Life on the Swingset - The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast

We look back at 2014, what was a year of aggressive expansion for The Swingset, to talk about Desire, going to conferences, teaching classes, getting married, using new dildos like the awesome Tantus Echo Handle, writing books, and more in our annual year-end wrap-up.

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In an episode that has been attempted every year since the beginning, we reflect on days of non-monogamy gone by, talking about our bloopers and issues and funny times and sad times, and recognize all the oddities that come from early days in swinging and polyamory. We're also thrilled to present two holiday songs by the incomparable Rachel Lark off her new album Hung For The Holidays, as well as an audio excerpt from Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset coming to Kindle on January 6th.

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As a lifestyle that is outside the mainstream, ethical non-monogamy tends to attract humans who are outside the mainstream. This certainly goes for the men...men who treat women as equals...men who are self-aware, respectful, and are cognizant of the power they hold in the world. Tonight on Life on The Swingset: The Podcast, we will hear from four of those men about how they navigate their relationships, address the ethical questions they face, and have as much fun as possible in the process. They'll discuss consent navigation, their progression from past to present, slut shaming, relating to women on a day to day basis, communicating the lifestyle to people who don't understand, encountering possessiveness among other men and their partners and discussing the mythology that men always want sex. everywhere. all the time.

 

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Join us November 7th through the 15th for The Swingset Takes Desire 2015 because where we're going... we don't need clothes.

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

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Pre-Order Cooper's first book My Life on the Swingset, it's great! Don't take our word for it, take Good Vibrations executive VP Jackie Strano's -  "Cooper Beckett goes old school gonzo in My Life On the Swingset as your tour guide of non-monogamy in this delightful and playful romp of a read. Fear & Loathing meets On The Road as Cooper gives you first hand debaucherous details about his trials and tribulations and ecstatic moments of exploration in the swinger lifestyle. Defining NRE, prostate orgasm, sexy safe sex, and basic etiquette while telling a charming story is not easy but this recovering Catholic boy gives it his gusto and the book is helpful as well as entertaining."

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When the topic of sexual shame comes up, nowhere is it greater than the institutionalized shame heaped upon the women of the world, asked to be both hypersexual and aesexual simultaneously. Tonight we're re-joined by our friend Lady Cheeky, Elle Chase, who is featured in upcoming documentary "Inside Her Sex" exploring female sexuality and shame.

* Editor's note: We had minor technical difficulties near the end of the episode. We lost Elle near the end so while we said goodbye to her... we promise she said goodbye back.

...and flirted back with Dylan.

he swears. by the moon. and the stars. and the sun.

 


Check out Elle Chase's websites. For porn head to Lady Cheeky, for education Smut for Smarties, to hire Elle, check out her professional site, and her new LA Academy of Sex Education!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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Heidi and Danny from the Swingin' Around podcast take Cooper aside for a little chat in the heart of paradise and discuss their experiences during their second visit to the resort. They talk massages, non-consensual choking, hot tubs, Cooper getting married, getting naked and all in all have a great time!

 

Join us in Mexico next year for Swingset Takes Desire 2015!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

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We took time out of our very hard and busy work schedules in Desire to record a discussion with JV and Shara of Ending the Sexual Dark Age as well as a couple dozen other sexy naked people, We discuss what Desire means to us, what having places where we can be our authentic selves means and about creating those spaces wherever, whenever, and with whoever we can. We hear from people about getting comfortably naked for the first time in front of other people and we hear about why we will always come back.

We also talk about having a LOT of sex

 

Join us in Mexico next year for Swingset Takes Desire 2015!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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Ginger, Professor, Miko, Ronin, Ophilia, and Cooper are out of the office this week. They've jet off to paradise in Mexico at Desire Resort and Spa for the third annual Life on the Swingset Takes Desire. With 160 people along for the ride, they've spent a week of hedonism, debauchery, and drunkenness that would make the Rolling Stones sit back and take note. On Thursday of their week long trip, they sat down to talk with a live audience of friends and lovers, and do a live podcast.

 

This is the result.

