Life on the Swingset - The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast

Non-monogamy is riding a wave. Recently CNN had a positive article about the fact that more and more young people are choosing some flavor non-monogamy over traditional relationship forms. Awareness continues to grow exponentially, but with that comes the desperate need for a place to go to ask questions. Like us, our guest, the polyamory pundit Andre Shakti has submitted herself to the often scary world of giving advice. Her new advice column "I Am Poly & So Can You" seeks to temper that awareness with education and advice, and help guide people on their paths to relationship fluidity. She joins the panel with Dirty Lola, Dylan Thomas, and Cooper S. Beckett.

 

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You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

 

 

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

 

 

 

 

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Ginger continues the two-year tradition by sitting down with Cooper for a frank and intimate discussion about his new novel Approaching the Swingularity: Tales of Swinging & Polyamory, toxic masculinity, inclusion and diversity, sexuality, and sexy vacations and resorts.

You can buy the book now RIGHT HERE at ApproachingTheSwingularity.com/ - use promo code SWINGSET at checkout to save 10%!

If you still need to catch up, pick up A Life Less Monoagmous here

Approaching the Swingularity's Synopsis:

“Welcome home…”

Those words and a glass of sparkling champagne welcome you to Aphrodite’s Resort and Spa, a place of pleasure and debauchery, situated on a strip of white sand beach on the Riviera Maya.

Ryan and Jenn are still newbie swingers in many ways when they arrive with their friends, lovers, playmates, and veterans of this trip Bruce and Paige. As this foursome tries to wring out every last drop of pleasure that Aphrodite's has to offer, they’re confronted with the realities of life at home, as well as complexities of exploring a life less monogamous, the spectrum of sexuality, budding and waning attraction and love, and how one truly gets the most out of an orgy.

Alongside them are Alejandra and Crista, a lesbian couple on their first sexy vacation, recognizing the differences and difficulties in being the only lesbian swingers in the crowd. Raymond Horn is the host extraordinaire, on his tenth trip, who is losing his confidence and direction after watching his partner walk out the door the month before.

One hundred and eleven couples have descended on Aphrodite’s for a week of the finest food and drink, meeting and flirting, and getting down and debaucherous with friends and lovers alike. They will experience ecstasy and strain, for nothing is quite so intense in non-monogamous lifestyles as seven straight days at a resort filled with like-minded hedonists.

Together, they will seize the night.

Carpe Noctem!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

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Hey Swingset Fans,

Dylan Thomas here.

It's an off week for the Swingset. We're going to schedule these in every so often because you know what... it's nice to have a week off.

Just... pretend I'm sticking my tongue out at you all right now.


Anyway, tomorrow night we record together again! Guest Andre Shakti rejoins the swingset and you can listen in, if you support Life on the Swingset by subscribing at SupportSwingset.com. Throw us a dollar an episode!

It's a huge help; in addition to keeping the Swingset going it contributes to some big things we're planning in 2018 and.. quite honestly, those big things only happen with your help. As thanks, if you subscribe we'll give you access to our online chat community and if you're able to offer five dollars an episode, you get a sweet pin that I'd be wearing right now ... if I wasn't nude. Hop on supportswingset.com and help us keep this thing going... for you.

Thanks, and see you all next week!

Or tomorrow, you know... if you wanna.

 

 

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While many people enter into non-monogamy when already "coupled," there are some ways that folks approach this transition that can make folks like me feel more like prey than people. While there's nothing wrong with enjoying a threesome or wanting to both date the same person, unicorn hunting can quickly become predatory, coercive, and controlling. So how can you be sure that you're not falling into these patterns? Tonight, we're talking couple privilege and ethical treatment of unicorns.

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When we talk about privilege, it's usually a matter of race and class, and boils down to us not seeing or not even knowing to look for the issues that others face. Andrew Gurza, our guest tonight, is a Disability Awareness Consultant and Cripple Content Creator, and they join joins Cooper, Dylan, Dr. Liz Powell, and Mike Joseph to talk with us about how disability impacts life, the enormous breadth of the subject across the spectrum of sexuality, race, and class, and how it applies to living an alternative sexual lifestyle. We discussed the intersection between sexuality, disability, and queerness, discussed accommodations queer communities; in bar scenes and gathering places. We touched on disability as a critical dimension of diversity and on what being an ally means.

 

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

 

 

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

 

 

 

 

 

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There is a sort of order from chaos that happens when like minded people discover others like themselves. Individuals become clusters, clusters become groups, and with groups come unavoidable growing pains, issues, conflict, and struggle. Still, there's a certain magic that comes from having a group of diverse and motivated people with a common role come together to build something, because when you get it right, you end up with a community. Community role models are essential and tonight, Kevin Patterson joinsCooper, Dylan, Dirty Lola, and Mike Joseph to discuss poly role models and the joys and struggles involved with building sex positive community.

 

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

Check out Franklin Veaux's books More Than Two and Game Changer.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

 

 

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

 

 

 

 

 

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After seven years of podcasting, it's rather shocking to us how much we put of our lives out into the ether. A podcast can be very much like a living document in that way. What compels us to share so much of ourselves? Probably some narcissism, but also an innate belief that personal information breeds empathy and understanding. Tonight we talk about sharing and oversharing with Cooper, Dylan, Dirty Lola, Mike Joseph, Kinky Jean, and Lucas Brooks to talk about putting our lives out in the open, out on stage.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

 

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Tonight we celebrate two things, first, our 7th anniversary as a podcast, and second our first takeover of Desire Resort last November. It's no secret that there's been some...stuff...happening in the world. As that stuff started on our trip, we've been a little...loath to revisit. But now, to celebrate our anniversary, we have assembled an epic podcast panel including Cooper, Dylan, Mister Pent, Lyndzi, Dr. Liz Powell, J.V. Altharas, and Shara Bono to all talk about this thing, this special resort, this place unequaled in time and space, Desire Resort and Spa.

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

 

 

 
The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!

Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings.

 

The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher!

Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%.

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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On November 9th, the disco at Desire Resort became a dungeon for the first time and it was an amazing night. Shara and I could never have pulled it off without the support and assistance of several other kinky couples who acted as both dungeon masters and service tops all evening. This episode was about bringing them on the show and capturing some of the incredible energy of that evening. Want to see what our humble dungeon looked like before the action started? Scroll down or visit our Facebook album

Listen to this episode for a discount code that will score you 10% off at Extreme Restraints…on every order you ever make!

 

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Hello Swingset Fans and welcome to Desire week on the Swingset! The following podcast was recorded at Desire in November 2016 and features Dr. Liz Powell, Chris aka. Mister Pent, and myself, and it is The Gentleperverts Social Club. If you want to join us in Desire from November 4th to the 11th in 2017, well, hurry up! We are over 50% booked and yes... 51% does count as over 50%. :) So visit SSDESIRE.com for information on pricing and booking and when you do you'll be joining us for our second full takeover of Desire.

While enjoying time at Desire Resort and Spa, we watched, waited, and realized our suffering through the 2016 Election would continue, but we decided to acknowledge the election and move on, for when we returned home we'd have work to do, and there was no work to be done while "stuck in Mexico". So, Chris Pent. Dr. Liz Powell and myself, with Tonia as our willing hostess and facilitator, decided to talk about:

 

Closing the Deal

Being sexually free means potential surrounds you, but it can be a real challenge to find someone you're attracted to and to ask them to join you in a way that allows for multiple chances for success, and for graceful failures.

We are the Gentleperverts Social Club, You can find more Gentleperverts’ Social Club podcasts every month at www.gentleperverts.com and discuss our latest episodes and topics on twitter with @GentlePerverts and on the Swingset.FM network hashtag #SSFM on twitter.. You can find me, Dylan Thomas, on Twitter, Facebook, Spotify and Fetlife. If you have a submission, a story, a signal boost request, or an idea for a topic, send that over to me at dylan@lifeontheswingset.com.

 

We featured music by:

 

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You're all sexy and sophisticated human beings, You understand your sexuality and you enjoy both giving and receiving pleasure. Once you've figured all that out about yourself, where do you go? What do you do next? Tonight we talk about how to best accessorize your sexy life, from dildos and vibrators, to rolls of saran wrap and condoms, to Liberator throes and sex furniture.

We've created a list of all the items we discussed on the podcast!

Dildos, Plug, and Harnesses

Condoms & Barriers

Furniture & Surfaces

Don't forget to bring your towels!

 

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!
Help support Life on the Swingset products podcasts and put on live panels, podcasts, and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) an episode on Patreon at SupportSwingset.com! You can also purchase some of our sweet sweet Life on the Swingset merch from t-shirts, iPhone cases, blankets, and more!

Leave us a review and a five star rating on iTunes! Leave us a review and a five star rating on Stitcher! Subscribe to us on Youtube! Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

Make a statement without saying a word that you Stand with Nasty Women by purchasing our I Stand with Nasty Women t-shirt! 75% of all proceeds from the purchase go directly to the American Civil Liberties Union.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

 

 

Sticky Biscuits' new EP is OUT!

We played Sticky Biscuits' track: Fuck First, a cautionary tale about the consequences of eating on dates before fucking! You can find more Sticky Biscuits at their Patreon, on Twitter, on Facebook, on Instagram, and at their Bandcamp page!

 

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

 

 

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It's no secret that women may have dramatically different experiences entering into the non-monogamous world than men, whether it's exploring dating on OkCupid, charting a path through swinger parties, or being a third in a couples' relationship. Dedeker Winston, co-host of Swingset.FM's Multiamory, and author of the new book The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory joins Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Cooper S. Beckett to discuss gender and feminism within non-monogamy.

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

 

 You can find Dedeker Winston's book A Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory, here!

Dr. Liz talked about Joreth's perspective on Solo Poly.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health celebrates its 7th anniversary with Curiosities, an auction to support the CSPH on April 28th at Machines with Magnets in Pawtucket, RI!

 

Help support Life on the Swingset products podcasts and put on live panels, podcasts, and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) an episode on Patreon at SupportSwingset.com! You can also purchase some of our sweet sweet Life on the Swingset merch from t-shirts, iPhone cases, blankets, and more!

Leave us a review and a five star rating on iTunes! Leave us a review and a five star rating on Stitcher! Subscribe to us on Youtube! Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

Make a statement without saying a word that you Stand with Nasty Women by purchasing our I Stand with Nasty Women t-shirt! 75% of all proceeds from the purchase go directly to the American Civil Liberties Union.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

 

 

Sticky Biscuits' new EP is OUT!

We played Sticky Biscuits' track: Even the Cutest Kittens, a little STI awareness disco song. You can find more Sticky Biscuits at their Patreon, on Twitter, on Facebook, on Instagram, and at their Bandcamp page!

 

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

 

 

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Used to be, we'd talk pretty endlessly about our sexual activity on this podcast, to the point where our MOST NEGATIVE REVIEW EVER called us out for it. But that's ages ago, and it's been quite a while, and we're feeling a little indulgent and want to have some sexy conversation. You may as well just slap the #explanabrag hashtag right on here, cuz that's what Dylan Thomas, Cooper S. Beckett, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Dirty Lola are doing tonight!

We each tell some of our most recent sexy stories... stories including rimming, threesomes, pegging, anal, rimming, blowjobs, piss play, Donald Trump masks, deep throating, gagging, anal, bathhouses, play parties, orgies, strap-on sex... oh yes... yes.

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe.

 

Help support Life on the Swingset products podcasts and put on live panels, podcasts, and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) an episode on Patreon at SupportSwingset.com! You can also purchase some of our sweet sweet Life on the Swingset merch from t-shirts, iPhone cases, blankets, and more!

Leave us a review and a five star rating on iTunes! Leave us a review and a five star rating on Stitcher! Subscribe to us on Youtube! Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

Make a statement without saying a word that you Stand with Nasty Women by purchasing our I Stand with Nasty Women t-shirt! 75% of all proceeds from the purchase go directly to Planned Parenthood.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

 

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

 

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It seems to happen like clockwork. Someone cheats, or gets caught in some sort of sex scandal. They have to make amends, show that they're working to fix "the problem" so they can return to their normal lives. While we on the Swingset happen to think that many of their normal lives might've been improved with open and honest conversations about monogamy, so often they fall back to the excuses of "I'm addicted to sex" and failing that, "I'm addicted to porn." It's widespread and it's been propagated by early friend to open sexual discussion Dr. Drew (who has since descended into some sort of madness). Tonight we're thrilled to be joined by clinical psychologist Dr David Ley to discuss the myths of sex and porn addiction. Join Cooper, Dylan, Dirty Lola, Mike Joseph, and Dr. Liz Powell on tonight's panel!

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

We're sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

Resources:

The Klein Sexual Orientation Grid

Christian C. Joyal & Julie Carpentier's study:
The Prevalence of Paraphilic Interests and Behaviors in the General Population: A Provincial Survey

 

Leave us a review and a five star rating on iTunes! Leave us a review and a five star rating on Stitcher! Subscribe to us on Youtube! Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

 

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It's the New Year, 2017, and for much of our country that means halfhearted resolutions. I'm going to change. I'm going to improve. These resolutions come about because of the arbitrary timeline that defines last year and this year. We are unfinished, and as such, we can strive to always improve. We discuss working on ourselves and becoming better, in sex, in relationships, and in life with Cooper, Dylan, Dr. Liz, Mike Joseph, and Dirty Lola.

