Life on the Swingset - The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast

We had a pretty rough year on the Swingset. We had some wonderful ups, speaking at two major sex-positive conferences about Progressive Swinging, giving a "Swinging 101" seminar at the Tool Shed in Milwaukee, WI, hosting a second trip to Desire: Riviera Maya, and had some terrible lows; divorce and relationship drama, family issues, and extreme time constraints.

We decided to have a nice little end of the year chat. We've traveled and spoken so much this year, experienced so many beautiful people, endured intolerable amounts of grief, and come out of it looking forward to 2014. We give a little summary of some of the sexy events we've attended, laugh at The Professor for breaking the cardinal rule of hot tubs, and commiserate about the year a bit.

We're also saying goodbye to Ginger for the next few months, we'll miss her and we look forward to her rejoining our little group.

See you all in 2014!

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This is Part 2 of my accidental roundtable discussion put together in the seaside room of one of our guests at Desire - Riviera Maya.

We continue the discussion about bi-women, mansplaining, and puppeteering, and move into non-monogamy identifiers and why they were useful, but taking some time to talk with other people in a room is much more useful. We end our discussion with giving the reasons we came and why we'll keep coming back.

Then the frisco community brings up possibilities of a swingset commune. 

Oh boy.

Interested in commenting or discussing this week's episode? Visit Reddit's /r/Swingers and search for SS141: Dylan Hosts a Roundtable Discussion in Paradise - Part 2 - Live from Desire Resport & Spa Cancun

Didn't hear Part 1? Check it out at SS 140: Dylan Hosts a Roundtable Discussion in Paradise - Part 1 - Live from Desire Resort & Spa Cancun!

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Dylan had an idea. He thought it'd be a great idea to sit down, two on one with couples while at Desire and interview them, ask questions about how their vacation was going, get some decent soundbites, and enjoy the calm warmth of good discussion and good company.

This was anything but calm.

What began as a simple interview turned into a roundtable (dildohead) discussion where no topic found itself out of bounds, we discussed single male swingers, the trials and tribulations of dating as a bi-woman seeking another bi or gay woman, connecting with others and how Desire compares with a swinger club or a house party, many more items came up. The discussion lasts longer than we had for this episode so make sure to catch next week's episode for Part 2.

... I should totally do this more often.


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Direct download: swingset140.mp3
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Midway through Life on the Swingset's second annual trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun, Dylan, Ginger, & Cooper sat down with many of the tour guests to record a silly podcast reflecting on the trip so far, and what lifestyle vacations can be. There's a drinking game, there's guests talking about what Desire means to them, there's Dylan and Cooper squaring off the way they always seem to do in person, and there's Ginger continuing to be the heart and soul of the Swingset. With tequila.

Direct download: swingset139.mp3
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We've evolved quite a bit over the last three years, our choices in play preferences, what we're open to, and the people we're open to play with have expanded as well. We've chosen to use safer sex barrier barriers and integrated it with our play. Thinking about it all in the lens of Risk Aware Sex, a term coined by Dr. Antoinette Izzo is what we discuss today. Getting away from fallacies and dangers of using "clean" as people who don't have STIs and moving towards making safety sexy occupies the bulk of our discussion. Personal responsibility is king, it's up to us to take care of ourselves.

We also take a couple detours to discuss sensual vs. sexual energy, and Ginger's Panties (or lack thereof).

You can find Dr. Antoinette Izzo at Sense Appeal!

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When preparing to embark on open relationship, or deep within the throes of one, hammering out an open agreement, determining your rules and boundaries, and having those ever important discussions are essential. Today we’re joined by Cat Maness, creator of Our Open Agreement Tool, an online resource for creating your agreements, to discuss why these are worth having and discuss how to put them together. We also discuss a listener e-mail from Episode 130, Swinger Profiles.

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Direct download: swingset137.mp3
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The past two episodes have been live recordings in front of an audience of folks anxious to listen to us talk about non-monogamy and swinging. Our “toury-ness” has brought us to San Francisco, Washington DC, Los Angeles, and Milwaukee. On the road we’ve learned about our audience, we’ve learned about ourselves. Tonight on Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we talk about what it has taught us, why we continue to meet, and the importance and risks associated with gathering with fellow sex geeks and educators. We also spend some time reconnecting since, in the world of cons and presentations, time flies right by.

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Direct download: swingset136.mp3
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A Primer on Swinging:
How to Meet, Have Sexy Times, & Otherwise Enjoy Your Friends and Neighbors

Cooper and Dylan, co-hosts of Life on the Swingset the podcast, take you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, from the moment that voice in your head tells you that you're different, to when you're setting up that gang-bang for your fiancee's birthday. They cover jealousy, safer sex practices, communication with your partner and playmates, and delve deeper into the whys of this thing called swing. Whether you're brand new to swinging, been doing it for years, or just fascinated by the idea, there's something here for everyone.

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Our Swinging for Dummies series includes episodes 59, 60, 62, 63, and 130.

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Direct download: swingset135.mp3
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Our second trip to CatalystCon in 2013 yeilded our best audience yet, and our most cohesive discussion on what Progressive Swinging truly means. We discuss the importance of community, coming out if you can, safety, and fun, as well as learning about yourself and your partner(s).

From the Catalyst Con program

Sex with Benefits: Progressive Swinging
Cooper BeckettGinger BenthamDylan ThomasShira B. Katz

No longer content to be the pervy cousin of “more enlightened” forms of non-monogamy, swingers all around the world are redefining what ethical non-monogamy means to them. As the cultural footprint of non-monogamy grows, swingers are opening themselves up beyond the former key parties and “wife swapping” and finding themselves with wonderful benefits: relationships. Swingers everywhere are asking for “friends first” and “no one night stands,” developing relationships that offer comfort, community, safety, and validation. This practice of allowing and embracing deeper emotional connections among playmates has become a phenomenon that has landed progressive swinging somewhere between the swinger sex club score and long-term polyamorous relationships. Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, & Shira from Life on the Swingset discuss taking back the term swinging, and growth toward the sexiest of futures.

Direct download: swingset134.mp3
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Just chaos. 

Direct download: ss133.mp3
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