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We've talked and talked about awesome sex toys are, the tremendous advancements in the field, the glory of stainless steel and silicone, body safe and body conscious products. You know all of that. So, today we're gonna talk about the flip side. The worst sex toys in the woooooorld!

#SuchKeithOlbermannMuchClass

Crista Anne of Dildology joins us as well as the Redhead Beadhead, JoEllen Notte!

Also... the Minnesota Roller Girls have the best sports mascot. Period.

MInne-Sorta_Nice-3119

 

 

 

 

 

 

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

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We at the Swingset are not wealthy. Despite what some may think, we don't make a fabulous living delivering a free podcast to you folks week after week. Despite that, though, we can afford to go to the occasional party, take the occasional (yearly) trip to Desire, sign up for paying sites. Or at least these ideas aren't incredibly foreign to us. On this episode we talk about how to "do" non monogamy on a budget, and how to make that time count.

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Asked and Answered Swingsetters!

We discuss downgrading swing relationships, unexpected kissing jealousy, bi-threesome issues, partners backing out, theoretical jealousy, silicone lube on silicone toys and the most basic of questions... "How do I bring up swinging to my partner?" to which one of our answers is "Never with surprise swinging."

 

Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:48pm CST

Sweet Gang Bang Sixteen!

We've taken your questions and answered them on air! We discuss a single poly woman dating a monogamous guy, being new and a virgin in non-monogamy, coming out as polyamorous to your family, talking to our children, jealousy, and navigating poly relationships when unprotected sex happens.

 

Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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Cooper super-sizes his Swinging Primer, as you do when you're teaching in LA. 

 

Class description:

"Cooper Beckett, from the podcast Life on the Swingset, takes you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, covering jealousy, safer sex practices, communication and more. Whether you're brand new to swinging, been doing it for years, or just fascinated by the idea, there's something here for everyone."

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Tonight we discuss erotica, writing it, reading it, tweeting it, living it with our guest Rachel Kramer Bussel. We discuss Rachel's extensive history in both writing and editing erotica, where erotica fits in every day life, expression, fiction, and reality in erotica, written vs. spoken vs. digital, how erotica lives with other forms of erotic material, and how erotica uniquely forces us to open our minds and our senses to truly get the most out of it.

 

Tweet along with tonight's episode using #ssliveish !

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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There is much to say about this recording. And also very little. You see it sits in a portion of our minds, like it sits behind a drop of water, but who are we kidding, it sits behind drink. The foul stuff that has put us in a very boisterous mood to say the least. To say the very least. It isn't long before everything breaks down. The center simply CANNOT hold. And you get this. You are presented with this. It's a good thing, I think, that our past two episode have been of highest quality. Because this? This is a bedcast.

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Life on the Swingset returns to CatalystCon West for a live podcast about group sex

You know that one thing you can do outside monogamy that you can’t do within? You can have group sex. That’s right, many people getting naked and sexy together. That’s how the non-monogamous do. So today, for our very first live podcast (which is only a mild distinction from panel) we are talking about that whole thing that makes us different than the monos, group sex.

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Life on the Swingset returns to CatalystCon West for a panel discussion about throwing and attending a play party.

They’re whispered about, opinions are drawn, expectations are high for both attendees and non. The sex party, the play party, the swinger party, call it what you will, to anyone who’s never been to one they conjure up visions of hedonistic abandon, or deeply creepy masked affairs. With so many people looking to explore their sexuality and needing a safe place to do so, play parties have value far beyond a whole bunch of naked people in a room. They can educate as well as titillate. So that's what we're here to talk about today.

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Emotional scars, physical scars, both can wreak havoc on your emotional state and body image, especially when you feel different than before. Earlier this year Ginger took a hiatus from the Swingset for a body change, and tonight we're talking about why.

 

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Join us at CatalystCon West September 11-14 - use the promo code SWINGSET to save $10 off your pass!

Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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The two most non-"how do I start swinging" questions we get on the Swingset is how do you organize your sex toys and how do you travel with sex toy, so we go in depth with advice and suggestions on what to do with your growing piles of sexy at your own house and on the road.