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

We're sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

Leave us a review and a five star rating on iTunes! Leave us a review and a five star rating on Stitcher! Subscribe to us on Youtube! Android Users: Download and review our Android App!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

 

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We've been overdue for for a rapprochement with one of our favorite past topics: Privacy and Security in Swinging & Polyamory.The team of Mister Pent and Dylan Thomas put together information about securing yourself on the internet that a panel also including Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Cooper S. Beckett could discuss, digest, and put into action. In the age of our ability to connect anywhere and anytime, share information easily, and be as open as we want to be, it's important we arm ourselves with the knowledge  necessary to make good decisions about what we put online and the information required to raise our level of computer and internet security.

As you listen, don’t forget to tweet at #sspodcast and feel free to ask questions of @MisterPent and @DylanTheThomas!

We’re sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

 

While we are definitely going to put together ebook / guide on cybersecurity for perverts, we wanted to list some of the resources we discussed during the podcast here:

On Two-Factor Authentication

When enabled, two-factor authentication (or 2FA) can surface as a "we don't recognize this device" message sent to an email address or a mobile phone number, or it can refer to an installed mobile app or a physical security token. You can find a list of websites that support 2FA here: https://twofactorauth.org/

In the meantime if you have a Google account, or have logins on sites like Dropbox, Lastpass, or Microsoft, go grab the Google Authenticator app. If you're a steam gamer, grab the Steam app and enable Steam Guard.

On Passwords

Securityinabox.org has a lot of great contnet with tools and tactics for digital security, they have a particularly good guide on creating, maintaining, remembering, and recording secure passwords, including with a password manager.

XKCD's comic on Password Security that we love:

On Password Managers and Sharing Passwords:

Mister Pent, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dylan Thomas use Lastpass. Lastpass allows you to have a single set of passwords securely accessible over multiple devices and over the web, while setting up two factor authentication to limit access. It includes web browser extensions to automatically log you into sites and an Android app that does the same, depending on desired level of ease of use. It also allows you to share sets of passwords secureiy and simply with other people.

Dylan Thomas also uses mSecure synchronized to a Dropbox account. mSecure has mobile and computer apps. It's not as nice or feature filled as Lastpass, but it's a little extra hassle for a lot of extra security for the most sensitive of passwords.

If you need to share a temporary password with someone you can use OneTimeSecret. You create an a self-destructing link that disappears once it's accessed or once a certain amount of time passes.

On using VPNs:

You can't always trust the access to the internet you have, whether it's because you're in an airport on free airport wireless or a coffee shop or because you're travelling. Sometimes you may just want to tune into BBC Radio 5 using their iPlayer and you happen to not live in the Commonwealth. VPNs can keep your traffic secure when you can't trust your connection, with the added benefit of giving you choice on what country your traffic exits so you can use region specific resources.

Dylan Thomas uses BlackVPN. Mister Pent and Cooper S. Beckett use Private Internet Access.

Both can support simultaneous connections to cover multiple devices at once, and both allow multiple country exit points  It has guides for usage on Windows, OS X, Linux, Android and iOS.

On Encrypting your Devices using Passwords or Biometric Authentication:

If you don't use a password, pin code, or thumbprint on your mobile devices, set one up! Modern Android and iOS based phones will automatically encrypt your device or give you the option to once you've set a password. While a six digit pin code or better is best, anything is better than nothing. Just Do It.

On Encrypting your Computer with Full Disk Encryption!

If you have a maching running a Pro version of Windows, use Bitlocker. Windows 7 ||| Windows 10

If you are running any other version of Windows, use Veracrypt. Securityinabox.org has a great guide on using Veracrypt to encrypt an external drive or your entire computer.

If you're running MacOS, Backblaze (the Cloud Storage company) has a comprehensive FileVault usage guide, though Apple's isn't so bad.

If you're running Linux you probably don't need our assistance. *grin*

On Backing up your data & Encryption in the Cloud:

One of the biggest risks to your data is physical failure or destruction of your devices. While services like Google Drive, iCloud, Dropbox and Box give us places to put our files in a pretty secure way, information stored on those services can be accessed and recovered by the services themselves in case of an investigation or subpoena. We recommend Backblaze as they encrypt data at rest and support two factor authentication.

On Communicating Securely:

We recommend using Signal Private Messenger, which includes iOS and Android apps and a Chrome extension and supports private messaging and calling.

Whatsapp supports end-to-end encryption. With Facebook Messenger you can enable secret conversations.

We suggest never sending sensitive information over email.

On Social Media:

Check out SecurityInABox.org's guide to security and privacy on social networking sites.

On Browsing Secureiy:

Drive-by malware downloads and poisoned ad networks, or shady looking porn sites, can mean you may pick something up while browsing the internet, often through no fault of your own. Most of us use both Google Chrome and Mozilla Firefox to browse the web, each for different sets of accounts (Multiple Google Accounts!) and with different sets of extensions installed to help protect ourselves.

Mister Pent prefers Ghostery.

Dylan Thomas uses Adblock Plus with Google Chrome, and NoScript on Mozilla Firefox.

For ultimate browsing privacy, the Tor Browser is a good option.

 

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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Our 2017 LOTS THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!

 

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 6:29pm CDT

One of the main reasons that so many of us leave monogamous relationships is the realization that we or our partners may not be as hetero as we thought. Non-monogamy can provide an exceptional opportunity to go beyond Kinsey's Scale, and view the entire spectrum of sexuality that spreads out before us, learning about ourselves in the process. The fluidity of sexuality and sexual expression is often underappreciated in the vanilla world. From straight to gay, to bi, pan, and omni, that's what we're talking about tonight on Life on the Swingset, the Podcast.

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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

 

Today's featured music came via: ▁ ▂ ▃ ▄ SXIP SHIREY in a track titled: Cinnamon Stick, featuring XAVIER. Find more information about Sxip Shirey here, or check out their January 9th, 2017 cd release show at National Sawdust in NYC at 7PM for "A Bottle of Whiskey and a Handful of Bees"!

 

Today's intro music came courtesy of Vlad Lucan in his track titled Reverse!

 

 

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:23am CDT

Welcome to Gang Bang The Mailbag TRIPLE X (plus 1)!  We're recording tonight with a live (and muted) studio audience! As always, questions have been edited for content and clarity. As usual, answers have not been edited for content or clarity! If you have a question for a future listener mailbag, please give us a call at 573-557-9464 and leave us a message, or email us at contact@lifeontheswingset.com. Tonight, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Cooper and Dylan gang bang the mailbag!

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

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Tonight we answer the following written questions:

My road into non-monogamy has been a twisted and challenging path. My 13-year marriage ended last year partly because of an incompatibility around the potential for opening our marriage.

When I started dating I tried to be very open with women about my desire for non-monogamy and live a polyamourous life that includes swinging and sometimes a little kink and BDSM. Through dating apps like Tinder I have met many wonderful women and had some great relationships develop. I have tremendously transparent conversations with these women. Most run for the hills after to non-monogamy talk, some are intrigued and go along with it for a while, but in the end these relationships mostly follow the same pattern. The woman is okay with other partners in the beginning, but as time passes she always has a difficult time with the non-monogamy and it ends or goes to the friend zone. Otherwise the woman wants a “don’t ask don’t tell” or “friends with benefits” approach, which to me is just single dating rather than ethical non monogamy. It is impossible to have intimacy without transparency.

Where does one go to find women who are already there in the poly/swinger community who are looking for other poly/swing single partners? Are there any better strategies for finding women more directly who already share these values?

Aaron from Canada

My brief backstory: 50ish male, married for twenty-something years. I have always struggled with attraction, crushes, and even feelings for, and from, others. Monogamy isn't actually what I want, and, in the spirit of a good mid-life crisis, I'm not getting any younger.

Being aware of the trauma that this might cause my wife, I have introduced the topic gently and slowly. She has reacted... well, it's hard to say. There has been no screaming and crying, which I guess is a good sign. The best description of her reaction is "ninja-level avoidant", as she deflects my every attempt to explore this in depth.

An example: after a recent talk she said "you've given me a lot to think about".

I realise what I want most is to have the relationship communication skills that are necessary to be non-monogamous in the first place. To have the openness that I hear others describe in their relationships. It's not even principally about the swinging anymore. I have communication envy!

So how do I learn to communicate like a non-monogamous person? And how do I teach someone else to do this? Is it possible?

My husband I have been in the swing lifestyle since we first started dating 6 years ago. Along the way, I have developed more romantic feelings for some of our partners, while things remain mainly about friendship and sex for my husband. I've tried to hide my feelings which has resulted in a lot of hurt. We are trying to figure out how to move forward when I feel more poly and he still feels more like a swinger and isn't interested in developing romantic relationships. I'm having trouble finding resources that talk about how to successfully move between the two.

Kara

Today I found out, in a convoluted way, that a long-term male partner of mine sexually assaulted someone. I don't know the any details. I don't know when it happened, or what happened afterwards. I do know that women don't lie about sexual assault. I also learned two others say they witnessed him pushing boundaries or putting women in uncomfortable situations , and that he's seen as a "missing stair" in some subsets of our local kink community.

This is someone I love. Someone I've only ever had positive, affirming, respectful experiences with. Someone I trusted with my life (and I'm an angry, suspicious, mostly-lesbian hardcore feminist killjoy who rarely trusts anyone).

What should I do?

Oh, and just to make things even more complicated, this partner's live-in partner is also my partner. We're a triad. Do I tell her? How?

In answering this question, Dylan lamented not reading the question before he read it as he wanted to have a more prepared answer. Dr. Liz on the other hand was able to respond quickly and effectively on ways to address members of the community to who have violated boundaries and support people who have had their boundaries violated, and how to both repair and grow the larger community after. Visit a compilation of resources Dr. Liz put together here.

 

We took a little time at the end of the episode for business. Dr. Liz put out a new video on Youtube titled "What's the 'Friend Zone' Anyway?"

Mike Joseph has been speaking lately on behalf of the Jed Foundation, a NYC based organization empowering teens and young adults with the skills and support to grow into healthy thriving adults. Visit them at www.jedfoundation.org.

You can also always find Mike Joseph at his podcast the Jheri Curl Chronicles Radio Show at www.popblerd.com.

 

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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

 

Today's intro music came via: ▁ ▂ ▃ ▄ SXIP SHIREY in a track titled: Cinnamon Stick, featuring XAVIER. Find more information about Sxip Shirey here, or check out their January 9th, 2017 cd release show at National Sawdust in NYC at 7PM for "A Bottle of Whiskey and a Handful of Bees"!

 

 

 

 

 

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:19pm CDT

Welcome to Gang Bang The Mailbag TRIPLE X! That's right, this is our thirtieth listener mailbag episode, and we're recording tonight with a live (and muted) studio audience! As always, questions have been edited for content and clarity. If you have a question for a future listener mailbag, please give us a call at 573-557-9464 and leave us a message. Tonight, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Cooper and Dylan gang bang the mailbag!

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

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Tonight we answer a voicemail question on how to maintain long distance play relationships, and the following written questions:

I'm a big fan of the podcast,of you as people and of all you're doing for people in the lifestyle. First of all I would like to say as a black man I appreciated the episode on Polyamorous as a Person of Colour, granted my experiences are a different as I am from a majority black country(Jamaica) so I swing with mostly black people.

Is being in fuck with someone a thing? Meaning you're not in love with them but you and them have a unique sexual chemistry. Is this a thing, can you be in love, just with having sex with someone?

I'm married to a great guy in a monogamous relationship. My fantasy has always been to have an MFM threesome. I finally found the courage to mention this to him a couple years ago, and he was cautious but excited about exploring; he could tell it really turned me on. The question has been who - we both want it to be someone we know well enough that we trust them, and I'm pretty picky. So we haven't really pursued it.

Well, we finally have someone in mind. Here's the thing: he's married. He and I originally met at burning man, and since then the four of us have all gotten to know each other. His wife is great. She jokes about his "girlfriends" and he implies they have some flexibility, but I'm not sure exactly what that means. When I asked him if they are poly, he said no, he doesn't like that term. So I don't really know if she'd be cool with it.

What is the protocol for trying to move things forward? I'd feel pretty comfortable asking the third if he'd be into it. I'd feel less comfortable asking his wife's "permission." Whatever happens, I don't want to foul up our friendship. (FWIW we don't have an interest in swinging at the moment.) What would you do?

 

Oh, and assuming the third is into it, any tips for keeping things sexy and comfortable for us? My husband is a little nervous how he'll feel seeing his wife with another man!

 

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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

 

 

 

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:30am CDT

Dating in the heteronormative world is difficult. It's also bizarre enough that hundreds of comedies and dramas are made about dating every year. When you zoom down to that subsection of the culture, the minorities of the LGBTQ community who are seeking others in that same minority, it gets more complicated. Tonight we're joined by Claire to talk about dating on the outskirts of sexuality, and LGBTQ matchmaking with Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, Dylan, and Cooper.

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

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You can find Claire Ah, matchmaker, at friendofafriendmatchmaking.com!

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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

 

 

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:11pm CDT

A large percentage of us dwell pretty securely within the non-monogamy closet. Friends and family may know something is different about us, but they rarely know fully what is up. That said, we live in a world where being sex-positive and progressive can make a big difference, as can standing with those who are bravely out, so tonight, Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, Cooper and Dylan talk about how to navigate being sex-positive from inside the non-monogamy closet .

