinions and feelings about Republicans. I am an atheist and a Democrat, I have never hidden this fact. To our listeners who are religious, especially Christian, and to those who are Republican, I apologize for my often harsh words toward your affiliations. I recognize how strongly these beliefs can be held.

I have often said that all beliefs should be tolerated, so long as they don't infringe on other people. Right now, my state of Illinois is moving forward to allow gay marriage. The only people to speak against it were the religious. Are there religious folk who are sex positive? Who promote freedom, equality, tolerance? Absolutely. Are there republicans who also espouse the same beliefs and strengths that I stand for? Definitely! I know many people that fit into one or both of these categories. They are my friends, they are my lovers, they are my family.

I will never apologize, however, for my intolerance of intolerance. Rest assured, when I complain about the religious, I'm complaining about those who use their beliefs in God as a bludgeon for shaping policy that makes cohabitation without marriage illegal in Virginia, prohibits or impedes access to birth control, and by and large, keeps marriage equality from being a right for ALL Americans. I’m complaining about the institutionalized cover-up of thousands upon thousands of child sexual abuse cases in the Catholic church. When I complain about the Republicans, I complain about those who opposed the Violence against Women Act, who stand in the way of repealing the Defense of Marriage Act. And those responsible for all of the above God bludgeoning. These are not beliefs, this is intolerance. Beliefs are for you. Intolerance is for the world.

I stand against those spreading blatant lies about contraception, and conception, about women’s bodies being able to shut down rape, about the validity of science, and a misconception of what the term “theory” actually means.

Tolerance is a noble attribute, and one I strive for in myself with every person I encounter. I’m reasonably sure that the listeners of our podcast don’t fit into those categories that I am complaining about, and if they do, I would be very curious to hear them talk about how they reconcile these beliefs with their interest in our aberrant sexuality.

But all that said, I adore my listeners, and the thought that I’ve upset or hurt anyone with my glib comments causes me pain, and again I apologize to them. Every word I speak that doesn’t have a citation should always be treated as my opinion, which is no more valid than any other opinion, even if mine is sometimes louder. To crib from our intro, I am most certainly biased, but I will always speak honestly and earnestly, and as a staunch defender of all safe, sane, and consensual sexual and relationship practices that occur between adults, I will never pull my punches.

Thank you

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:52pm CDT

We're taking another dip into the calm waters of the lake of reader submitted questions for our seventh Gang-Bang the MailBag episode!

After what seems like thirty minutes of business and random thought salad, we discuss being a discerning connoisseur of swing partners, trying to find time to really meet minds with a group of progressive swingers while having limited amounts of time, discussing the old #1 rule that women make the rules, and politics and self-selection in finding playmates.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 6:36pm CDT

Realizing that our first episode doesn't deal with the first thoughts about non-monogamy nearly as well as episode 59, released two years later, we thought we'd rejigger the episodes up and add a Swingset Zero episode. On this episode we talk about the moment when we realized we were non-monogamous and how we dealt with that paradigm shift, how it impacted our perception of ourselves, and where we take that. We talk about cheating and deception while trying to be monogamous. We discuss the impact of monogamy on bisexuality, the complexity of polyamory, and how to begin.

For further adventures in the four-part Swinging For Dummies series, check out episodes 6062, and 63

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:31am CDT

Many of us in the lifestyle are parents and can sometimes feel alone when addressing issues regarding child development and age-appropriate ways of discussing sexuality. Airial Clark wowed us so much the last time she was on, we asked her to come back!

Today, Dylan stumbles over trying to figure out how not to repeat the "find your father's pornos" way of discovering sexuality, Shira appreciates the depth of knowledge Airial has on non-monogamous households and the benefits and extra issues that come with it, while Cooper just cracks a few jokes and laughs about breeders.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:38pm CDT

Cooper and Dylan throw some great swinger parties, but not always by design. Much like their journey into non-monogamy, a combination of moxie, trial and error, and luck has combined to create some wonderful stories.

Reid Mihalko on the other hand has spent time and effort learning how carefully crafting group dynamics create the best chance of worthwhile parties for everyone, and not necessarily just with swingers. He joins us tonight for a discussion on sexy parties!

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Follow Reid Mihalko on Twitter at @ReidAboutSex and check out his website at ReidAboutSex.com!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 4:21pm CDT

butts. prostates, both male and female.

We're talking all about the rear, from preparation to insertion to orgasm and beyond! Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian, authors of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure join us to chat about anal sex, and what it means for men to be on the receiving end of penetrative sex.

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Check out The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, by Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:51am CDT

After Shira tells us a bizarre story of having her upper lip devoured by a creeper at a club, Cooper talks about falling in love. This leads to a discussion on his developing confidence, and then to the broader topic of how to be confident, how to build it, and how to wield it.

 

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Category:Podcast -- posted at: 10:43am CDT

"Hey Cooper... tell us how you really feel!" "Well alright then." 

We've discussed organized religion and how it's affected our own relationship with sexuality, how it influences our community as a whole and... at times, indelicately pointed out where we take issue with its monopoly on morality and its right to judge what's acceptable and what's not. 

We finally said fuck it, threw up our arms, and invited Darrel Ray, author of the books The God Virus: How Religion Affects Our Lives and Culture, and Sex and God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality to join us for a discussion on how we really feel, what we see on a day to day basis, and how we can move forward and still live and love those who believe, even if we disagree.

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Sex and Secularism, The Report at IPCPress.com

Study: Non-monogamous couples are as happy as other couples - Salon.com

Want! Will... Won't. Chart

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:14am CDT

Dee Dennis decided to join us for a discussion on building sex positive communities (and the perils within doing so), and how to translate that into a great conference experience! It's apropos as she's also the founder of CatalystCon so... we chat about that just a little bit. :)


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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:37am CDT

For Episode 101 we thought giving a brief "101" lecture on Progressive Swinging felt right.

So, we reintroduce and define what we mean by Progressive Swinging, and give you the very basics; what you need, what to expect, and how to proceed. We've approached the basics before, communication, introductions, prep work, but this time with give it to you with a different goal in mind, how to enter into Progressive Swinging.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:18pm CDT

This... is episode 100.

We thank our guests, our previous co-hosts, we yell at each other, unbridled chaos abounds everywhere. It's a full 90 minutes of the four of us enjoying each other. Pure joy, true love...

To another 100 episodes we go!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:11am CDT

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