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Jean Franzblau, speaker, writer and performer of the one woman show "Coming Out Kinky: A Grown Up Comedy" joins us for a discussion of her show as well as a performed excerpt, and a discussion on being kinky in general and what it means to show that to the world.

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After the explosive finale of last March's CatalystCon East, we bring Dee Dennis back on the show to discuss how hard it often is to get a dialog going about sex without having dissent everywhere. We try to parse the value of community vs being snarky, and Cooper drops the shocking revelation that sometimes he is controversial.

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It's bizarro world and Life on the Swingset is going FULL SWAP. The Professor hosts this round table discussion featuring the partners of the Swingset, Ophilia Tesla, Tonia Thomas, and Ronin Technogeisha. They discuss being behind the scenes, putting up with the Swingset, their experience in the lifestyle, their desires and hopes, and quickly run out of time.  

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We're all evangelists for our lifestyles. We're not trying to convince people to try it out, we're there to offer our own experiences, to story tell, to educate when people ask for more information, and when people are ready to hop in, at least for us swingers, we all seem to make the same mistake. "Also, women run the lifestyle!"

We unpack the sentiment, the history, and the reality behind the statement and the contention that the lifestyle is female run in swinging in tonight's podcast.

 

 

Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Direct download: swingset168.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:22am CST

A couple months ago we tackled the topic of flirting, and how it's rather essential to sexy interaction, rather exponentially expanded for non-monogamy. Tonight on Life on the Swingset: The Podcast we're going to turn that flirty talk into sexy talk and discuss talking dirty: how, when, why, and what's too much.

We also take the time to answer an extended listener voicemail about equal rights, gay marriage, and the civil rights movement.

 

Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Direct download: swingset167.mp3
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Another day, another gang bang of the old (and now thoroughly satisfied) mailbag. 

We get a response from a listener about our DP episode, as well as an eye opening picture (which we refuse to share!) We discuss speaking up in the moment, solo cheating males, unicorns, girl girl only play, the one penis policy, stretch marks, and bad swinging experiences.

 

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We're back, and we gang bang the ever willing mailbag fillled with your questions!

We talk about chasing the white whale, a potential fluid bonding statute of limitations, cold sores (hsv1) and kissing protocol, and swinging & fairness. Dylan also talks about the "unfuckables".

 

Visit the Burlesque Toyshop to pick up the equipment to exercise your kegels for stronger orgasms while saving 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Pick up the Je Joue Ami Balls and start your workout now!!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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In many ways, swinging is a lot like regular online dating, searching through profiles, reaching out via email. In one way, it's not so much. Naked pictures. Oh, sure, regular online dating involves a lot of naked pictures these days too, but it's rare that you see someone naked BEFORE you decide to contact them. The value of good naked pics on a swinger profile is very high, and so tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast, we're talking about taking them, and posing for them, and we're joined by the amazing Elle Chase, the Lady Cheeky who has been distracting us with her wonderfully curated porn tumblr for years.

We talk about why many swing profiles don't have photos of men on them and when they do, they're just cock pics! We talk about body image issues, privacy / online photo issues, being prudish on camera, and what if any responsibility we have after a breakup relating to nude photos.

 

Check out Elle Chase's websites. For porn head to Lady Cheeky, for education Smut for Smarties, to hire Elle, check out her professional site, and her new LA Academy of Sex Education!

Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get your kink on with a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out the Sex & Mischief line with The Silky Rope Kit, Silky Sash Restraints, The Solid Ball Gag, and The Spread the Love Bar!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:49am CST

Tonight on Life on the Swingset, The Podcast, we’re going back to basics for another episode of Swinging For Dummies.

In the series thus far we’ve talked about realizing you’re interested in non-monogamy, talking to your partner, group sex, sexy vacations, and swinging websites. But how about that ever important first date. How to prepare, how to engage, how to transition to playtime, and how to make sure there’s a second date.