As you listen, don't forget to tweet at #sspodcast!

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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

 

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:00am CDT

Life on the Swingset hosts its fifth annual trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancún, right in the heart of the Riviera Maya. Cooper, Dylan, Dr. Liz, Lyndzi, and Mr. Pent sit under the thatched roof and next to the bar of the rooftop hot tub and talk Fridays, resort staff, about the cosmic joke that is being "stuck" in Mexico while Election 2016 concluded, and about the new normal that involves orgies under the stars and so much more.

Thank you to our trip sponsors!

 

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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

 

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Category:SSDesire -- posted at: 3:54pm CDT

Communication. It doesn't need to be said, yet as it's the answer to so many questions we get asked, it really can't be overstated. One of the most important parts of communication when it comes to sexy time, is learning to ask for what you want, so we discuss that in today's episode of Life on the Swingset, along with Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Cooper, and Dylan.

Today's episode of Life on the Swingset is sponsored by Better Than the Hand, a website that aims to deconstruct stigma and toxicity surrounding male sexuality and masturbation through articles, blogs, toy reviews, and an online store. We're also sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

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Dr. Liz starts out stating that there's an assumption of wanting to respect what we think someone else wants, and that we make the assumption that "asking for what I want may negatively affect their experience". Cooper asks if Dylan has this problem because he's trying not to be selfish, Dylan suspects that's the case.

Mike Joseph mentions that homosexual sex (especially the top vs. bottom negotiation) by default has more communication than heterosexual sex. Dr. Liz comments that women that have sex with women also have a ton more conversations, and that people who consider themselves sex geeks or sex educators really bump up the level of conversation and negotiation that goes into sex.

“If you don’t ask for what you want, you’re not going to have that next level sex you’ve been dreaming of.” “Just like you need to be gracious in saying yes, you should try to be gracious in your no’s as well.”

- Dylan

“I think a lot of those shitty no’s are coming from people shame as well. The reason you give a really shitty no and react with disgust is this kind of, performative goodness. If what they want is bad, then the best way to separate yourself from it is to perform how offended you are by it.”

- Dr. Liz

"HOW DARE YOU." “Everything changed when I started asking for what I wanted, It as just as likely to be a result of you not asking for what you want than the party not giving you what you want.”

- Cooper

While Dylan explains how sometimes, when about to play with someone who has a large tool kit / is well skilled at communication, he likes to get an initial yes to exploration and chart the path forward in the moment, listening to non-language verbal cues, and body response. Mike Joseph mentions that it sounds like a recipe for uncertainty and anxiety, so Dylan talks his way through a play session with someone that's willing an open. Mike discovers that being inside someone often elicits all sorts of non-verbal responses. *grin*

Cooper mentions that sometimes, in the run up to a party or play session, it's easy to fire away a thought via instant messenger and walk away, it makes it easy to ask for something without necessarily needing feedback right away.

Dr. Liz mentions the mildest and wildest activity that many people use at the beginning of play parties and Dylan mentions that even though he uses it, tt never quite "feels" right.

“The way I’ve always seen that exercise (mildest and wildest) is that it tells you where the buffet starts and ends. It doesn’t guarantee that you’ll be able to get any specific dish on the buffet.”

- Dr. Liz

Dr. Liz also mentions that the mildest and wildest activity helps her check-in with herself, and that it's a way of conveying a range of options, not necessarily a set destination, describing it as the beginning and the end of a buffet.

The conversation moves to being awkward about starting conversation. Dr. Liz mentions she has a formula.

"What I tell people is one of the most effective ways to start a conversation, is by sharing something you’re feeling about having that conversation. You're leading with your softness instead of leading with your hardness."

- Dr. Liz

You can also find the John Oliver "This Week Tonight" video about Third Parties here:

 

 

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:05pm CDT

So, we apparently decided it was a good idea to podcast the night after election day. In Mexico. We were wrong.

We've posted a three minute rain delay episode as it is actually raining outside (instead of last year). We'll be back next week.

Thanks folks, and if you need someone who needs this... please pass it along.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:58am CDT

It's no secret that in the pantheon of the LGBT spectrum, bisexual people are looked down upon, told they don't really exist, avoided in dating life. Bisexuals also often feel less pressure to come out, as they can so easily pass as one side or the other. Paradoxically, this leads to bi invisibility and erasure, so we discuss, and make an attempt to deconstruct this in today's episode of Life on the Swingset, along with Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Cooper, and Dylan.

Today's episode of Life on the Swingset is sponsored by Better Than the Hand, a website that aims to deconstruct stigma and toxicity surrounding male sexuality and masturbation through articles, blogs, toy reviews, and an online store. We're also sponsored by Castle Megastore, a one stop shop with everything you could want, from wand vibrators, to harnesses, to lube and condoms, to a complete suite of BDSM equipment including sex furniture. If you use the promo code SWINGSET at check out you can save 20% on your order.

 

National Coming Out Day was a pretty big deal for Cooper this year. He discussed his reasons as coming out, specifically to his conservative family, as someone who has struggled with his sexuality and is still working through it, and why he chose not to identify to them as queer, even though he specifically identifies with queer.

The conversation moves to reasons why not to come out, whether because livelyhood may be jeopardized (as in Dr. Liz's relaying of her experience of being in the army before Don't Ask Don't Tell was fully repealed), or child custody may be revoked, or any other reason to stay in the closet.

Mike posits that many people aren't all open to themselves (as with straight identified men who still seek men), and mentions that even being the out partner in a gay couple has stress that comes with it.

The panel talks specifically about ways that people specifically disappear bisexuality, telling men who identify as bi that they are gay and they haven't admitted it yet (bi now, gay later), or that bisexual people, because so much effort has been exerted to create the separate gay identity that having a bridge between those identities, muddy the waters.

To Dr. Liz, the conflict presents differently as women, that there's a "penis phobia" that can exist so that bi women who have sex with men are tagged as higher risk because there is less transmission risk between women who only have sex with women. Dr. Liz also takes time to lament the fact that before she got her "super stereotypical queer haircut" everyone assumed she was straight, but now that she has it, everyone assumes she's gay!

Mike brings up that at many events he attends, almost every woman identifies as bisexual even though most men identify as straight, even if they later identify as curious or fluid, and that it may be a holdover from the aids crisis in that if you identified as bi or gay you were automatically more likely to get infected. Dr. Liz adds that there's a challenge to masculinity involved, and that men who identify as straight but still fuck men create a safe space to sexually express themselves without the stigma of challenging that masculinity, and that any question as to why that man may marry a woman even if he fucks men doesn't get asked. Dylan brings up that many bi woman in monogamous relationships get the same challenge, and they get questions as to why they "even bother" identifying as bisexual if they're marrying a man, because they'll never get to do anything about their attraction to women. Dr. Liz mentions that bisexuals get misidentified sexually based on the genitals they're interacting with as opposed to their actual preferences.

Dylan asks about the pansexual label, and whether people identifying as pansexual get to skip some of the bisexual stigma or confusion... but gets that thought dismissed as most people outside of the queer community would just not understand what it is. He follows up with a questions about whether bisexual men are seen as, as dangerous as bisexual women are to "the husbands" of straight women in monogamous relationships and... yes. Mike, as a queer man, has had his male friends told by their female partners not to hang out with them or has had his male friends' sexuality questions because of their desire to be friends with him.

Cooper mentions that whenever you present an alternative to traditional heteronormative nonmonogamy to people who actively try not to look into and not think about it, that anyone with predispositions to something other than traditional heteronormative may show interest and that's dangerous.

Dylan compares it to Doctor Who weeping angels and... pretty much stuns everyone into silence, and into a little bit of weeping.

After a break, Dr. Liz discusses ideas to help with bi erasure, whether thinking about the bi celebrities you know (and with say, Anna Paquin being bi but being identified as straight because she's married to a man), and that when you meet someone you really only have one datapoint, and to stay open.

We talk about attraction, and how you don't necessarily need to identify the way your attraction takes you, because it's ok to explore fantasy, explore the juiciness of, and even still decide to act it out without identifying as your attraction.

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Today's podcast featured music by:

Direct download: swingset265.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:39pm CDT

#ssclassic: SS 030: Love Thyself - Masturbation and Non-Monogamy
Direct download: SwingsetSpecial030.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:41pm CDT

As couples, so often we're looking for the third. The unicorn usually. They're rare, seemingly unobtainable, but when we find them it's just so magical. Except that we're often boxing that unicorn in, that single person who now has to put up with our pre-established couples dynamic and the fact that if we ghosted it'd be as a pair. Yep, tonight we're talking about couples privilege and what that means for the third so many of us are seeking.

Direct download: swingset264.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:16pm CDT

We all send dirty comments, dirty pictures, full on sext-travaganzas with our partners, playmates, friends straddling the edge of naughty. Tonight we're joined by the Swinging MILF herself, Sally Swings to talk about sending each other dirty pictures and messages through sexting.

Today's episode of Life on the Swingset is sponsored by Better Than the Hand, a website that aims to deconstruct stigma and toxicity surrounding male sexuality and masturbation through articles, blogs, toy reviews, and an online store.

The Swingset crew starts by discussing the difference between different types of sexting, "the tease", and the "taking it to completion" type, and how sexting is often compatible with our every day busy lives because we're always on the go. Sexting gives us a charge, a kick, it's something that we bring back to our partners.

Sally and Dylan commiserate over being in private photo groups when men complain how their photos only get a couple likes, while women's photos get tens or hundreds. Cooper poses the thought that unsolicited dick pics and the general dick pic "economy" gives pretty extreme incentives to women willing to share, and that because of a scarcity of that kind of photo, men swarm and ... create disincentives to sharing. Dylan discusses unsolicited dick pics as men seeking power, and as a full frontal assault on someone, while simultaneously causing men whose dick pics are refused to act aghast, as if their pics are a gift to the world and should be accepted unconditionally. Cooper decides it'd be funny to try and flood Dylan's inbox with topless photos so, in that spirit, listeners... email Dylan at dylan@lifeontheswingset.com and send him your topless pics! He consents on behalf of Dylan, Dylan indicates a measure of exasperated agreement with that given consent. R.I.P. his inbox.

In episode business, Cooper has finally finished writing his second swinging novel! Dylan brings up the We-Vibe lawsuit and feels strongly about companies collecting more information than people have really volunteered to give.

Ars Technica: Sex Toys and the Internet of Things Collide: What Could Go Wrong?

The Guardian: Tech Company Accused of Collecting Details of How Customers Use Sex Toys

 

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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

 

Today's podcast featured music by:

7 Minutes Dead - Peacock

7 Minutes Dead - Peacock (Haywyre Remix)

 

 

Direct download: swingset263.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:30am CDT

When people consider exploring non-monogamy, we tell them to picture a pretty good but occasionally difficult relationship (ie, every relationship) and then picture it expanding exponentially because you've added more people. Eventually becoming a tesseract of interlocking and interconnected parts. Each of those parts, believe it or not, have a mind of their own. We've all been in moments where it seems insurmountable, where we acknowledge that this whole damned thing is just too hard and consider the days of monogamous yore. We discuss what pushes us to the edge, and what keeps us going, because playing with and loving others feels so fucking right.

Dylan starts the discussion with a personal update; Tonia feels isolated, not having people she feels she can talk to openly even when she's surrounded by friends contributes to that feeling. It's made her consider giving up this whole non-monogamy thing and it's left Dylan feeling useless since there's not a lot that Dylan can do to directly help. Dylan's feels guilt over some recent success and he hates the feeling that he's leaving her bind.

Cooper mentions that, acknowledging the negative feedback loop Tonia's in, that multiple partners bring a particular joy that we all seek, sexually and emotionally, Dylan explanabrags a bit but then admits that his #1 attraction to this lifestyle is that he no longer has to feel along, because he's part of this exclusive (but very inclusive) club. Ginger seals the point by stating that the relationship choices we make enrich our lives through the people we connect with, and that we bring that energy back to the relationships with those we've built a life with.

Ginger recommends a book, Open Marriage: A New Life Style for Couples, by Nena O'Neill.

 

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Today's podcast featured music by:

Anna Yvette & Laura Brehm - Summer Never Ends

Pegboard Nerds - Try This

Koven - Silence

 

 

Direct download: swingset262.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:00am CDT

It's pretty much a given that, at some point or another in swinging or polyamory, there will be boundary violations, safer sex failures, and other moments you'd talked about and thought about and made rules about. No matter how much hypothetical thought goes into it, though, often being confronted with these things in the real world can cause some serious "knocked on your ass" moments. Tonight we talk about how to process boundary violations, safer sex failures, and the importance of compassion throughout the process.

Dylan relayed his recent protection failure story, consisting of a condom sliding off during sex resulting in condomless ejaculation. While the story and the people involved were incredibly sexy, the mistakes made (delaying telling a partner, processing the failure as offense, lack of perspective on the risk of playing with others) resulted in an otherwise pleasant encounter into something to suffer through.

Cooper makes the point that something will happen over the course of a swinging lifetime, and that you should treat others how you'd want to be treated if you were the one who'd "screwed up" somehow, that compassion in necessary because everyone is hurting when there's no intent to harm.