 

Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out the AMAZING nJoy Pure Wand to stimulate your gspot or prostate, or a friend's!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:22pm CST

We're all well aware of the risks inherent with sex, and we don't always like to use those barriers that keep us safe. From gloves and dental dams to the almighty condom, eroticizing barriers is what helps make them part of our sexuality and safety instead of "this thing we have to do." Tonight we're joined by Melissa White, CEO of our favorite online condom company Lucky Bloke to talk about how to make safer sex sexier.

 

Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out Lelo Ella and combine it with condoms to explore both sides of this wonderful toy!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:44pm CST

Here at Life on the Swingset we've had our own little sexual evolutions and those evolutions haven't gone unnoticed. Today, JV and Shara from the Ending the Sexual Dark Age podcast to pose to us a few questions both their audience, and they have been wondering about.

 

Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out The Tantus Bend Over Beginner Kit to get your pegging adventure started!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:14am CST

I has been a while since anyone here on the Swingset could consider themselves "new to this" but it behooves us to every once in a while put ourselves back into that new and nervous state, where everything was the first time, and we were discovering as we go. We don't have a lot of great models of healthy non-monogamy these days. Learning to advocate for our partners and ourselves, figuring out what we want and how to ask for it, learning the difference between a request, an offer, and an invitation, and all in all... having fun, is what we talk about today.

Marcia Maczynski joins us today, you can check her out at all her delicious urls, successfulnonmonogamy.com, askingforwhatyouwant.com, and goodgirlrecovery.com!

Also, Blokus is a wonderful game and you should absolutely buy it from Amazon here!

 

Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out The Ethical Slut and Opening Up!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:23am CST

Flirting is perhaps the most important aspect of beginning any romantic and sexual relationship. As Swingers you really need to be on top of your flirting. Since we meet so many people in non-monogamy, how do we know when to start flirting, and how do we make it work for us? We're including this as an unofficial companion to our "Swinging for Dummies" series since it just feels right, so take a listen and hear about how to get new interactions going, with the flirt, and with our friend Reid Mihalko!

Also... for what the defintion of "is" is...

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Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:25pm CST

Cooper does a one man show Primer on Swinging recorded live at <a href="http://thepleasurechest.com/chicago_hours.htm">The Pleasure Chest in Chicago</a>. All audience questions have been replaced by the dulcet tones of our own Dylan Thomas for their protection, and also for the amusement of our listeners.

 

Class description:

"Cooper Beckett, from the podcast Life on the Swingset, takes you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, covering jealousy, safer sex practices, communication and more. Whether you're brand new to swinging, been doing it for years, or just fascinated by the idea, there's something here for everyone."

Direct download: swingset158.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:47pm CST

When as adults we don't know what's going on with our sexuality, it can most often be chalked up to a lack of education. Education about risk, sure, but also education about the awesome things sex can bring. One woman looking to combat in a big way this lack of education is Megan Andelloux who speaks on an amazing variety of sexuality related topics at colleges across the nation.

We discuss abstinence only education, glbtq awareness, sexual fluidity and identity, safer and risk aware sex, and the perils of teaching newly minted adults about the basics of biology and orgasm.

 

Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out the Guide to Getting it on by Paul Joannides!

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14!

Comments? Complaints? Comment here on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

Direct download: swingset157.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 4:10pm CST

We still tend to treat the single male swinger as a problem, a pariah, when we host parties we wonder how to limit unpartnered male responses, we tense up at larger events where the male to female ratio may be wildly unbalanced, we are constantly on the lookout for the creep, the man who doesn't take no well, the recluse.

 

But really. What the fuck?

 

We're all just people, and we all just like to fuck, and when it comes down to it, we all know single men that have brought great joy, and great orgasms to many of ours or our partners' lives and really... that's what matters.

 

We take some time to deconstruct the single male swinger.

Direct download: swingset156.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 4:55pm CST

Handjobs and Fingering! 

Now that we have your attention, we want everyone to remember that there's lots of pleasure to be hand through the wonders of the partnered manual stimulation of someone's genitals with fingers! Now that you're obviously terribly turned on, take a listen and you'll hear us setting a solid definition of what counts as a handjob and a discussion on different terms and euphemisms for it, talking about how to give and receive risk aware handjobs, and talk about why we'd even bother giving handjobs when we can put penises in peoples' vaginas!

Pay extra attention, Ginger and Dylan give particularly... "riveting" instructions on how to approach playing with women and their vulvas. It's good stuff.

Dylan also realizes he's been confusing edging with edge play... He also confuses "hominem" with "onomatopoeia" so please excuse him.

Direct download: swingset155.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 4:55pm CST

We took and answered a question about erections, specifically that even after obtaining a prescription for viagra that a gentlemen still experiences trouble while swinging and that it's resulted in less return couples than he and his wife are happy with; Ginger is a big fan of people getting what they need, Cooper and Dylan relay their experiences and strategies about expectations and Miko really just lays down the law and says "it doesn't matter". We continue on with a conversation about gossip and cliques forming in a previously sexy and fun private online swinging group, dealing with high school level drama where Ginger suggests strongly stepping up as a leader and rebuilding the group with an ethos of inclusion. We close with a conversation about attraction and body types at a swing club, with Dylan chiming in about bodies being conduits to pleasure.

We also call out Lady Cheeky for execution of the longest and most successful sustained campaign against the Swingset's concentration and ability to podcast ever, including highlights such as #madtitties and flirting with Dylan. You can also find her at SmutForSmarties.com.

Direct download: swingset154.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:57pm CST

Today we stick all our collective hands into our mailbag and pull your questions out! We're back for our twelve attempt at Gang Banging the Mailbag!

We tackle questions about the black ring right handmovement, about discovering people you work with on swinger sites, on playing spontaneously with STIs, on attempting to open up after cheating, on judging people based on looks, and on swinging as a single male. Enjoy!

Direct download: swingset153.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:09am CST

Today, we discuss double penetration, double vaginal penetration, and double anal penetration, and not just the acts themselves. The act of any sort of double penetration requires thoughtfulness, planning, collaboration, communication, really just enhanced versions of all the skills we learned via trial by fire while finding our own ways into non-monogamy. As DP really is "professional grade" fucking we break it down into the basics, positions, risk-aware practices and being mindful of condom on condom friction, maintaining sufficient erections, being comfortable touching cocks, and we move onto how great it feels and how in the moment it can be easy to lose focus.

Direct download: swingset152.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:54am CST

Sabrina Morgan is a tireless advocate for sex workers’ rights and education on sex work. Having experience as a sex worker herself, as well as practicing ethical non-monogamy presents its own unique set of challenges when navigating relationships, and she’s here to talk to us about that. We also answer the age old question "Has Cooper been anally fisted?"

Direct download: swingset151.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:46am CST

Shame, it creeps up on us, sometimes out of nowhere and sometimes as a slow buildup but it can affect our sexuality in ways we don't expect and don't want. Sometimes tackling shame head on helps, sometimes not addressing it at all helps, but shame when tied in to the wonderful world of non-monogamy can be complex and disconcerting to your multiple partners. Charlie Glickman joins us to help sort out the why, the how, the what, and ways we can process and deal with shame in thoughtful and effective ways so we can get back to doing what most of us really want to do... fucking multiple partners.

We hit some major points along the discussion. Using the word should implies shame, it implies judgment, that I know better than you. When we react to shame it reinforces that shame. Keep heavy conversations and fights out of the bedroom. Also keep televisions and smartphones out of the bedroom. Go for a walk together instead, being side by side can disarm adversarial feelings that can creep up from being face to face, aka: Ginger's "side to side not nose to nose" philosophy. 

Resources on exploring shame:

Sharon Ellison: Taking the War Out of our Words

Pema Chödrön: Getting Unstuck

Brené Brown

 

We always recommend Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian's "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure" , a great way to carry condoms with you for safer sexy time. Get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout.

We also name check Tristan Taormino's Rough Sex through Ginger's adoration of a scene with Sasha Grey.

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14?

Comments? Complaints? Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers; Search for SS 150, or (if you must) click here!