The group moves into discussing "odd-man out" scenarios in which (usually) the male half of a couple who ends up not playing has a choice on whether to be mopey and whiny about it, or whether to enjoy his partner's pleasure and the atmosphere, and to potentially live to play again later in the night. Dylan once again relays a story of not taking his usual care to see the "odd-man out" partner before joining his wife in a threesome, and speaks of some real regret in not doing so after seeing a well meaning person hurting.

Mater 
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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music by:

Rich Edwards - For You (featuring Park Avenue)

Richard Caddock, WRLD, Nitro Fun, Slips & Slurs & Subtact - Break The Silence

 

Direct download: swingset261.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:46pm CDT

There are few acts in the pantheon of sexuality that carry with them so much intrigue, coveting, and fear, as double penetration, and its more advanced siblings double vaginal and double anal. For one thing, these really can't be done in a monogamous relationship. Oh sure, we can use dildos and such things, but that's not really where the intrigue lies, does it? We discuss double penetration or "DP" in its many forms and talk other varsity level sexual moves.

Thank you to SheVibe for always being awesome, and to SexyLosers for "schlick".

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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music by:

Candyland & Ricci - Touch Me

Favright - Iceladen 

Tristam - My Friend

Direct download: swingset260.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 6:20pm CDT

While we're pretty good on the Swingset at talking about our experiences in polyamory and swinging, We have limits to our shared experience, so we reached out and asked Mike Joseph to join the Swingset and speak to us about his experience navigating dating and polyamory as a person of color.

 

We discussed some of the challenges dating couples, Dylan called the question: "Why should we have to convince people that doing the right thing will improve their lives, when they should just do the right thing?" regarding diversity. We asked about, and Mike spoke about the advantages and challenges of being unique and out as queer person of color in multiple communities.

Also, Mark Zuckerberg should give us money, give us all money.

You can find Mike Joseph on twitter @realmikejoseph, at his website PopBlerd.com, and on the Blerd Radio podcast!

 

 

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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music by:

Au5 - Follow You (feat. Danyka Nadeau) (Volant Remix)

Favright - Iceladen 

Hellberg & Aaron Richards - Synchronize (VIP Mix - Acoustic)

 

Direct download: swingset259.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:30am CDT

Ginger takes the cords of the mailbag and sits down with Dylan and a LIVE STUDIO AUDIENCE as they answer listener questions for the 29th Gang Bang the Mailbag! The Swinger Doc also sits down for another edition of the Medical Mailbag! In this mailbag he answers a listener question on risks associated with hot tub sex!


Questions in this Gang Bang the Mailbag include:

My husband and I opened our relationship about a year ago, and have both developed deep connections with other partners but haven't dipped our toes into the swinging side of things. I now have a few fun potential opportunities on the horizon to do just that. Here's the thing. I'm positive for HSV-1, and I'm one of the lucky ones who acquired it genitally. I'm responsible, educated, and up-front, but I'm feeling very anxious about it in the context of these more casual opportunities. I've already dealt with slut-shaming and with ignorant and poisonous reactions to my status. Would I even be allowed to participate at something like a play party, an orgy, or Desire? If so, what are the expectations and etiquette?

So, I have an average cock. I mean around the 50th percentile both erect and flaccid. That also makes me a grower, not a show-er. I should be OK with that. But I'm not. Hard for this sex-positive guy to admit I’m troubled by this. I really enjoy going nude in public - at appropriate places, of course. However, I have observed without fail, I'm the absolute smallest I see. I went to a clothing optional resort this weekend to work on my tan and wherever I looked EVERYONE was hung better than me - and most by a huge (pun intended) amount. The little guy tends to “turtle” and this does not help my confidence.

Is it that swinger and nudist men tend to be on the larger side by self-selection? Are we of more modest endowment simply ashamed and less inclined to participate in those activities? I enjoy swinging and have never been (knowingly) penis shamed by others. I still can't keep the penis envy in the box. Let’s hear about your experiences and observations along with some words of wisdom to us "nominally-endowed" and "turtling-inclined" men.

My wife and I are in contact with another couple through the 3nder (now Feeld) app and are considering setting up a date with them. We have been having some great group conversations via text and have become more and more interested in them. The other night the couple nonchalantly mentioned that they have a newborn. Only 4 weeks old! Needless to say, we didn't see this coming. Their profile suggests that they are into most any type of play. The elephant in the room is what condition is her body in for play?? They specifically joined the app to find her a girl to play with but are also interested in couples they say. We are assuming she is producing milk and probably still healing from the birth. How can we be respectful in asking these questions and keep her from being self conscious? What other questions should we ask in this situation? Any advice from you "seasoned" swingers? :)

My partner and I are new to swinging and having, for the most part, a grand time. But, there is one trend we've noticed that we're interested in some clarification over: people having loud conversations about boring stuff in the play areas of sex clubs. My girlfriend (a petite, curvy 5'3" roller derby girl who I'm pretty sure is the "shawty" in all the songs and quite possibly the inspiration for "Baby Got Back") and I are exhibitionists and will be going at it and suddenly, I kid you not, a couple will come in, sit nearby, and start talking about work, traffic, doctor's appointments, blah blah blah, REALLY LOUD, thus annihilating our boners.

The people doing this seem like they're old hats at swinging, so we've got to know: is this a thing? What's going on? Is it acceptable to tell them to shut the hell up even though we're in a more public area, or are long time swingers just jaded with sex and loud boring chats two feet from people who are athletically fucking just a part of the scene?

My husband and I have been dabbling in the lifestyle for about 2 years now but our experiences have been very limited so we are definitely still newbies. We would love to explore more and go to more events and stuff but it is difficult. We have 2 young children and live in a very rural area. Swinging parties that we've come across take place later in the evening and usually an hour plus drive for us. This then requires an overnight sitter.

Did we come into this lifestyle at a bad time? Seems others that have children usually have older children so they have flexibility in going out that we do not. It gets very frustrating but honestly not sure there is much to be done about it. Any tips or thoughts? Should we just give up on this whole swinger thing for now?

 

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You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

 

Today's podcast featured music by:

Tokyo Machine - OKAY

Marshmello - Alone (Streex Remake)

 

Direct download: swingset258.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:30am CDT

On this episode we'll be discussing mental illness in non-monogamy with special guest Cooper S Beckett from Life On The Swingset podcast and www.coopersbeckett.com

Those of us in non-monogamous circles spend a unique amount of time relating with others in a very intimate manner. When we let go of the standard social narrative of one partner only and admit our desire for intimacy with multiple others, we often let go of many of the other social façades in place and talk more honestly and intimately about other issues in our lives. Issues such as mental illness.

Before we start, we'd like to say that none of us are mental health professionals or experts and are merely discussing our personal experiences and observations on the subject. If you are in crisis and need help, please seek resources in your local area.

Canada

http://www.cmha.ca/mental-health/

http://suicideprevention.ca/thinking-about-suicide/find-a-crisis-centre/

You can also call 911 for help

USA

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/find-help/index.shtml

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

1-800-273-TALK (8255)

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Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea 

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere 

Promo music - Latin Rhythm by Sunsearcher 

Direct download: ss-wetcoast.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:04am CDT

Cooper gets the night off as Ginger makes herself available to Dylan to discuss his attraction to breasts, and his fear that they are the focus of too much attention and energy.

The Swinger Doc sits down for another edition of the Medical Mailbag! In this mailbag he answers a listener question on how to find high quality sex positive and nonmonogamy friendly medical care.

Help us out Swingset Fans! While we absolutely would love you to buy a shirt, buying condoms, or to support us by throwing us a dollar or two every time we release an episode, there are ways you can support us at no cost to you!

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Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music from Candyland & Shoffy titled: Faces.

Direct download: swingset257.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:04am CDT

All three of us here on the Swingset have occasionally dated and played independent of our partners, and all three of our partners have dated and played independent of us. A moment that can be tricky, especially early on in the swinging or poly lifestyles, is that moment of re-entry, where our partner (or us) returns from a date or play session. We take time to dissect how re-entry feels when you're the partner "left behind", and when you're the partner on the go.

 

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Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again. Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music from the Haywyre album: Two Fold Pt. 1: Doppelgänger, and Voice of Reason.

 

Direct download: swingset256.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:11pm CDT

We've talked a lot of bout community lately on the Swingset, and while we've specifically made the point that it's not enough to talk about diversity but to take action to seek it out, we've done a poor job of acknowledging that diversity includes diversity of racial background and we've contributed to a deafening silence around people of color in our communities.

We invited Ms Pomegranate and Mr BLK, two Baltimore, MD kink and sex educators, to join us to specifically discuss kink communities and and to discuss the experience of people of color in kink communities. Together, we hit what it can mean to feel ignored or erased when attempting to integrate into a community. We acknowledged that people of color have an extra threshold of acceptance. We discussed what makes communities safe, and what we can do to reach out and make communities feel safer to people of color and as a result, everyone. We discuss people who exploit safe spaces, and discuss what happens when an entire group takes a negative stereotype on behalf of a single bad actor. We touch on racial fetishes, assumptions surrounding them, and how without consent, racial fetishes dehumanize their targets, and how people can switch from fetish to racism as soon as they don't get what they're looking for.    

If you're attending Woodhull's Sexual Freedom Summit on August 6th, Mr BLK and Ms Pomegranate are presenting on Different Shades of Kink: Questions of Diversity in Sex Positive Lifestyles (#SFSShades) and giving rope demos throughout!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.You can find the self-described wonder twins Ms Pomegranate and Mr BLK on twitter @BlkPomegranate and on their website www.theblackpomegranate.com.

Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again.

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music from Haywyre: Sculpted, from the Two Fold Pt. 1 Album, and from Stephen Walking: Claptrap, and from Noisestorm: This Feeling.

 

Direct download: swingset255.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:20am CDT

How do you find other swingers? How do you find people to date? Those top a list of frequent questions we get on the Swingset. As outsiders looking in, as people curious to get started, we all wonder if we'll be able to do this, because there's that foreign concept in the middle. Finding people to fuck. Finding people to date. Finding people not just okay with open, but enthusiastic about it. Tonight, we talk about the pursuit, finding playmates, finding lovers.

We recorded this podcast LIVE in front of our audience of patrons. We're trying something new, if you have comments on the audio quality please send that feedback to dylan@lifeontheswingset.com, whether it is "still excellent!" or "wholly inadequate"!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, and Ginger on twitter @GingerNTheProf.

Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again.

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music from Rogue, titled Imperfect Views, and from Botnek and I See MONSTAS titled Deeper Love, remixed by Xan Griffin.

Direct download: swingset254.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:44pm CDT

We're back! We took the longest (only) hiatus in Swingset History and each of us has come back rested and ready. Today we discuss the blurring of the line between swinging and polyamory and how things tend to evolve in ways well beyond our expectations.

[HAZINESS INTENSIFIES]

We recorded this podcast LIVE in front of our audience of patrons. We're trying something new, if you have comments on the audio quality please send that feedback to dylan@lifeontheswingset.com, whether it is "still excellent!" or "wholly inadequate"!

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464).

Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, Mr. Pent on Twitter @mr_pent, and Kat on Twitter @WetCoastKat.

Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again.

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more! You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Today's podcast featured music from Anevo, titled Electric Heart (featuring Ameria), from Slips & Slurs and Mihka titled WiFi Tears, from Pixl titled Broken Bones (featuring Cassandra Kay), and our anthem for returning to the world, Puppet and Foria's song I'm Here.

 

Direct download: swingset253.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:40am CDT

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast!

For this Desire Week special, Cooper offers five essays about Desire from the audiobook version of his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory for your enjoyment.

Buy the audiobook here and use promo code DESIRE to save 10%.

Direct download: desire-wk-audiobook.mp3
Category:SSDesire -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast!

We took time out of our very hard and busy work schedules in Desire to record a discussion with JV and Shara of Ending the Sexual Dark Age as well as a couple dozen other sexy naked people, We discuss what Desire means to us, what having places where we can be our authentic selves means and about creating those spaces wherever, whenever, and with whoever we can. We hear from people about getting comfortably naked for the first time in front of other people and we hear about why we will always come back to Desire.

We also talk about having a LOT of sex

Direct download: desire-wk-thursday-184.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

Show notes for Episode 11 of the Our Better Half Podcast, March 20, 2016

Laura whispers about ASMR in your ear, interviews an ASMRtist, learns about Wisdom the Albatross, the history of dildos, and catches up on the news
 
Lauren Ostrowski Fenton, an ASMR provider
Dr. Rosalind Baculum: Wisdom the Albatross
Pt. 1 of Alberta Knish's toy series, this one on history of dildos
 
In case YOU missed it:
 Loud sex in Sweden
Skirt Clubs
Queer Voices
Robots searching for love in all your wrong places
 Paid for sex?
Neil Degrasse Tyson and cat sex


intro music: GarageBand “Collins Avenue”, 
Estelle Reiner quote from “When Harry Met Sally” (1989)
Birthday music: Gerbil Bliss - Jake's Kept a Rollin 
Exit tap dance music: Pond5

 

Dylan's Intro Music:

Direct - Tranquility

Dylan found Laura Collins Lyster Mensh at this Huffington Post article.

Direct download: OurBetterHalf11-Swingset.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:01pm CDT

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast!

Vacations. Aren't they great? But you know what's better? SEXY VACATIONS. The kind where you can be naked and flirt all day and have sex all night. Or maybe you decide on an afternoon delight. Of course, on vacation, you have time for all of the above! For those who've never been on a sexy vacation, they can also be intimidating and scary. For our ninth Swinging for Beginners episode we, enthusiastic advocates of the sexy vacation, share what we have learned so that your next sexy vacation is everything you want it to be and more.

We discuss remembering the sunscreen, being ok with spending time alone, enjoying costumes and costuming, managing expectations, packing, and more!

Direct download: desire-wk-wednesday-209.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast!

Ginger, Professor, Miko, Ronin, Ophilia, and Cooper are out of the office this week. They've jet off to paradise in Mexico at Desire Resort and Spa for a swinging vacation, the third annual Life on the Swingset Takes Desire. With 160 people along for the ride, they've spent a week of hedonism, debauchery, and drunkenness that would make the Rolling Stones sit back and take note. On Thursday of their week long trip, they sat down to talk with a live audience of friends and lovers, and do a live podcast.

This is the result.

Direct download: desire-wk-tuesday-183.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast!

 

Desire. It's an emotion, raw and real. It's a place, warm and inviting, November 7th through the 14th of 2015, we made it our space. We brought 79 (and a half, thanks to the amazing Kendra Holliday) couples to Cancun, to the Riviera Maya, to Mexico, to the Desire Resort & Spa, and we collectively made the resort our own.

J.V. Altharas and Shara Bono joined us once again to co-host the trip, run kink demonstration and education events, and all in all... to enjoy and consume everything available in paradise, in the sexiest place on earth.

Direct download: desire-wk-monday-230.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:36am CDT

Ginger and Cooper continue to gang bang that mailbag!

Tonight we answer questions about being given the go ahead to be open and then having it revoked, what it's like to be an introvert at a swing club, if voyeurism is allowed at clubs, difficulties playing separately, and transitioning from a swing relationship to a poly relationship.

What do you think Dylan is off doing on his hiatus? Tweet at us with hashtag #SSHiatus to let us know, the winner will get an awesome toy from SheVibe!

Direct download: ss252.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:00am CDT

Jealousy pops up everywhere in our lives -- at work, at home, and in romantic relationships. It can range from slight twinges to full-blown outbursts. No one likes feeling jealous, but it can be hard to avoid when you're in an alternative relationship.

The Multiamory crew has gotten intimately acquainted with jealousy many times, and in this episode we share with you five tactics for turning your jealousy dragon into a cute little shoulder lizard. (That's a thing, right?)

More great info on breaking negative or jealous thought patterns here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-forward/201512/what-do-when-you-cant-stop-thinking-about-it

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

 

Direct download: multiamory050.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:54pm CDT

We're scaling back a little at The Swingset to allow ourselves to take some needed rest. This has caused Dylan to go off to The Dakotas to hunt mastodon. Meanwhile, Ginger and Cooper hold down the fort, debating whether or not two people can in fact gang bang a mailbag.

Tonight we answer questions about bisexual exploration as men and women, bi invisibility, the one penis policy, what happens when you can't stand a partner's playmate, non-monogamy from infidelity, and how to find that great parallel poly couple.

What do you think Dylan is off doing on his hiatus? Tweet at us with hashtag #SSHiatus to let us know, the winner will get an awesome toy from SheVibe!

Direct download: ss251.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 9:56am CDT

"Pegging Enthusiast" isn't just Cooper's motto... it's his mission statement. One of the most specific sex acts, named in a contest by Dan Savage's Savage Love Readers, pegging is when a woman wearing a strap-on fucks a man in the ass. We've talked about it off and on over the years, always couched in the broader topic of anal play, but tonight we're going to give it its due. There's only one person who can be called master on this subject. The progenitor of the Pegging Paradise podcast, Ruby Ryder is here to talk about it with us.

We mentioned we preferred the following equipment while discussing pegging:

Tantus Hoss Dildo

Fuze Harmony Black Silicone Dildo

SpareParts Deuce Male Harness

SpareParts Joque Harness

SpareParts Sasha Lingerie Harness - Midnight Black

inJoyUs Strapless System

Aslan Leather Minx Asian Leather Jaguar

Ruby Ryder gave a Pegging 101 class for Not Safe with Nikki Glaser. Ruby also mentioned that Midori makes a mean scarf harness, here's a (NSFW) infographic on how to do it yourself! Ruby wrote an article for Tantus about the Truth about Strapless Strap-Ons.

The Swinger Doc discussed a listener question taking viagra as a woman for orgasm assistance! You can send him your questions on twitter @TheSwingerDoc or call 573-55-SWING, that's 573-55-9464.

 Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, Mr. Pent on Twitter @mr_pent, and Kat on Twitter @WetCoastKat.

Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again.

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!  

Tonight's episode featured the following music:

Hush - Tentakel

Slips & Slurs x Mihka! - WiFi Tears

Draper - With You (feat. Alby Hobbs)  

 

 

Direct download: swingset250.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:45am CDT

We've talked of group sex and orgies often, the logistics of sex and play parties, of mfm threesomes, and somehow danced around the actual genesis for our mailbag titles. It so happens that we know Jennifer, a frequent gang bang center of attention, and co planning conspirator, so we discuss the many ins and outs of gang bangs tonight!      

Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, Mr. Pent on Twitter @mr_pent, and Kat on Twitter @WetCoastCat.

Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again.

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!  

Tonight's episode featured the following music:

PYLOT - The Place I Once Knew

Melano - Traveller

Slips & Slurs x Mihka! - WiFi Tears  

 

 

Direct download: swingset249.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:37pm CDT

Today's episode features me, Dylan, speaking with Daisy, Dawn Ardent, Damien, and Duncan as we chat about our community and how we enjoy those of us in the community...thoroughly, being closeted, and loss.

 

I mentioned we on the Swingset needed a break and it looks like we've gotten it. Soon you'll do away with the tyranny of Dylan Thomas and you'll once again have the comfortable and familiar tyranny of Cooper S. Beckett to look forward to. We're recording an episode on Pegging with the...always outstanding Ruby Ryder, and an episode on Gang Bangs with a friend of ours, Jennifer. Google has opened its Play Music application to Podcasts!

 

If you've been reticent to use a podcast catcher but have a google account and of device that welcomes google apps you can find Life on the Swingset (and our other Swingset family podcasts) by searching for us.

 

Our full take over of Desire Resort and Spa is 2/3 full so...while we're just under six months away from our trip on November 5th through 12th, 2016 there aren't a lot of spots left. Check out Lifeontheswingset.com/desire for information. We've also had to rebrand the trip. While the drunken motto I came up with at Desire in 2015 sounded wonderful, it also had the unfortunate consequence of being trademarked. My bad. As a result I suggest an alternate Tagline.

Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again.  

 

The Swinger Doc is here to discuss a listener question about herpes! You can send him your questions on twitter @TheSwingerDoc or call 573-55-SWING, that's 573-55-9464.  

 

We featured three tracks on today's podcast.

Rezonate - Rebirth (feat. Ashley Apollodor)

Project 46 - No One (feat. Matthew Steeper)

Feint - Phosphor (feat. Miyoki)  

 

Direct download: swingset248.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:38am CDT

Hi Swingset Fans!

Dylan Theodore Thomas here,
(yes we've decided my middle name is Theodore)

Over the last six years, Life on the Swingset has grown into more than the sum of its parts. It's a podcast, it's a community, it's a podcasting network, it's a family,

One of the best parts of being here and being with you all is introducing you to new members of the family.


Shaina, known as @LoveNSausages on Twitter, is a monogamous, con brat,  happily vanilla, sex positive explorer, and a frequent visitor on /r/TrollXChromosomes on Reddit!

Magenta Prex, known as @geekymagenta on Twitter, is kinky, poly, passionate about public health sex educator and sex positive advocate, and is occasionally prone to swear words and laughter.

Tune into their podcast each week to hear stories about love and sex from guests living their dreams in a diverse sampling of all the possibilities for consensual adult relationships. Join them while they geek out about displays of relationships in different media, including shows from diverse fandoms, board games, and video games, and as they tell you...

"Don't Panic"

 

 

There are so many ways to relate, don’t panic about it! Join swinger Magenta and inquisitive Shaina podcasting from bed on sex, love, and geekery.

This week we interview Ya el. We discuss her journey into converting to Judaism and how it’s affected her love life. In addition, we learn her interesting past with Magenta, what it’s like to work in the tech field as a woman, and get into some heated discussion near the end.

Bring your towel!

Direct download: dontpanicpodcast003.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 6:32pm CDT

This isn't a regular episode. Dylan grabs the mic and takes over for a monologue on stress, thinking about being closeted, and intersectionality. In between all that Morgan tells us her origin story and tells how Swinging is her stress relief.

You can read more about Mississippi's HB1523 on NPR, here.

This really sums it up:

"the Mississippi legislation protects only three beliefs or convictions: that marriage is between a man and a woman, that sex is "properly reserved to such a marriage," and that words like "male" and "female" are "objectively determined by anatomy and genetics at birth."

 

You can Choose Your Own Adventure with Ginger, Dylan, and Cooper during our first ever Resort Takeover!

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by leaving us a tip! You can leave us a tip for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to tip us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

We featured three tracks on today's episode.

Direct - Scars (feat. Devin Santi)

Direct - Parallax

Puppet - Vagrant

 

Direct download: swingset247.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:30am CDT

Often our discussion of swinging travels down the traditional "norms" of the subculture, a couple, a man and woman, having sex with other couples. But we all know that any subculture is full of iteration after iteration of variance. Tonight we're going to talk about one of the oft overlooked swinging groups, lesbians. And as we're definitely not qualified to speak on the subject, we've brought two amazing women, Tiff & Rachel, hosts of the Sapphic Swingers podcast to have this discussion with us.

You can find the Sapphic Swingers on twitter @sapphicswingers and their podcast at http://sapphicswingers.blogspot.com/

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

Tonight's episode featured Sadbot by PIXLWarhead by Muzzy & DroptekWaiting For You (feat. Joanna Jones) by Unlike Pluto

Direct download: swingset246.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:23am CDT

Abuse isn't discussed the same way we discuss other issues in our communities. Otherwise well meaning people sometimes end up working to silence victims of abuse when they need community support the most. People in groups tend to respond poorly when someone or something threatens the group dynamic and often, victims take the brunt of that response. With forethought, preparation, and a commitment to support people who speak out, communities can work through and survive abuse.

You can find Ginny Brown on twitter @lirelyn, on Everyday Feminism, and at The Brunette's Blog.

You can find Pepper Mint on Twitter @freaksexual and at www.freaksexual.com. Y

ou can Choose Your Own Adventure with Ginger, Dylan, and Cooper during our first ever Resort Takeover!

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by leaving us a tip! You can leave us a tip for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to tip us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

We opened our episode with a track from Haywyre's Two Fold Pt. 2 Album - Transient and followed it with another track, Restraint. We also featured Puppet - Vagrant, off the Soft Spoken EP, and we closed with Direct's track - Scars (feat. Devin Santi) off the Wanna Know You EP.

 

Direct download: swingset245.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

Sometimes it feels great to be really and truly degraded. The humiliation expansion pack for BDSM draws curiosity, ire, and extreme excitement from the world. Another stop, on that same train line is cuckolding, an act that many still try to make an insult, but may unambiguously show someone at once totally comfortable with their relationship, or working through past issues. Or, of course, just enjoying the fuck out of each other, and others. Tonight we're joined by Kali, creator of Kink Academy and Author of 'Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation' to discuss cuckolding and humiliation play, on Life on the Swingset The Podcast

Direct download: swingset244.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:47am CDT

Katie Mack and Ginger Bentham are ready to #femmespread like you've never seen before. Talking honestly and earnestly about their experiences as women, Katie and Ginger get unapologetically bitchy. They share their uncensored and unfettered voices on topics like privilege, female socialization, male entitlement, rape culture, consent, and the true experience of owning your power. With humor, stories, and bonding over the pay gap, Katie and Ginger wind down with their list of demands from the men of the world...no more and no less. Brace yourself. It's the Bitchcast.

 

- Ginger Bentham

Katie Mack and Ginger Quotable - Episode 243 - The BitchcastKatie Mack Quotable - Men in My Life - Episode 243 - Bitchcast

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by leaving us a tip! You can leave us a tip for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to tip us just a little more!

You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%!

The Bitchcast. featured Karma Fields - Scandal, featuring C.C. Sheffield, off the new album New Age | Dark Age.

 

Direct download: swingset243.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:20am CDT

Six years ago, Cooper, Dylan and two other panelists blustered through far too long of an intro and a horrible title and made a thoroughly mediocre hour of podcasting. When we started this thing called the Swingset, we thought we'd do it for a little while and that would be it. Maybe we would inform, and maybe we would get laid. Little did we know that it would introduce us to wonderful people like Ginger, and Shira, and Miko, Cooper would meet his amazing partner Ophilia, We'd take amazing sexy vacations to mexico every November. To look back over the expanse of six years is rather mind boggling. 

 

We took time at the end of the episode to answer a question from a listener.