Direct download: swingset150.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:12am CST

How do you handle new relationships now that you’re non-monogamous? It’s like turning a cruise ship around, climbing a mountain, and a myriad of other metaphors. We have long talked about taking your relationship from a place of monogamy to a place of non-monogamy. How to take something that is already defined and do a full on paradigm shift with it, transforming it into something altogether new, exciting, and scary. We have not, really, discussed what it’s like for those of us who are beginning a new relationship with the non-monogamy in place, and what it’s like to design and define the parameters and concepts of a new relationship. This is Life on the Swingset’s 4th anniversary! Happy Birthday Swingset podcast! You’re all grownsed up!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:12pm CST

Pegging:

The act of a female giving anal sex to a male using a strap-on.

Some couples enjoy the power reversal of this and some guys simply just like it up the arse. How do we do it? What are the right tools for the job? Does it actually feel good? I'm a straight guy, will pegging make me gay? Lyndzi Miller (@Lyndzi), Tool Shed staff member and sexuality educator, and Cooper answer these questions and cover the basics of pegging, a sexual activity that is quickly gaining popularity. They'll also talk about safety, male anatomy and the health benefits of being pegged. Yes guys, that's right. Taking it in the boot is actually good for you!

Audience questions are overdubbed to protect privacy. Audience members asked about exercises women can do to better build up those pegging muscles, techniques when using harness-less toys, prostate orgasm position and technique, and harness maintenance.

 

Send us a note at contact@lifeontheswingset.com! We're also looking for social media and seo assistance so let us know if you've got the skills and the time to help! Tell us about your experiences with pegging at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464) or send us an e-mail.

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14? 

Comments? Complaints? Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers; Search for SS148 or pegging or visit via direct link here!

 

Direct download: swingset148.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:14pm CST

Masturbation is awesome, isn’t it?

Sex for two, few would argue, is even better. Threesomes are roundly considered to be one of the epitome’s of the sexual experience. Let’s add a few more to that, shake it right up, and create something spectacular. A writhing mass of sexy, everywhere you look people giving or receiving pleasure. Tonight we talk about that wonder of wonders, that glory of glories, the orgy.

Cooper will be joining Lyndzi Miller (@Lyndzi) up in Milwaukee at The Tool Shed: An Erotic Boutique for a workshop, Take it Like a Man: An introduction to pegging! Join them on February 21st, 2014 and buy tickets fast!

 

Send us (or The Professor) a note at profcomevisitme@lifeontheswingset.com! We're also looking for social media and seo assistance so let us know if you've got the skills and the time to help! We also want to hear about your first, last, best, or worst orgy stories to call us at at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464) or send us an e-mail.

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14? 

Comments? Complaints? Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers; Search for SS147, or visit via direct link here!

Direct download: swingset147.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:16am CST

Swing With Friends!

... except sometimes the distance between those friends is enough to qualify the trip as more of a sexcation instead of a normal date. Whether because we live in less populated areas or because we've struck up online flirtations, sometimes you have people you just want to reach out and touch, but have to drive or fly for a few hours to do so. Doing this sets up a whole list of different but parallel challenges, and rewards, to the normal swing encounter, and that's what w discuss tonight.

The hosts of the Erotic Awakening podcast put together a midwestern polyamory summit called Beyond the Love that we name checked during the episode. Host a sexy conference in the midwest and you'll have our love and adoration forever! Also...w e apologize for calling it "share the love", in the moment Dylan forgot how to brain. He may have been thinking about the Tonia being interested in a gangbang.


Contact us about anything at contact@lifeontheswingset.com! You can find us on twitter at @swingsetlife@technogeisha@dylan_swingset, and @gingerntheprof!

Send us your sexy orgasmic voicemails at 573-55-SWING, that's 573-557-9464!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14? 

Comments? Complaints? Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers; We'll have our comment thread up later today and will let you know via Twitter and Facebook!

... by the way, while Climax, MI -is- along I-69, the exit Dylan discussed was actually along I-94 and you can view the Google Streetview image of it here. :)

Direct download: swingset146.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:12am CST

Sex is awesome.

We’re all on board with that, right?