"Not a question really, more of a comment. "Why aren't there more sites like this where orthodoxy isn't religiously enforced and divergent opinions can be voiced?" Too many relationship sites are really quite intolerant.." - Bill

Peoples' experiences matter. We realized early on that we were swinging a little different than swingers were supposed to swing. It's about giving people a place that they can go to and feel like, hey there are other people that have the same experiences that I can go to and communicate with, that's what community is, and if you're not finding what you need or what from a community than go build your own, and we god-damn-diddly did that. That doesn't mean that we're exclusive, it doesn't mean we're splitting a community, it just means that we're giving people that are doing the same things or find what we're doing attractive a place where they can talk about it and listen to other people doing it, and do it. That goes across the board across any kind of sexuality, any kind of sexual identity, any way of practicing this or any other lifestyle. It all has value. The fact that we know it all exists is valuable to us. Even knowing that other ways of practicing swinging or polyamory or kink are out there, that's valuable. You don't have to practice it, you don't have to agree with it, you don't even have to acknowledge it's valid, but just being exposed to it is good enough. Most people who are afraid of what they don't understand are afraid of it because they don't understand it, because they don't see people practicing it normally. We as swingers can go out and interface with all sorts of people and not be scary dude until they realize were swingers, then when they realize we're swingers and realize they aren't scared it's because we're normal people. We're not trying to blow up their marrages, it's ok. The best way we can be an ambassadors for swinging is by being that normal fucking people and by saying hey, this isn't scary, it's ok. If we're fighting amongst each other for the mantle for the most pure swinger or best fucking swinger or old fucking swinger or progressive swinger than it all doesn't matter because then we're just fighting with each other and everybody says they're all just fucking swingers. We live in a very polarized world and it doesn't matter who got us there, it matters that we don't have to contribute to that polarization. Diddly.

This is the work that we build our idea of nonmonogamy on... we don't exclude other people based on what they believe. We all want to express our sexuality, our love, our kink, without shame or persecution.

Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by leaving us a tip! You can leave us a tip for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to tip us just a little more! You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%! We featured seven songs off of Nigel Good's Space Cadet LP:

We also made Muzzy & Droptek's track Warhead our official POLITICS AHEAD music!

Direct download: swingset242.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:19pm CDT

Hey fellow men... Dylan here. I want to take a moment to express a little sympathy. It can be incredibly hard out there to be a man. We're living in an age inspired by the speed of the internet. Our goalposts of acceptability and common respectability on social issues and on how we relate to others in the world change what seems like weekly at times. Our perception of our gender as a responsibility hasn't kept up with the evolution of gender as identity and of sexuality as more fluid than we were ever told was possible.

We are being forced to resolve the changes in the world with what we think of as our masculine role, equality means a shift in power, equity means a shift in resources, and the things we've always been taught to be afraid of are popping up all around us.

It doesn't mean we have to be dicks about all of it.

 

So.

Coop and I spent the last hour talking a lot about how women experience harassment and navigate rape culture and I'm 100% conscious about how a couple of dudes talking about women can come off... but out of 241 episodes... I thought we could take a little time to sit down with our fellow men and level.

 
Women largely get ignored by men and it sucks. Nothing Cooper and I said should be eye-popping or a surprise but... I guarantee we might have turned a few of your heads or noses while we chatted, gender notwithstanding and I'm hoping that some of that coming from us might make it more likely for some of you to help others listen to women.
 
The women of the Swingset are putting together an episode (or two) to discuss topics from this episode... and probably point out how a couple dudes talking about women's experiences got it wrong. That's ok, we'll own that. Until that comes out I wanted to put a spotlight on a few people.
 
Writer and Filmmaker De La Fro posted an article titled "No, You Are Not a Nice Guy" that really disassembles the male entitlement / transactional nature of what some guys call "being a nice guy"
 
There are some damn wonderful people on everydayfeminism.com and I found a three minute spoken word piece by contributor Desiree Dallagiacomo and Mwende Katwiwa aka: FreeQuency titled "American Rape Culture" that illustrates just how insidious the language of rape culture has been in popular music.
 
Our own Crista Anne, our rainbow-colored pleasure revolutionary, through her mission to reclaim her orgasms ended up enduring an intense and sustained amount of harassment for daring to speak loudly and unapologetically. She writes about that harassment at cristaanne.com/harassment.
 
Ella Dawson has dared to write and speak about her experiences navigating sexuality with herpes and how as a result of that she's also endured sustained harassment. She posted an article, "Everything 2015 Taught Me About Harassment" that really puts a fine point on it.
 
We spend a lot of time on the Swingset breaking out our experiences so you can learn from the journey. We aren't filtering what we're going through and neither are these women and there's value in it. They're unapologetic, they're strong, they deserve to be listened to. That they're speaking uncomfortable truths and they're laying the raw filth of mysogyny out for all of us to see. It doesn't make it complaining... it makes it necessary
 
You know you can always write us at contact@lifeontheswingset.com and leave us a voicemail at 573-55-swing, that's 573-557-9464.

We introduced today's fireside man-chat with Varien - Seduction.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

As a well known hypochondriac and germophobe who'd just as soon wrap his entire body in the Titan Full Body Condoms from The Naked Gun if only they sold them at The Lucky Bloke, It's no surprise that Cooper thinks a lot about eroticizing safer sex. Thinking about it, talking about it, trying really hard to do it, it’s all there. On Swingset’s 2015 desire trip, Cooper sat next to The Doctor, no, not THAT Doctor, though he did feel an urge to let this sexy man take him on adventures. They knew too much about STIs and often scared themselves silly.

You can find The Doctor on twitter @Sexxypixie. Rawr.

Cooper mentioned the Sex MythBusters’ video, Sex Myth #2: The Oral Sex Aficionado.

Today’s episode featured Haywyre’s tracks, Moment, Dichotomy (Soft Mix), and The Schism, off of his Two Fold Pt. 1 and Two Fold Pt. 2 albums. We also continued to use Stephen Walking - Claptrap because… well it’s everywhere we want it to be. Like Uberlube.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:00am CDT

Ginger sits down with Cooper for a one-on-one discussion of his new novel about swinging A Life Less Monogamous, recorded just days before the book launch. After they chat for a while, Cooper shares the first two chapters of the novel's upcoming audiobook version narrated by himself and Kat Stark.

You can buy the book now RIGHT HERE at ALifeLessMonogamous.com - use promo code SWINGSET at checkout to save 10%!

The Novel's Synopsis:

We all come to a point in our lives where we finally ask the ever-looming question, “Is this all there is?” And most of us coast along afterwards, just accepting that the answer to that question is probably, “Yes, this is it.” Sometimes, though, we’re lucky. Sometimes we run into the right people at the right time.

Ryan and Jennifer are at that point in their marriage, asking that question. Luckily, tonight at a friend’s holiday party, they’re about to run into those very right people at exactly the right time. Bruce and Paige have successfully crossed the Rubicon into the realm of “what else there is.” They’ve discovered delights and a way of living that Ryan and Jennifer have only ever dreamed about.

Their secret? Bruce and Paige are swingers. And very soon now, thanks to a chance meeting and a new friendship, Ryan and Jennifer will close their eyes, clasp hands, and jump into the deep end of life, exploring the untold wonders of sexuality. Hedonistic pleasures that they can’t even fathom yet, threesomes and sex parties and a deep connection with friends and with each other. The swinging lifestyle.

Today is the day they proclaim: “There is more.” Today is the day they change their lives. 

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Category:Podcast -- posted at: 12:00am CDT

One finger, two finger, three finger, four...sometimes even that's not enough and you need to go the full five. To fisting! Huzzah! Tonight we're joined by the amazing Andre Shakti to talk about fisting, best practices, intensity, and what it's like to have a full hand inside you.

You can find Andre Shakti at andreshaktixxx.com and on twitter @AndreShakti.

Andre mentioned Sassy by Sliquid water based anal gel lubricant and Swiss Navy Silicon lubricant.

This episode we featured Sock Puppet by Sticky Biscuits! They have a new song out, Ungooglable You!

We also featured Volant - Full Circle in our intro, Stephen Walking - Claptrap during our between commercial outtakes, and Haywyre - Do You Don’t You in our outro and after episode outtakes.

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Buy "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook at mylifeontheswingset.com and pre-order my novel A Life Less Monogamous and save 25% on the ebook or paperback at alifelessmonogamous.com!

Want to attend InfinityCon in Atlanta, GA from February 4th-7th 2016 to learn skills for navigating non-monogamy challenges, and to better connect with loves and liked minded people? Visit InfinityCon.net and tweet at #InfinityCon!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:30am CDT

We discovered tonight's guest Andre Shakti after seeing her in the wonderful adult film Marriage 2.0, naturally smitten, we followed that internet rabbit hole down and discovered her site and the other work she's done. We immediately wanted to have her on the Swingset to talk about a subject we've talked around but never directly about, live porn and web camming, and as it's arguably the thing that has changed porn most over the last decade.


This Episode brought to you by traumatic near tragedy in Toy Story 3 and Windows 10. Windows 10, the operating system that won't allow you to choose what version of skype to use. every. thanks Windows 10.

 

 

You can find Andre Shakti on Twitter @andreshakti and at andreshaktixxx.com! Andre is performing with Daisy Ducati at Little Darlings in San Francisco on Saturday, February 6th, 2016. Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by leaving us a tip! You can leave us a tip for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to tip us just a little more! We featured four tracks in this episode; our Welcome to 2016 exposition features Puppet & Cormak - Enough Is Enough (feat. Richard Caddock). Our episode introduction features TwoThirds - Breathe. Our "while we were on commerical bloopers" chat featured Stephen Walking - Claptrap. Our outro features Tristan & Braken - Far Away. Our after episode outtakes feature TwoThirds - Waking Dreams (feat. Laura Brehm). Buy "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook at mylifeontheswingset.com and pre-order my novel A Life Less Monogamous and save 25% on the ebook or paperback at alifelessmonogamous.com! Want to attend InfinityCon in Atlanta, GA from February 4th-7th 2016 to learn skills for navigating non-monogamy challenges, and to better connect with loves and liked minded people? Visit InfinityCon.net and tweet at #InfinityCon! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:30am CDT

We here on the swingset have a lot of sex. #explanabrag. We've spoken at length about how casual that sex may actually be, and that definition has changed over the years for many of us. Tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast we're talking about what casual sex means to us, and debate whether it can cross over into something resembling TOO casual.

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We featured four tracks in this episode; our Welcome to 2016 exposition featured Puppet & Cormak - Enough Is Enough (feat. Richard Caddock). Our episode introduction featured Muzzy - Letz Rock. Our "while we were on commerical bloopers" chat featured Muzzy & Roniit - Pegasus, both from the Letz Rock EP. Our episode outro and redacted content featured Pegboard Nerds - Emoji ($unday $ervice Remix), available on the Pink Cloud (The Remixes) album.

Buy "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook at mylifeontheswingset.com and pre-order my novel A Life Less Monogamous and save 25% on the ebook or paperback at alifelessmonogamous.com!

Want to attend InfinityCon in Atlanta, GA from February 4th-7th 2016 to learn skills for navigating non-monogamy challenges, and to better connect with loves and liked minded people? Visit InfinityCon.net and tweet at #InfinityCon!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:00am CDT

For our first episode of 2016 we return to the mailbag for another listener question gang bang. We talk about seeking a well endowed man for an MFM threesome, who should pay for the hotel, swinging vs poly, should you warn before ejaulating from a blowjob, newbies and being left out, and toys that'll work for a gspot and prostate in pegging. Questions have been edited for time and clarity. If you have a question for The Swingset, please call 573-55 SWING that's 573-557-9464 to leave your voicemail for an upcoming mailbag episode!

Toys mentioned during tonight's episode: The Fuze Tango dual dildo, and the RodeOH Harness.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 8:19pm CDT

Today, on this last day of 2015, we commit to one more gang bang… the mailbag episode. We discuss dating apps, changes in desire, situational erectile dysfunction and jealousy and panic attacks. Questions have been edited for time and clarity. If you have a question for The Swingset, please call 573-55 SWING that's 573-557-9464 to leave your voicemail for an upcoming mailbag episode!

 

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We featured the following music in today’s episode: Sushi Killer & Kevin Villecc’s - Anime Bae, Stephen Walking – Claptrap, OpenWater & Matt Vice – No Regrets, and DotEXE – Gibberish.

 

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:49pm CDT

Hey, it’s Cooper, and boy, it's the holidays again, and here I sit in the Ski Chalet high atop Mount Swingset, crackling fire, hot chocolate spiked with RumChata, wearing my 10th Doctor onesie and reminiscing. I think about all that's happened this year, the things that changed, my god. The only thing that could make this evening better is...oh, look out the window! Why it's Ginger Bentham

%smalltalk%

While you're helping yourself to a drink, Gin, I see another good friend, former swinger president himself, Dylan Thomas!

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Why it’s Katie Mack! Welcome to the Chalet

 

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We featured an absurd amount of music today.

In addition to the wonderful Rachel Lark’s There’s Nothing Sexy about Christmas and O’ Poly Night we played:

DotEXE - Come Back To Me

Hellberg - Jingle Bells

Mr. FijiWiji - Imaginary Friend, featuring Brenton Mattheus

Muzzy - Snowman Swag

Rogue - Goodbye (Winter Chords)

Stephen Walking - Sleigh Ride

and Televisor's - We Wish You a Merry Christmas.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:19pm CDT

The degree of complexity in relationship dynamics is exponential in non-monogamy. What that bullshit was trying to say, was that people are complicated, and every time you add one to your life, things get more complicated. One of the most difficult situations in non-monogamy is helping your partner or paramour deal with major life and relationship flux that doesn't directly involve you.

 

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Today our intro and outro featured Astronaut – Champions, the WRLD Remix featuring Harry Brooks Junior. Our commercial interludes and end of the episode outtakes featured PIXL – Here For You, featuring Q’AILA.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:29am CDT

Soooo, hi guys, it’s Dylan, and I have this problem. Sometimes I want to be up close and personal with someone. I want that full body contact. I want to slide right up next to someone while I'm sliding in and out of someone, I want to kiss them gently, I want my hair in their face and their hair in my face, I want to feel their breath on my neck and I want to feel the weight of my chest pushing against their tits.

But. sometimes I want to sit back, stand back, kneel back, and just fucking fuck the people I'm fucking. I want to watch them move, I want to see their faces scrunch, I want to watch their tits bounce, I want to give them a slap, a smack, and I want to watch my cock as it pistons in and out of someone

But you know someone I want to flip someone over and pound them against a headboard. Sometimes I want to execute the rare triple lutz upper decker reverse cowgirl in the pyramid configuration.

But sometimes things get in the way. Genital position, body type, genital shape, friction points, stamina, and ability can conspire to work against crafting the scene I want or the grouping I want, and I just won't be able to fuck the person or people I want to fuck the way I want to fuck them.

Do I give up? Do -YOU- give up?

Fuck no!

We have the knowledge, we have the technology, we have the simple machines, we have the will, and we'll craft the way,

 

You can find Crista Anne at her website and on twitter @pinkness!

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Today our intro and outro featured Feint - We Won't Be Alone (feat. Laura Brehm) and our end of the episode outtakes featured Deon Custom – Together.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:10pm CDT

Hello and many Greetings to all you perverts, I’m recording live from Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun, Mexico! Earlier today I sat down with upwards of thirty, and likely many less than two hundred perverts for a discussion about spaces. What makes a space special? What helps make people feel safe? What makes a space a focal point for a community?

As we moved through a “how do we find other perverts” discussion, we stumbled on the question of what it means to stay closeted and to come out these days, drawing parallels and differences between the nonmonogamous and queer communities, and examining how it’s possible to win the hearts and minds of others when engaging them “behind enemy lines”.

Usually I’d have a little more to say, but I’m all talked out… and kissed out, and blissed out… I mean, really, if you’ve never made out with a tequila flavored shotglass…. You should give it a try.

But before you search for a shotglass with a flared base, this has been… quite literally, been a recording taken at the Gentleperverts’ Social Club, on location, in Mexico. You can find more Gentleperverts’ Social Club podcasts every month at www.gentleperverts.com and discuss our latest episodes and topics on twitter with @GentlePerverts and me @DylanTheThomas. You can find me, Dylan Thomas, on FacebookSpotify and Fetlife as DylanTheThomas. If you have a submission, a story, a signal boost request, or an idea for a topic send that over to me at dylan@lifeontheswingset.com. If you like having me record live, on location, throw me a buck or two at tip.gentleperverts.com.

Thanks for listening, and I hope to hear from you all soon.

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Category:SSDesire -- posted at: 12:32am CDT

This year for Swingset Takes Desire we hosted a bunch of kinky events, and a great time was had by all. This discussion-group style episode was recorded live on our last full day at the resort, full of reminiscence of good times had and great ideas for next year’s full-resort takeover.

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Category:SSDesire -- posted at: 11:09pm CDT

Desire. It's an emotion, raw and real. It's a place, warm and inviting, November 7th through the 14th of 2015, we made it our space. We brought 79 (and a half, thanks to the amazing Kendra Holliday) couples to Cancun, to the Riviera Maya, to Mexico, to the Desire Resort & Spa, and we collectively made the resort our own.

J.V. Altharas and Shara Bono joined us once again to co-host the trip, run kink demonstration and education events, and all in all... to enjoy and consume everything available in paradise, in the sexiest place on earth.

 

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The Swingset Takes Over Desire 2016: Choose Your Own Adventure! Join us November 5th through the 12th of 2016 as we execute a complete take over of Desire Resort & Spa in the Riviera Maya, in Cancun, in Mexico... in Paradise.

Today, our "between the commercials" music featured Varien - Transmissions from Lemuria, our commercial bumpers used samples from Deon Custom - Together, our outro featured Nigel Good - No Way Back Up (feat. Illuminor) and our "super special conversations" were backed by Karma Fields - Skyline.

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Category:SSDesire -- posted at: 7:47am CDT

Hi Swingset Fans! We're in Desire and we don't have a new episode for you this week but we're recharging, recording, and we'll be back next week with another wonderful episode with Crista Anne on The Physics of Sex - Bodies, Positions, Objects in Motion, and Mad Mods.

If you want more I suggest heading over to Swingset.FM and checking out the latest The Gentleperverts' Social Club, Intellectual Foreplay, Eat The Rudecast, Sex Ed A-Go-Go, or... check out our Swingset Classic: Swingerpiece Theater Presents - Weinergate 2: The Embiggening.

Also consider supporting our ability to continue serving you by contributing as little as a dollar an episode or a dollar a month at lifeontheswingset.com/tip.

 

Thanks!

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:07am CDT

Many of us are easily attracted to other people, That can lead us to wanting to be with ALL of the people. Swinging lends itself to that pretty well but poly, not so much. Of course, as with anything, abundant swinging can go bad and abundant poly can be amazing. When you do non-monogamy right, abundance comes often and it can feel like a burden, like a curse, even when your problem is an overflow of wonderful people and hot hot sex.

 

You can find Crista Anne at her website and on twitter @pinkness!

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Today, our intro featured Nigel Good - No Way Back Up (feat. Illuminor), our "between the commercials" music featured Varien - Transmissions from Lemuria, and we ended the show with Karma Fields - Skyline.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:01am CDT

One of the most enjoyable experiences you can have is putting on your headphones, closing your eyes, and listening to Rose Caraway, the Sexy Librarian, breathe some erotica right into your ears. Tonight we're talking with Rose about her audiobook erotica, phone sex, and dirty talk

 

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Life on the Swingset's outro featured Varien - Transmissions from Lemuria. We also featured Nigel Good - No Way Back Up (feat. Illuminor)Deon Custom - Together and Protostar & Draper - Chrysalis.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:44am CDT

Tonight we're exploring our thoughts on sexual attraction, what it means and why we're attracted to others, why others may be attracted to us and how that feels, and perhaps most important of all, what makes us feel sexy.

We discuss attraction to others; what you're attracted to, how that changes over time, what draws you in, what to do with that attraction. We ponder what being attracted to types means, we think about generosity and attraction, and we talk about weight loss and self-perception.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 5:29pm CDT

A while back, though who knows how long, because memory is fluid, like sexuality, Ginger, the coiner of terms, suggested Sintrovert and Sextrovert as two leading categories of sexually explorative folk. These modified versions of introvert and extrovert help to remove the stigma attached, and suggest that however you embrace your sexuality, you're on the right page for engaging.

 

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Today, Life on the Swingset's outro featured Protostar & Draper - Chrysalis.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:55pm CDT

"Why Are People Into That" is a question that people around the world ask of many things, often about various sexual kinks, fetishes, and practices. Podcast host Tina Horn asks on a regular basis, as her show deconstructs with a guest why people might be into a certain thing. We decided to turn that question around for our discussion with her and ask Why we push our sexual boundaries, and why doing so is important. That's tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast.

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Today, Life on the Swingset's outro featured Protostar & Draper - Chrysalis.

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Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:47pm CDT

Our discussion of genitals, both our own and those belonging to other people, simply could not be contained by a single episode, so we return to the subject again, this time discussing labiaplasty, penis enlargement, being happy with your genitals as they are, body hair, shaving, and performance issues (ie, am I hard enough, am I wet enough?)

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Today, Life on the Swingset's outro featured Protostar & Draper - Chrysalis.

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Direct download: swingset224.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:15pm CDT

Whether you had to find a mirror to see yours or you could just look down and not miss it, we've all had first encounters with our bits, you know, our genitals. In a culture that espouses a specific body ideal, we can't escape wondering if even our most private parts hold up by comparison. Bodies are amazing because of diversity not despite it. In this episode, Cooper, Ginger, Dylan and Katie Mack discuss how body positivity wins the day.

To SheVibe: Thank you! Your magazine cover is … without too much hyperbole… possibly the greatest thing that has ever happened. It’s amazing and we will show our appreciation at every opportunity. We dedicate this episode to you.

We discuss a couple email responses to the following letters (warning: politics ahead):

Cooper... Cooper... Cooper... I'm disappointed. I listen to your podcast regularly and am a fan. But as a Kinkster/swinger/conservative I have to say I was saddened by your recent spewing of vitriol towards anyone who doesn't believe as you believe.

For background.... I am a straight, polyamorous, loving dominant male. I was raised with 4 sisters by parents that instilled common courtesy and respect. From the day I started studying about alternative lifestyles, I was repeatedly reminded that "My kink is not your kink". I understood that as a clear directive to not be derisive towards another's proclivities. As long as it was safe sane and consensual, more power to them. I may not know all the intricacies of their dynamic and it wasn't my job to pass judgement. I had hoped for the same kind of inclusion and acceptance from your podcast. Your dismissive attitude towards Christians and republicans was quite disconcerting. Your right to be an Atheist does not preclude another from believing in the "fairy tales" they hold dear. Your right to vote based on a woman's choice of what to do with their body does not preclude another from believing that bigger government will NOT ensure the rights of the individual are protected and/or provided for. With the history of Conrail, the Postal Service and Veterans Hospitals as examples, I'm more convinced than ever that the answer lies in the community rather than a larger ineffective centralized governments control.

I'm sure you don't want to hear my political leanings any more than I want to hear about your epic prostate orgasm. That being said, I would never denigrate you for your kink or political affiliations.

And to Dylan:

Just finished LotSS 220, and I wanted to write in with a comment on Dylan's suggestion for a family-friendly sexy vacation destination.

While he's anxiously waiting for Disney Cruise Lines to launch their Multi-Tier Mascot Mediterranean Fuckboat, his suggestion of a build-your-own vacation is workable, with one caveat; expecting a gathering of children to make it through the night without finding -something- they think they need an adult for, especially when it's super important that they stay away, is utter folly, no matter how much you pay the kids who are ostensibly in charge. But this is a problem that can be solved by logistics. If you know you have N couples with children who would be up for a sexy vacation (I am assuming you are on the board of the Homeowners Association to have access to that sort of info) you book your hotel rooms for at least N nights. Each couple then volunteers to watch the kids during one evening while the rest of the party congregates at a room at an entirely different hotel for sexy times. That way, every adult gets at least N-1 opportunities to participate, the kids get N awesome sleepover-like parties, and nobody has to leave their kids under the care of someone they don't trust enough to show their junk to.

Remember, it takes a village to raise an orgy.

Direct download: swingset223.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:12am CDT

Swingset does as Chicago does with a 3-peat dip into the mailbag! We discuss discuss shy male swingers, just starting out in the lifestyle, couples’ jealousy, frustration with people who don’t read online profiles in their entirety, and Christian swingers! As always questions are edited for time and cohesion. If you have a question for an upcoming mailbag show, please leave us a voicemail at 573-557-9464.

Warning: Dylan tells TWO stories, and neither are particularly sexy but both are fairly gripping!

 

Question 1:

I'm hoping for some words of wisdom for a guy in the lifestyle who struggles to be appropriately assertive. While single I was one of those guys who needed flares, sirens, and flashing lights to know a woman was interested in me, and even then I was often hesitant. I'm now happily coupled and in the lifestyle, but no better at hitting on women or initiating any touching.

Part of my hang-up is the nausea induced by certain sleazy guys who "accidentally" rub against people in crowds or greet everyone with a grope. But a balance between assault and friendly passivity can't be that hard to find, right? This has created some tension with my better half, because she feels as if she has to do more of the work when we're in sexy circumstances, and it makes it harder for me to enjoy lifestyle events.

 

Question 2:

My wife and I have a wonderful marriage, awesome communication and an even better sex life. We're entertaining a soft swap, FMF interaction. We want to make an informed decision together before fully trying swinging. What can you suggest tips, advice, information wise? And what's the next step if we wanted to go through with it?

Dylan Thomas’ note:

By the way, our wonderful “Swinging for Beginners” series has quite a bit of content that can help! Visit lifeontheswingset.com/category/swinging-for-beginners for nine episodes where we focus entirely on the “new to the lifestyle” experience!

 

Question 3:

We were doing a lot of lifestyle events and really never met anyone that tripped both of our triggers until we met this one couple. We became very close, sharing each other and attending sexy events but staying faithful to each other as couples until recently. They attended an event and hooked up with a group of people, didn't invite us and now we are struggling with the relationship. Sort of had our hearts broken. We never had any kind of agreement to stay with each other so we can't fault them. Wondering if you have any advice?