Beyond the act, er, acts, for many of us (in fact I’d wager a large percentage of our listeners) getting information about sex carries with it its own form of titillation and enjoyment. That’s the purview of the sex geek. Tonight we’re lucky enough to be joined by Kate McCombs who has turned geeking out about sex into an art form, and into her life.

In business, we touched on Kiss a Ginger day and on Technogeisha and Dylan heading to Catalyst East from March 14-16 to be fan boys and fan girls.

Also, if you must know... here is information on echidna penis.

[technical note] from Dylan: We have both a very simple process for recording our podcasts (Skype), and a slightly more complicated process (individual audio streams recorded locally) to give us better audio and to eliminate single points of failure resulting in the total loss of an episode. During the record of this episode we experience two failures significant enough that the release audio quality is not up to par, we ended up with two local audio feeds that had significant amounts of noise and feedback and had an audio feed send audio right back into the skype stream resulting in a rougher than usual sounding episode. I apologize for the audio in some parts and I'm doing my best to make sure it doesn't happen again.[/technical note]

 

You can find Kate McCombs at SexGeekdom.com and on twitter at @KateCom!

Contact us about anything at contact@lifeontheswingset.com! You can find us on twitter at @swingsetlife, @technogeisha, @dylan_swingset, and @gingerntheprof!

Send us your sexy orgasmic voicemails at 573-55-SWING, that's 573-557-9464!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14? 

Comments? Complaints? Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers; search for SS 145 or visit via direct link here!

Direct download: swingset145.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:00am CST

We all want to be "on".

We carve out the time, spend some money, clean up the house, groom our fun areas, and make the arrangements with the people we want to see. Sometimes as "the time" gets closer we realize... we're not really up to the task, and while there's still a good time be had we may not be interested in sealing the deal.

We discuss dry spells, lulls in desire, varying levels of intensity in interest, today... it's all about libido, how to deal with it when it wanes, and how to try to bring it back.

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14? 

Contact us at sufferinsuccotash@lifeontheswingset.com or primingthepump@lifeontheswingset.com, you know... whatever tickles your fancy.

Send us your sexy orgasmic voicemails at 573-55-SWING, that's 573-557-9464!

Hey, those awesome gender pronoun "Hello, My name is ___" stickers can be found at Storenvy here!

Comments? Complaints? Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers to let us know what's on your mind! Search for Comments for SS 144: The Ebb and Flow of Libido and its Effect on Swinging and Polyamory or via a direct link!

 

Direct download: swingset144.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:39am CST

Happy New Year everyone!

2013 was a year filled with pain, regret, and some amazing time spend with wonderful people, fans, and at fantastic venues and conventions. 2014 is on course to be a much better year for those of us on the Swingset. We all got together (Cooper, Dylan,  Shira, and Miko) to discuss our hopes and our projects for this new year. Dylan seems to spout out a new resolution every five minutes, between hitting the clubs more, getting larger Chicago based groups of people together for club takeovers and discussion groups and *gasp* potlucks, he also asks that everyone contribute clips of the show to us so we can put together a Simpsons style episode 138 spectacular! Shira discusses wanting to better date women and offers that us swingers will be demanding gluten free meals soon. Miko wants to get her swing on more and all in all create more space and time to enjoy people. Cooper's cracking the whip and preparing everyone to write books and more importantly to him, step back from his efforts to develop polyamorous relationships and to better enjoy the wonderful world of swinging.

He's coming back home people. :)

We also have wonderful guests lined up for this year, between Charlie Glickman, Dr Antionette Izzo, Kate McCombs, Epiphora, Redhead Bedhead, and more... things really are looking up for the swingset!

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14? 

Contact us at dylansprops@lifeontheswingset.com so we can put together a clipshow based on your submissions!

Send us your sexy orgasmic voicemails at 573-55-SWING, that's 573-557-9464!

Comments? Complaints? Visit Reddit.com's /r/Swingers to let us know what's on your mind! Search for Comments for SS 143: Swinging and Polyamory Resolutions for 2014 or via direct link here!

Direct download: swingset143.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:47am CST

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