 

Question 4:

We're busy and don't play with other couples (we prefer threesomes and orgies). That doesn't mean we don't want to meet sexy new friends, just that we'd rather do it in larger settings. We also get a fair amount of attention on the swinger dating sites -- almost always from couples who want to meet up. (Our profile is clear that we don't play with couples, but it's obvious that some people only look at pictures.) Responding with something like, "we're not available to meet, but we'll be at a meet and greet so please come and say hello!" has always been met with silence. Are we doing something wrong? Is there a better way to say what we're looking for?

 

Question 5:

We are Christians and go to church on Sunday. Are there a lot of Christian swingers? I'm afraid it will feel a little weird going to a club and having some fun then going to church a few days later.

Direct download: swingset222.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:40am CDT

Welcome back to the Life on the Swingset mailbag where we're reading listener questions! As always questions are edited for time and cohesion unlike this podcast. If you have a question for an upcoming mailbag show, please leave us a voicemail at 573-557-9464 or send us an email at contact@lifeontheswingset.com. Tonight we discuss partnering with a former swinger as a monogamous couple, holding out on ejaculation, coming out as an atheist, and trusting each other in the lifestyle.

 

We also review the Fleshjack Go, we run a giveaway for Cinekink Chicago, and run a giveaway for free audible copy of My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging and Polyamory, but you have to listen to find out how to win!

Today, Life on the Swingset's outro and voicemail featured Protostar & Draper - Chrysalis.

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Head over to Reddit.com/r/SwingsetFM and let us know what you think!

Direct download: swingset221.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 4:05pm CDT

We're dipping back into the mailbag for another Life on the Swingset gang bang of your listener voicemails and emails. As always questions are edited for time and cohesion. If you have a question for an upcoming mailbag show, please leave us a voicemail at 573-557-9464 or email us at contact@lifeontheswingset.com.

We discuss swinging as a recovering alcoholic, discussing sex with vanilla friends, why men are / aren’t bad at sex in the lifestyle, sexy vacations … with kids?!, waning desire, and whether girl on girl play counts as full swap or soft swap!  Plus… PLUS… We enjoy cameos by Morgan Freeman, Sean Connery, Mason Verger, Christopher Walken, and Reid Mihalko!

Direct download: swingset220.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:03am CDT

Everybody's sex drive is different, and it's likely that everybody who has ever had a sex drive has had assumptions made about it. Swingers, polyamorists, and other non-mono practicioners have had loads of assumptions made about their sex drive. So tonight on Life on the Swingset, the Podcast we're going to discuss those assumptions, and how the concept of sex drive is often seen through gendered and socio economic lenses. 

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

Comments? Complaints? Head over to Reddit.com/r/SwingsetFM and let us know what you think!

Direct download: swingset219.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 6:47pm CDT

Do white rocks in front of a house in the suburbs mean there might be swingers inside? Believe it or not, this is still a question we get, without fail, every month or so. This way of picking out swingers is a part of our history. Then history became legend. Legend became myth. And along with so many ideas about swinging, open relationships, and sexuality, they became part of the rich folklore that has accompanied our favorite past-time. We discuss swinger history and sexual folklore with guestDr. Jeana Jorgensen.

Direct download: swingset218.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:06pm CDT

Recently, our own United States of America had a watershed moment. An injustice so deeply ingrained into what we've called society, what we've called family, what we've called "real and respectable” with one fell swoop, became righted as a matter of not just public policy, but as law.

The Supreme Court's decision on Obergefell v. Hodges granted marriage equality for all persons, and while the rest of the country's legal structure catches up to the new reality, we're seeing a vocal minority of polyamorous people... and a surprising amount of popular media address the possibility of multiple partner marriage… Poly marriage.

We welcome Cunning Minx back to the Swingset, where she and Dylan step on their soap boxes and bring up Justice Roberts’ dissent’s thoughts on a plural marriage slippery slope, Justice Kennedy’s majority opinion based on fundamental rights instead of the expected equal protection. We discuss what marriage is anyway and what it represents between us as people, us as the government, and us and our beliefs. We look at where polyamorous groupings and families are vulnerable and what marriage, or a set of contracts granting protection, or possibly an incorporation would do to protect them.

Also… we discuss why we’re in the “Reefer Madness” stage of the general public recognizing what polyamory is.

Some articles that might interest you since they informed our discussion (for better or worse… THANKS MEDIA):

http://thefederalist.com/2015/07/06/polyamory-is-bad-for-kids-polyamorists-and-society/#disqus_thread

http://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2015/07/case-against-polygamy/397823/?utm_source=SFFB

http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2015/07/10/heres-why-people-are-arguing-over-whether-polygamy-is-the-next-gay-marriage-debate/

http://www.slate.com/articles/news_and_politics/politics/2015/06/is_polygamy_next_after_gay_marriage_chief_justice_roberts_obergefell_dissent.html

Direct download: swingset217.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:35pm CDT

We all go on dates. Maybe it's a play date with another sexy couple. Maybe it's a romantic getaway with a partner we only see every couple months. Maybe it's a night of taking off your clothes and cleaning someone's apartment for them while they watch you barely contain your excitement. We all date, and we all eventually have other relationships, people we're making a life with, other people we're fucking, maybe a daddy, and while what we're doing is ultimately our business, we still want to do right by and be right with the people we choose to call our people.

We discuss how hard it is to manage multiple relationships and that respecting multiple people simultaneously while developing new relationships takes skill, mindfulness, presence, and lots of communication of expectations, needs and considarations.

Direct download: swingset216.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 2:10pm CDT

We've all been in situations that we were really... REALLY eager to be in.... then realize in the moment maybe we don't want to be in this particular situation but you like everyone involved and you don't want to spoil the mood, and you want to step back gracefully and disengage. We discuss learning how to get a handle on your own emotions both in the moment and after, we relay some of our strategies in communicating lack of enthusiasm for the act without accidentally conveying lack of enthusiasm for the person, and take care of some "business".

Direct download: swingset215.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:37am CDT

In the wake of both Fetlife and Adult Friend Finder getting their content and naughty secrets scraped and posted online, there has been a renewed discussion about secrecy and privacy in swinging & polyamory. Katie Mack joins us to discuss these topics and think about what it means to be secretive, how it relates to our own private closets and give you suggestions on maintaining your cone of privacy in the modern Internet age. Social networks, dating & swinging sites, privacy v. secrecy, photos, (more) secure payment methods, burner phones and email accounts are all on the table.

Here’s a Krebs on Security article on recent breaches. Here’s an article addressing the AdultFriendFinder breach.

Direct download: swingset214.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:28pm CDT

Welcome to our 21st Gang Bang the Mailbag! As always, if you want to ask a question via voicemail or text: 573-55-SWING, that's 573-557-9464, or send us an email at contact@lifeontheswingset.comAs always we want to remind those of you at home to tweet along with us at #sspodcast

We address a “The Professor” callout from a listener on the definition of monogamy, a listener looking for advice on an MFM in Tokyo, large age differences between partners in swinging, a listener whose wife kind of wants out of non-monogamy, and the trials and tribulations of being with a partner who has two left sexual feet.

Cooper also throws out there that a great name for a new band would be Suburbanesque World of Heteronormative Privilege.

Also from Dylan:

OH GOD IT WAS Q-TIP!

CANADA, YOU DID THIS TO ME

Direct download: swingset213.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:33pm CDT

Believe it or not, our voicemail gang bang overflowed and we were left with extra voicemails. With that in mind, we've collected some listener emails to do our twentieth mailbag gangbang! As always, if you want to ask a question via voicemail or text: 573-55-SWING, that's 573-557-9464, or send us an email at contact@lifeontheswingset.com. All questions have been edited to fit in the space allowed.

We discuss meeting opposite partners before private dates, expectations and consent, making the first move at clubs, soft swapping with single males and solidifying rules as newbies as well as getting over boundary violations.

Direct download: swingset212.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:04am CDT

Holy Shit Shira B. Katz is here! … and she’s causing trouble! … and she starts a wonderful conversation with Ginger about mindfulness! ….and she asks what we’ve been doing with our lives and we update her with an episode almost entirely about “our business” which included the introduction of the term relationship anarchy.

It was a pleasure and we hope it happens again. J

…also “dumping with Dylan” may become a thing now. And I guess “Just the Tip with Dylan Thomas”.

Maybe.

Whatever.

 

We reference Headspace (the website that apparently treats your head right) and Dr. Dan Siegel’s book Mindsight

Direct download: swingset211.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:18am CDT

Adult film star, author, sex educator, outspoken feminist and advocate for sexual acceptance Nina Hartley joins and honors us with a conversation on the Swingset.

Nina was a pioneer of sex positivity before sex positivity was a thing. A prolific performer, an outspoken feminist and an advocate for sexual acceptance (as a board member of the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance), Nina is the sexual freedom fighter we all admire. We are deeply honored to welcome her onto the Swingset.

After Nina leaves, Dylan responds to an email we received regarding our latest Bedcast by both acknowledging our own failings and by shining light on the absurdity of claiming lack of responsibility through silence and complacency.

Direct download: swingset210.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 11:03am CDT

Vacations. Aren't they great? But you know what's better? SEXY VACATIONS. The kind where you can be naked and flirt all day and have sex all night. Or maybe you decide on an afternoon delight. Of course, on vacation, you have time for all of the above! For those who've never been on a sexy vacation, they can also be intimidating and scary. For our ninth Swinging for Dummies episode we, enthusiastic advocates of the sexy vacation, share what we have learned so that your next sexy vacation is everything you want it to be and more. That's tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast.

 

Tonight's episode is sponsored by our good friends at Gamelink.com, which is where you should be going for your porn!

Direct download: swingset209.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:49pm CDT

Adult film star and filmmaker jessica drake has seen the porn industry through some of its most radical and affecting changes, and has moved herself from star to writer to educator with her jessica drake's Guide to Wicked Sex Series. Tonight she's joining us to discuss this evolution of an industry. We chat about how the industry deals with the double edged sword of the Internet, the difference between porn as entertainment and porn as education, cyber bullying, and we giggled about sitting on the floor crosslegged.

Direct download: ss208.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 7:46am CDT

Way back in 2011 Life on the Swingset issued a pleasure quest. Find a quality ejaculating dildo. Over the years, we did NOT find quality dildos, we DID find Miko, though, so it was a win over all. Tonight we have Steph Berman with us, creator of The Semenette, the best ejaculating dildo I've ever seen, to talk with us about simulacrum genitals.

We spoke at length about the original mission of The Semenette, to provide a way for partners to conceive and still connect in a sexy and fun way, and opened up to possibilities of users and partners playing in safe and non procreative ways; pegging, cum play, new ways for those with erectile dysfunction to still experience the pleasure of ejaculating on and in someone... it's a very versatile dildo.

Direct download: swingset207.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:32am CDT

We're back with more Swinging basics in our Swinging for Dummies series! Full Swap and Soft Swap are the two main classifications of swinging, with full swap including traditional PIV/PIA ( penis in vagina/penis in anus ) sex and soft swap not. Tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast, we're going to be talking about the decision making that can lead you from one classification to another, as well as the benefits and drawbacks of both. But, you know, sexy like.

 

Also… Take a listen to The Drifters – Save the Last Dance For Me!

Direct download: swingset206.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 10:09am CDT

We hit the jackpot when it comes to voicemail questions in this episode. In fact, our voicemailbag runneth over. The Swingset crew gathers around to listen to your questions this time around. The crew tackle questions about humans being suited for monogamy, use of alcohol in the lifestyle, defense of the no kissing rule in the lifestyle, even the use of the term "the lifestyle." There's also a special treat for you, Swingsetters. Enjoy the song "Sock Puppet" by the band Sticky Biscuits. An awesome song about fisting. 

Keeping calling in with those voicemail questions. We'd love to do more Gang Bang The VoicemailBag episodes.

Direct download: swingset205v2.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 3:16pm CDT

So many people don’t know what they want or need sexually. Discovering those wants and needs can be a difficult process without some sexual sherpa to guide them. Then they need to be able to turn those wants into requests, so they can get all the hedonistic delight they deserve as members of the human race. Cooper Beckett, Ginger Bentham, Dylan Thomas, & Miko Technogeisha, hosts of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast, bring you a live interactive discussion about figuring out what you want, and how to ask for it.

We cover self-exploration, defining and exploring boundaries, communicating desire and being attentive, as well as open the floor up to audience questions and stories.

Direct download: swingset204v2.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 12:26pm CDT

Hazy insanity, that is all.

"It's like Goldschlager, you want to see the chunks."

"When I'm rubbing lube on your cock, I just want to, feel the chunks."

let me google that for you: pig penis

"Is Ginger now the other white meat?" - J.V.

Tom Ridge's Color Coding System for Swingset Podcasts "I've got a code brown."

Cooper's Leetspeak needs some help, thought "FTW" meant "fuck the world" #oldmancooper

"Obviously we are all down with OPP." "Other people's pork?" (Ginger wtf)

"I asked Gillian Anderson out... on twitter." - Ginger

"We did white privilege roleplay." - Miko

 

You can find this and other bedcasts at lifeontheswingset.com/whatthefuck

Dylan as Tom Cruise on Oprah's Couch lifeontheswingset.com/14993/ss-111-in-bed-with-the-swingset-ii-recorded-live-at-catalystcon-east/

Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything!

Join us on our trip to Desire in 2015, where we're going, we don't need clothes!

Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at MyLotSS.com

Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

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Direct download: swingset203.mp3
Category:Swingset -- posted at: 1:43pm CDT